To have a go at my partner for buying me chocolate?

[Sundaycoffee]

I've expressed to him how unhappy I am with my weight multiple times within the past couple of months. He's been on holiday for 3 weeks and in that time I've managed to lose 6 pounds which I was really happy with.
He's returned home for my birthday. I told him I would enjoy my day (one nice meal out) then get back on the wagon straight away.
Cue him turning up at my door with two big boxes of chocolates. Really I'm annoyed at myself for not having the willpower and restraint to stop myself from eating them and I've just scoffed a load of them on the sofa and feel bloody awful! I know he's doing it as a nice gesture but it also feels like he isn't listening/supporting me.
He said he bought them as its my birthday "week" so i can eat what i want. I tried to explain that if I ate whatever I wanted for a week the near half a stone that I've spent 3 weeks trying to lose would be back in an instant!
Now I'm feeling guilty and ungrateful and probably a bit unreasonable but it doesn't feel like he's taking me seriously....
I just don't understand why you would turn up at the door with two huge boxes of chocolates for someone you know is trying to build healthier habits?

Kindly, nobody made you “scoff a load of them”.

Exercise some self restraint and have one or two at a time. Maybe have one with a tea or coffee as a treat - but I think it’s important not to deny yourself certain foods, otherwise you’re more likely to binge if they’re in front of you.

I wouldn’t “have a go” at him for trying to do something nice for you.

He’s just doing what many would do and give chocolates and treats on your birthday.

Put them in the freezer

Sabotage. He doesn't want you to be slimmer ~ because you would then be more confident.

My DP once admitted if I'm doing well on a diet he will deliberately offer to treat me to my favourite takeaway. Dastardly! We have a running joke now where I'll just say "sabotage" to him if he tries anything. All this, he did a nice thing, stuff is bollocks but undoubtedly he will claim innocence!

Did he explain why he does this? Is it only weight loss he tries to make you to fail at, or is it other things too?

You took it very well I have to say, making it into a joke. I think I'd be quite upset myself.

It's only important to you, other people will get confused, they're not in your head and they don't know your mind. He just has a template of treating someone equals a nice thing to do. Your responsibility, not his. It's a nightmare these days, all my family myself included, don't eat chocolate, don't drink alcohol.