Bringing toddler out in the rain

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Just started a new nanny position. Mother of the child (20 months) is quite insistent that he should be brought out twice a day even if its raining. He has rain gear, I do not. Just arrived this morning to be told he loves the library, its only a 30 minute walk each way, it's lashing rain here. I said if it eases of later I will get out with him. Questioned me yesterday if we went to the park. Has sent me numerous groups, all of which are at least 20 minutes walk away, not allowed take him out in the car. Where they live is also quite hilly and buggy isn't the best.

Mam seems to walk everywhere and always has her rain gear on. AIBU to not want to go out twice a day when the weather is bad.

... Don't you go to work then? Or do you have a time machine or something??

How is the parent supposed to be at work and at home looking after their child at the same time?

How is a person supposed to be at work at 9, but also be at a school at 9.for drop off? How are they supposed to be at work until 5, but also be at the school at 3:30 to collect their child...?

who said they should still go out in the middle of a hurricane? 😂

Ffs. Yes yes. Mums of mumsnet dragging their kids out during Storm Eowyn dodging falling trees, loose roof tiles and ignoring weather warnings.

Don't be ridiculous. Of course there is bad weather.

Desperate to find a stick to hear someone with aren't you

Gently, it's your responsibility to make sure that you can fulfil your role. That includes having appropriate outdoor clothes in case it's raining.

Just wear a raincoat, OP. If you actually melt on contact with rainwater, you should have said so at interview.

Walking 20 minutes to the library, isn't the same as being rained on for 6 hours...

We own a car, but still have raincoats. Otherwise you'd be very limited to what you could do. And all the indoor stuff generally costs money! But puddle jumping, walking etc all freeeeeee.

If you don't like the job then go to another family. The family pays you as a nanny. Being outdoor in rain isn't a real thing to complain over. Lots of kids in forest kindergardens are outdoor every day for hours with the staff.

the thread is about "the rain".

I am sure you can see the difference between "bad weather" and "life threatening weather" if you try hard enough...

@strawberrycrumbles

who said they should still go out in the middle of a hurricane? 😂
Errrr. Lots of people. Just read.

'There is no bad weather. Only bad clothes' Is being repeated over and over. Such a stupid comment. Like I said. People love speaking in absolutes.

There is bad weather. There is weather too bad to go out with a toddler. People just refuse to admit this. So yes they are saying go out in any weather. Even a howling fake and a hurricane apparently.

If that's not what they mean then they should say so. Not just say the OP is U as there is no such thing as bad weather 🙄

Ugly rain clothes? Oh, the horror!

In what way is walking children to the library in rain comparable to an all-day outdoor physically-demanding manual job?

I really don't see the big deal at all. My kids' nurseries go out in all weather and I think it's brilliant.
We had the dentist this morning, also lashing ice rain here. Wasn't ideal but we had to. 15 minute walk. I have a 4.5 year old and a just turned 2 year old. On the way home, they had a grand time running through the puddles.

This made me laugh as well. I live in Germany and it's standard here to have rain clothes. I now wouldn't do it any differently and bring all their rain stuff when I come back to visit home (Scotland).

If the weather is really miserable I think going out twice a day is a bit much but I definitely think you should be going out once a day. I certainly don't think it's unreasonable of the mum to want her child outside and walking as much as possible. There's a huge expectation/emphasis from schools/nurseries now on getting lot's of outdoor time so

I didn't say the mother should do both, I said she should not place unreasonable demands on her childcare provider. I actually think it's pretty cunty of her not to let her nanny drive because things are "within walking distance". Yeah, lots of things are but it's still easier to drive sometimes. To be clear, I am not shaming the mother for working, I am shaming her for treating her nanny like she owns her. She can't dictate how she gets from A to B.

Years ago, I was a nanny for a couple of years. I quite agree with you. I gave up one job where the mother expected me to walk everywhere with her whiny toddler, who hated walking as much as I did.

I don't mind going out in the rain, though. But not long walks in it, dragging a reluctant toddler.

I think you should have found this out at interview, although I didn't!

You're going to end up leaving. I did.

@strawberrycrumbles

Comments on here...

She's not unreasonable to want her child taken out in all weathers

I would definitely want him to get out doors regardless of weather

All kids should be outdoors, whatever the weather

There is no such thing as bad weather only bad clothes

children need to be out regardless of the weather conditions

Either stupid people or people with a very limited understanding of the variations in weather.
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I have no idea what 'lashings of rain' might mean to the OP but it is what I would describe gusty hard horizontal rain lashing in at force. Yeah. No one with half a brain is going out for a 30 min walk in that.

Get a rain coat, or even ask her to get you one as the only reason you need it is for your job she should provide it

Correction, insulting all the working parents who dictate how their nannies can transport their children to the library.

There is no such things as bad weather, just bad clothes 😀

Yes YABU, you are paid to do a job and you should know working in childcare involves going outdoors in all kinds of weather. I've worked in nursery's and we were expected to go outside with the children in all weathers. I have children myself and also take them out in any weather. If you were my nanny I'd be considering a replacement.

This made me smile - my kids did nursery in the Swedish system where parents complained if their child wasn't out of doors for 4-6 hours per day ... longer in summer.

Rain, shine deep snow ... out you go!

The 1-2 year olds had restricted time when it got to the minus 25C range and the pram naps outdoors were restricted at minus 20(ish) ... although they put them in their prams in the playroom and opened the windows!

you are being ridiculous on purpose, I am not sure what point you are trying to make?

No need to spell out every single details, no one has said or implied you should brave a hurricane.

Where did you get that the OP was requested to go out in life-threatening weather? 😂 Posters use.. COMMON SENSE, you seem to be lacking of?

I would tell her if its torrential rai. Your taking the car to group