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What's your thoughts on asylum seekers?

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Lynds778 · 28/01/2025 09:09

I'm all for offering asylum to those genuinely in need but I've seen a lot of negative media recently around 'fake' asylum seekers; people pretending to be from war-torn countries etc to gain entry to the country. Also videos of men giving advice for future asylum seekers on where to say you're from so that you can get in.

Also seen a lot of uproar from local communities about asylum seekers behaving anti-socially, most recently hanging around outside a primary school in Deanshanger and it's got me worried.
I'm also wondering why the large majority of asylum seekers are men and there are less women and children?

So, what's your opinion?

Also, this isn't a racist post. I would have the exact same concerns if these were white asylum seekers from Germany for example. The worry is the system is being abused by some and that we are a bit too lax when it comes to documentation and monitoring of asylum seekers.

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14058597/Fake-asylum-seekers-conning-way-Britain-telling-Home-Office-war-torn-Eritrea-bragging-thousands-followers-TikTok.html

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14185169/amp/Four-asylum-seekers-costing-taxpayer-estimated-160-000-year-living-575-000-luxury-home-accused-faking-Afghan-nationalities-UK.html

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Daisychainsforme · 02/02/2025 13:14

username299 · 02/02/2025 13:03

Name a country with no misogyny - I'll pack a bag.

Define "misogyny" as it seems to mean all things to all people.

username299 · 02/02/2025 13:19

Daisychainsforme · 02/02/2025 13:14

Define "misogyny" as it seems to mean all things to all people.

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You seem to be arguing that we shouldn't take asylum seekers from countries with human rights abuses.

I pointed out that asylum seekers are people fleeing human rights abuses.

You're now asking me to define misogyny. Violence Against Women and Girls is an example of misogyny. There aren't any countries in the world without VAWAG.

GoldFishPocketWatch · 02/02/2025 13:24

username299 · 02/02/2025 13:19

You seem to be arguing that we shouldn't take asylum seekers from countries with human rights abuses.

I pointed out that asylum seekers are people fleeing human rights abuses.

You're now asking me to define misogyny. Violence Against Women and Girls is an example of misogyny. There aren't any countries in the world without VAWAG.

I looked into this quite extensively, analysed publicly available crime statistics and demographic data when loads of stats (with no citations) were being posted on X linking vawg to immigrant populations.

Guess what? Immigrants do not disproportionately commit VAWG.

VAWG is a men's issue. Perpetrators are very much just MEN of all backgrounds.

username299 · 02/02/2025 13:35

GoldFishPocketWatch · 02/02/2025 13:24

I looked into this quite extensively, analysed publicly available crime statistics and demographic data when loads of stats (with no citations) were being posted on X linking vawg to immigrant populations.

Guess what? Immigrants do not disproportionately commit VAWG.

VAWG is a men's issue. Perpetrators are very much just MEN of all backgrounds.

You also won't be surprised to know that VAWAG is higher than average in Nordic countries which are, apparently, the most equal.

VAWAG is perhaps more open in some lower income countries and hidden in more advanced economies. We know that sexual abuse for example, is vastly underreported.

America is meant to be an advanced country and domestic abuse is through the roof (and they have child marriage). When I lived in less developed economies, I noted that Western men took advantage of inequality.

GoldFishPocketWatch · 02/02/2025 13:39

username299 · 02/02/2025 13:35

You also won't be surprised to know that VAWAG is higher than average in Nordic countries which are, apparently, the most equal.

VAWAG is perhaps more open in some lower income countries and hidden in more advanced economies. We know that sexual abuse for example, is vastly underreported.

America is meant to be an advanced country and domestic abuse is through the roof (and they have child marriage). When I lived in less developed economies, I noted that Western men took advantage of inequality.

I did not know that about Nordic countries. I will have to do some research.

username299 · 02/02/2025 13:42

GoldFishPocketWatch · 02/02/2025 13:39

I did not know that about Nordic countries. I will have to do some research.

Despite leading the world in gender equality, Nordic countries exhibit the 'Nordic paradox,' with intimate partner violence (IPV) rates against women substantially higher than the EU average—32% in Denmark, 30% in Finland, 28% in Sweden, and 22.4% in Iceland, compared to the EU's average of 22%.
https://unric.org

Welcome to the United Nations in Europe

Department of Global Communications | United Nations

https://unric.org

Daisychainsforme · 02/02/2025 13:47

@GoldFishPocketWatch VAWG is a men's issue. Perpetrators are very much just MEN of all backgrounds.

That's funny because someone just told me that Female Genital Mutilation is carried out mainly by women.🤔

yetagai · 02/02/2025 15:31

Daisychainsforme · 02/02/2025 13:08

@yetagai Can we agree, though, that national borders as currently constituted are immoral - and make all reasonable (and feasible) efforts to dismantle them because of that?

No we can't.

That's a crackpot idea.

The border of the Isle of Man is the Irish Sea. Are you saying we should remove it by draining said area of water or putting road bridges across it to England, Ireland, Scotland & Wales?

Really?🙄

You misunderstand. (I suppose my 'as currently constituted' might have been doing more work than I realised). It's not the borders as such that need dismantling. The Lancashire-Cumbria border does no harm, essentially I suppose because there's no passport requirement there (and so on). The England-France border, on the other hand ...

Hmm?

yetagai · 02/02/2025 15:33

OneAmberFinch · 02/02/2025 13:09

I disagree with that, but I don't have an issue with a moral framework that rates people close to me as higher in importance / more deserving of my resources than people far away from me. I actually think I have more of an obligation to help them because who else is going to?

There's a distinction between a theoretical "every child is one of God's children" kind of equality, and the actual practical question of who I give my money to. I've spent hundreds or thousands on my own baby this year. Over my whole lifetime I've probably given MAXIMUM that amount to charities for children in Africa.

If I spent an equal amount of money on my child as every other child in the whole world, i.e. let's say £5k divided by however many billion children, I would rightly have my child taken away by social services.

Sure, I see how we have greater (and different) love and care obligations and so on to family and people close to us.

That doesn't seem to entail we should deny free movement of people, though. Nor does it seem to allow discrimination based on arbitrary characteristics such as skin colour etc.

There's an argument to be made. But the start seems (naively, as I allowed) to rest on barring discrimination on moral grounds.

Do you think your love for your child allows any kind of racism, morally speaking? Surely not. But if you're disallowing that genre of discrimination, how does discrimination based on place of birth come to be justified? This all seems to one side of familial obligation/care, no?

squidgie · 02/02/2025 15:36

GoldFishPocketWatch · 02/02/2025 12:16

Asylum seekers have a incredibly small impact on finance and public services in the UK. Most are not eligible for public funds. False asylum claims are a vanishing small issue for this country.

The right wing press like to make what is a very small issue into a huge issue in order to cause division.

The press are careful to ignore all nuance and blame the struggles of our public services and rising economic challenges on "immigrants", while acting like "immigrants" are all people pretending to be asylum seekers and stealing public funds, housing, jobs. All of those things are factually incorrect.

The only reason why the press push the hatred of asylum seekers, "illegal immigrants", "immigrants", "small boats" is because so many people in this country are gullible enough to follow this line of thinking and blame the scapegoat for the collapse of our economy and public services. Rather than looking at what's really happening - the rich are growing richer and public services can't compete. The rich own politics and the media. Elon Musk is a shining example and look how hard he is pushing the hatred of immigrants. It's easy to rile up hatred and division so that everyone blames each other for taking the things they need, rather than looking to the super rich who are endlessly building and hoarding resources and wealth for themselves.

This.

EasternStandard · 02/02/2025 15:40

Daisychainsforme · 02/02/2025 13:08

@yetagai Can we agree, though, that national borders as currently constituted are immoral - and make all reasonable (and feasible) efforts to dismantle them because of that?

No we can't.

That's a crackpot idea.

The border of the Isle of Man is the Irish Sea. Are you saying we should remove it by draining said area of water or putting road bridges across it to England, Ireland, Scotland & Wales?

Really?🙄

Can we agree, though, that national borders as currently constituted are immoral - and make all reasonable (and feasible) efforts to dismantle them because of that?

This is not going to work. You'd have chaos and territorial fighting. More than we have now

Daisychainsforme · 02/02/2025 15:50

@squidgie Rather than looking at what's really happening - the rich are growing richer and public services can't compete. The rich own politics and the media. Elon Musk is a shining example and look how hard he is pushing the hatred of immigrants. It's easy to rile up hatred and division so that everyone blames each other for taking the things they need, rather than looking to the super rich who are endlessly building and hoarding resources and wealth for themselves.

The UK tax system is already top heavy. The top one per cent pay 30 per cent of all income tax revenues: a higher share than at any time in past twenty years. In other words, three in every ten pounds that the government receives in income tax is paid by just over 300,000 individuals. Not surprisingly, this statistic is often quoted by those who argue that the rich cannot be asked to pay more.

Record numbers of millionaires have fled Britain since Labour came to power due to high taxes and the impending end of non-dom status.

While the UK's tax take may be on the rise, there are plenty of locations looking to attract wealthy individuals with so-called golden visas in return for investment in government projects as well as businesses or residential developments.
One of the most popular locations is the United Arab Emirates (UAE).

GoldFishPocketWatch · 02/02/2025 16:08

Daisychainsforme · 02/02/2025 15:50

@squidgie Rather than looking at what's really happening - the rich are growing richer and public services can't compete. The rich own politics and the media. Elon Musk is a shining example and look how hard he is pushing the hatred of immigrants. It's easy to rile up hatred and division so that everyone blames each other for taking the things they need, rather than looking to the super rich who are endlessly building and hoarding resources and wealth for themselves.

The UK tax system is already top heavy. The top one per cent pay 30 per cent of all income tax revenues: a higher share than at any time in past twenty years. In other words, three in every ten pounds that the government receives in income tax is paid by just over 300,000 individuals. Not surprisingly, this statistic is often quoted by those who argue that the rich cannot be asked to pay more.

Record numbers of millionaires have fled Britain since Labour came to power due to high taxes and the impending end of non-dom status.

While the UK's tax take may be on the rise, there are plenty of locations looking to attract wealthy individuals with so-called golden visas in return for investment in government projects as well as businesses or residential developments.
One of the most popular locations is the United Arab Emirates (UAE).

Income tax isn't the only issue. Public money going into the pockets of private companies, public sector struggling to attain or retain assets due to competition with the super rich, private sector offering more competitive pay, etc etc, there are loads of ways in which wealth inequality shows up and impacts us all.

If those fleeing millionaires had such benevolent feelings about how they'd use their wealth to benefit the country why are they running away re: non Dom status?

OneAmberFinch · 02/02/2025 16:09

yetagai · 02/02/2025 15:33

Sure, I see how we have greater (and different) love and care obligations and so on to family and people close to us.

That doesn't seem to entail we should deny free movement of people, though. Nor does it seem to allow discrimination based on arbitrary characteristics such as skin colour etc.

There's an argument to be made. But the start seems (naively, as I allowed) to rest on barring discrimination on moral grounds.

Do you think your love for your child allows any kind of racism, morally speaking? Surely not. But if you're disallowing that genre of discrimination, how does discrimination based on place of birth come to be justified? This all seems to one side of familial obligation/care, no?

You accept that it's ethical to provide more resources to people close to you, right?

I see open borders as a resource allocation exercise, since we live in a distributive welfare state. That is, part of my salary via taxes goes to support people who are physically in Britain, which includes an increasing number of immigrants via various different pathways. In practice, we have seen that immigrants from non-selective pathways consume more resources than they provide.

To help me understand your position: is it that you accept that it's moral to provide more resources to close family members rather than sharing equally, but you don't see why open borders necessarily means sharing resources? (i.e. you think I'm overstating the negative economic impact, and that immigrants "grow the pie" so to speak?)

Or is it that you see any differential allocation of resources as being discriminatory, point blank?

DeadSpace3 · 02/02/2025 16:35

Deport them all. End of.

username299 · 02/02/2025 16:39

DeadSpace3 · 02/02/2025 16:35

Deport them all. End of.

Where to?

Daisychainsforme · 02/02/2025 16:42

@GoldFishPocketWatch If those fleeing millionaires had such benevolent feelings about how they'd use their wealth to benefit the country why are they running away re: non Dom status?

I've no idea.
Maybe they are fed up with shouldering most of the tax burden?

Why not ask your MP to raise a question in parliament?

NancyKnickers · 02/02/2025 16:49

I don't see how taking them in (especially young adult men) benefits us as a nation.

GoldFishPocketWatch · 02/02/2025 16:56

Daisychainsforme · 02/02/2025 16:42

@GoldFishPocketWatch If those fleeing millionaires had such benevolent feelings about how they'd use their wealth to benefit the country why are they running away re: non Dom status?

I've no idea.
Maybe they are fed up with shouldering most of the tax burden?

Why not ask your MP to raise a question in parliament?

I'd rather (and in fact, do) lobby for things that are more important to me than the feelings of tax avoidant multimillionaires

squidgie · 02/02/2025 17:53

Daisychainsforme · 02/02/2025 15:50

@squidgie Rather than looking at what's really happening - the rich are growing richer and public services can't compete. The rich own politics and the media. Elon Musk is a shining example and look how hard he is pushing the hatred of immigrants. It's easy to rile up hatred and division so that everyone blames each other for taking the things they need, rather than looking to the super rich who are endlessly building and hoarding resources and wealth for themselves.

The UK tax system is already top heavy. The top one per cent pay 30 per cent of all income tax revenues: a higher share than at any time in past twenty years. In other words, three in every ten pounds that the government receives in income tax is paid by just over 300,000 individuals. Not surprisingly, this statistic is often quoted by those who argue that the rich cannot be asked to pay more.

Record numbers of millionaires have fled Britain since Labour came to power due to high taxes and the impending end of non-dom status.

While the UK's tax take may be on the rise, there are plenty of locations looking to attract wealthy individuals with so-called golden visas in return for investment in government projects as well as businesses or residential developments.
One of the most popular locations is the United Arab Emirates (UAE).

The UK tax system is already top heavy.

It really, really isn't. Many countries, including mine, have a far more progressive tax systems where the highest earners pay way more than 30% tax.

Daisychainsforme · 02/02/2025 19:04

username299 · 02/02/2025 16:39

Where to?

Uzbikistan - plenty of room there !

Mimilamore · 03/02/2025 17:55

It's the bloody system at fault. Needs a rapid overhaul so genuine asylum seekers get the shelter and support they need and the chancers are weeded out...
In my experience ( education) the AS were very grateful for all that was offered, valued education and were polite and respectful...... which is more than I can say for SOME of the entitled, ill mannered and ignorant indigenous parents.

Papyrophile · 10/02/2025 20:20

UmbrellaEllaEllaElla · 28/01/2025 09:17

I just don't understand why other wealthy countries like Dubai, Saudi Arabia etc dont take more in.

Because they don't wish to destabilise their carefully selected contributing useful migrant workers with a shedload of grudge-bearing people who support the Muslim Brotherhood/Hamas or Hezbollah.

It may be an unpopular opinion, but the Gulf Arab states are and can afford to be sniffy about the educational qualifications and political preferences of anyone moving there. You need a job, with a sponsor, and a work permit. And if you lose any of them, you have no right to remain.

SpryCat · 11/06/2025 07:52

Where I live, we have a lovely park where children love to play on, dog walkers go and people cut through to go to the nearby hospital. A group of non speaking english, men are camping out in the trees and shrubbery. A few times if a woman is alone, walking, has been accosted, following them and the women have had to run to escape. There are wild animals that are being found, attacked and killed for food, you can’t warn anyone on FB groups as the posts are being rejected as racist. Imagine if anything happened to a child and the parents found out, they could have been pre warned and told their child not to play there.

username299 · 11/06/2025 09:28

Papyrophile · 10/02/2025 20:20

Because they don't wish to destabilise their carefully selected contributing useful migrant workers with a shedload of grudge-bearing people who support the Muslim Brotherhood/Hamas or Hezbollah.

It may be an unpopular opinion, but the Gulf Arab states are and can afford to be sniffy about the educational qualifications and political preferences of anyone moving there. You need a job, with a sponsor, and a work permit. And if you lose any of them, you have no right to remain.

It's well known that those countries use slave labour, deny them rights and treat them appallingly. They're hardly carefully selected.

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