To think it’s really annoying when ppl make unannounced visits

[empee47]

Particularly on a Sunday afternoon? Husband out, finally got both kids round table to do homework, nipped to loo, relatives came in and sat down and are wanting entertained. I’ve had to drop everything. Oh we won’t stop long - they’ve been here for an hour already 🙈

I'd be saying thanks for stopping by but we have plans...... really annoying though

Most people hate this so when it happens I always assume they really need to see me for something reason. Perhaps lonely. Perhaps bad news they want to share.

How did this happen? Do they have a key? Take it back!! Then you just don’t answer the door if it’s inconvenient.

YANBU. I hate it too. It's usually my parents. They don't seem to grasp that I may be at home but I work from home. Other family members do it a bit too, but with 10 or 15 minutes notice in a "oh we'll be passing you soon, so we'll stop by. Won't stay long". 2 hours later.......

I don't allow unannounced visitors. I've told everyone I know that I need advance notice.

My in-laws were a bit perplexed as they all have an open door policy, but I was firm and they were fine about it (apart from some slightly passive aggressive joking).

I understand some people don't mind, but I do. And it's an okay boundary to have.

Did they just let themselves in while you were in the toilet? If so, that's really rude.

Within reason, I actually don’t mind. My in laws in particular love to just randomly appear! The people who pop in to see us don’t tend to take the piss though, that probably makes all the difference!

YANBU I don’t like it. Mostly because my house can get quite messy by the weekend and we tend to lie in and lounge about a bit unless we know we have visitors or plans. I’m not show home ready for guests at all times!

Yes

No, door was unlocked, they saw the kids sitting in the kitchen, tapped on the window and let themselves in while I was in the loo.

They opened the door from the outside and walked in? You need to up your home security.

People used to do this all the time, especially before the ease of text messaging. PIL's used to especially, usually when in the middle of having dinner or about to go out or something. I don't think there is any excuse anymore with at least sending a text asking if it's convenient.

Tell your kids not to do that

I'm from Ireland this is completely normal over there just let yourselves in and pop by whenever you want. I have had it a few times and I don't like it if I'm in my pj's relaxing or the house is messy, I do prefer notice

Just don't let them in. Tell them if they wish to visit they need to text first.

Everybody knows not to do this with me.

However, none of us would do this. It's so easy to text.

Most people don't hate this . I love unexpected guests.

OP they are family, just get on with what needs to be done after making them a cuppa.

My in-laws used to do this until I opened the door in my pjs and looked at them in complete shock and made them feel uncomfortable and awkward. They usually ring now.

The fact that you love it doesn’t mean that most people don’t hate it, though. The voting and comments would indicate that most people agree with the OP.

God I hate it. HATE IT!! I need days notice ! Weeks 😂 even then I’ll try to cancel.
I love seeing people but generally out of the house. I don’t know why, but my home is very much my sanctuary.
Our friends used to pop around sometimes, and I remember we’d hide. I know this isn’t “normal”

This has honestly never happened to me. I don’t know anyone who would think it was an acceptable thing to do. And for that, I am thankful.

Just as well it was someone safe that just walked into your house and sat with your children isn’t it???!!!

I don’t know anyone who would leave their kids that vulnerable. Anyway, all you have to do is lock the door properly. Then ignore them.

OMG this is so something all my family do and not a problem. Anyone is welcome anytime if I am not in they are welcome to come in make a cup of tea use the loo whatever. I would be offended if they didn't think they could do this. I am older and live in a small village though. I don't even lock my door when I go out, if I get burglars they will be disappointed but I hope they do a spring clean whilst they are at it.

I absolutely agree. I hate people being in my house. It puts me on edge 😂 I'd much rather meet else where. Don't know why I'm like it

My friend randomly turned up last weekend - no warning, was in the area and thought she'd call in. Except dh and l were trying to fix the car and it was late so nearly dark and it wasn't going well so we were arguing too and just was a terrible moment for her to be standing on my drive wanting a catch up.
I felt bad cos l didn't even offer her a cuppa but we had plans the next week to meet up. If she'd have text first l could habe said not a good time.