Going away on my own is this ok

[Orchidsunlight]

Ok I was the peri menopause post wanting to be alone etc booked my night away in a Travelodge this week , had a lovely time wandering about, 2 course meal, wine, breakfast all for £60. Husband is fantastic and says if we can afford, why not do it once a month to give me the time and space i need. Is this normal and ok to do this, and does anyone else do this?

and yes ive booked for next month for £60 :)

I have no mum guilt whatsoever. I took myself off to Madrid alone for five days at New Year and had a glorious time.

Whatever you need. Sounds great! Maybe look for spa hotel deals and treat yourself a bit more! I'm live a work trip for r&r (or ironically). It means uninterrupted early nights for me!

yes dh said that but i worry about money as i am sole earner , i may see if i can work my way up to a spa hotel later this year , that would be a dream x

Absolutely go for it! I book 2 nights in a gorgeous boutique B&B in the tourist town I was brought up up in and spend the time catching up with relatives & just bus hopping on a cheap day ticket to go for walks & visit old haunts.In the evenings I touch base with DH and DD (she pops in to check on him daily) before going out for a meal to a lovely restaurant,on my own,and where they know me and look after me. I have a king-sized bed and get a full English breakfast cooked for me and it's great!

I've already got my next trip organised for when the B&B reopens after the Winter break and can't wait.I've always enjoyed travelling on my own and just wandering where the mood takes me.

DH is fully supportive,and understands that I still need a break and a change of scenery though he can't travel much anymore.

If you’re the sole earner, it’s surely all the more important for you to schedule regular times for relaxation so you don’t burn out?

@Orchidsunlight you can get some cheap spa deals so you might get something with the same budget.

This is what I do!

Yes definitely! It's also really enriching to spend time with yourself. I find if I don't do this every so often me and my DH accidentally start becoming a single entity

Fuck em

You're a champ OP, I bloody love your idea!

I do this all the time. My Christmas or birthday request is always a night away alone! When I had twin toddlers and was exhausted DH sent me to Spain for 3 nights, best present ever. My BIL and his wife do a holiday separately every year but it's usually golf or skiing plus a joint one. Some people do find it strange but I've never let that bother me.

Omg yanbu, I would love to do this!

Sounds wonderful, OP! Enjoy!

Brilliant ! Are you visiting different places whilst you are doing this ? Travel Lodge / Premier Inns can be very good value . The price of a lot of hotels can be ridiculous, although it's always worth checking prices, and you can sometimes get spa deals on Groupon etc

You also get free Wi-Fi at Premier Inn instead of just a free half-hour at Travelodge.

I think I'd do every other month and get somewhere nicer than a Travelodge with a pool etc. I've never had a good night sleep in a Travelodge so wouldn't enjoy it personally.

I can only afford to do it twice a year but is great .

This is AIBU, where if you asked “AIBU to say that water is wet?” the stirrers would pop up to say YABU :-)

To be fair, the OP is kind of asking the equivalent of "Is water wet?" 😁

"Your husband is wonderful" etc....

Bollocks, husband is watching footy / film / at pub / enjoying his own peace! Well played hubby, well played.

If everyone is happy why not. I am 57 live alone and book the odd night away.
Why not.
I'm sure hubby kicks back has the tv to himself and sleeps well too.

So why are those few people saying no it isn't? AIBU attracts people who just want to be nasty.

Because as I said earlier, "Some people will vote YABU when an OP asks what they consider to be a ridiculous question."

I've seen people admit to it and the OP has two threads now asking exactly the same question and getting exactly the same answers.