Going away on my own is this ok

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Ok I was the peri menopause post wanting to be alone etc booked my night away in a Travelodge this week , had a lovely time wandering about, 2 course meal, wine, breakfast all for £60. Husband is fantastic and says if we can afford, why not do it once a month to give me the time and space i need. Is this normal and ok to do this, and does anyone else do this?

and yes ive booked for next month for £60 :)

You're joking yeah?!

he can actually cook believe it or not! Id be the one with the microwave meal!!!

nice ! Unfortunately i can only afford travelodge atm so no pool but im happy for now ! enjoy your stay xx

youve found a perfect solution OP don’t start beating yourself up and worrying about it, just enjoy with your husband’s blessing. He sounds a nice chap.

I will be doing this soon op, I actually dream of it! I'm glad for you x

I jump on a plane to Majorca at least once a year for me time .,pool ,book,umbrella and wine ,bloody marvellous 🤩

I used to go away for a couple of nights every few months when DS was a toddler. DH used to work away a couple of days a week and he loved being 'just dad' for the weekend as much as I enjoyed having a bit of time to myself. DS didn't suffer.

I used to have a boss who went away for a week, skiing, every year with work. Her DH used to go away for a week fishing in the summer with his mates. She hated fishing, he hated skiing. So rather than argue or have a face like a smacked bum all week, they went separately. Then they'd have a couple of weeks together enjoying the sun - which they both loved.

You're happy, he's happy....where's the problem! Well done!

Good for you, OP! I had several weekends away alone last year and am planning more this year. I am mid 50s, peri and have health/mobility issues so I'm enjoying doing things while I still can. It's been brilliant! I've loved my times away and I feel much happier and more confident doing things alone. DH knows he can come with me or have his own weekends away if he wants to. He doesn't, but we are now also planning some trips together that we'll both enjoy. I don't feel guilty at all about going away alone. I've spent nearly 25 years looking after other people and only now am I in a position to do things for me. The kids (all young adults) know that DH is an introverted home body and are pleased that I'm finally doing things I enjoy, just like they do with their weekends. I'd say definitely keep having your nights away, OP, and don't feel guilty!

Of course it's OK! Why not go for a week next time? Or on a proper holiday? You don't need permission to live your life, OP - just live it.

thanks, my 20 somethings dont know I had my night away, i just felt too guilty as one of them would want to come, i will be honest and tell them next time

I used to go away with my sister all the time and DH didn't bother at all. It's very healthy thing to do.

Now, due to my disabilities, it's not really possible but gosh how I wish my DH would take himself away for a night. I'd love to have a night in by myself, order a takeaway and have an early night, so actually maybe it does him good too?

I need more details about this.....

OP - sounds fantastic - and oh tell me about the guilt for doing anything nice for yourself. I was r/s

yes, he loves to watch all his blokey programmes that i dont like ha ha

oh and fart away as much as he likes........:)

FABULOUS! 🙌

Oooh enjoy!

I live alone, but one day last year, I booked a night in a Travelodge which is literally two roads away. I was just desperate not to be in my house alone anymore. Bit pathetic, but it was a great reset!

i have booked up one for feb and one for march all a bargain £64 and £ 69 each, i am so excited and happy just what i needed

not pathetic at all xxxx

Yes, do it, but sorry, I couldn’t bare to stay in a Travelodge. For £60, you can find a lovely b&b or an Airbnb. Last time I stayed in a Travelodge, let’s just say there were lots of working ladies and I can’t quite seem to get it out of my head now. 😩

That sounds like bliss! Good on your dh for being so supportive.

it was lovely, the room nice and only a few business people staying , checked the reviews and the ones I have booked have good reviews and are in nice areas. I know some are a bit rough so avoid those.

I go away for 3 to 4 nights 4 times a year. I'm a carer for my son with high needs and my DH and I need the time out to help with burnout. We had an assessment done last week and it highlighted how much my DH is needing more and that I have severe burnout. Do it!

Totally normal. I used to stay at a Holiday Inn a couple of times a term when dd the dc were at uni. It combined me time with a visit.

I preferred a proper hotel to a B&B. I found a nicer one but it closed in covid and didn't reopen.

For the £10 you could go all out at tesco or m and s.. fancy yoghurt, fruit salad, juice, chocolate croissant... I take my coffee and cafetiere everywhere... always travelodge though.. comfy bed, great shower...borrow hairdryer.
Breakfast IN bed!!
Enjoy every moment!

As long as it's within your budget and both of you can have a similar priced treat then it's fine