To ask about your opinions on a 15 year age gap between kids?

[Hatherleigh]

This, really.!!

@OhCrumbsWhereNow if it was while I was at work no it was part of their contribution to family life like doing dishes etc and they did get pocket money.

For social stuff yes we always did.

11 years between my mum and her sister, they were close when younger, barely speak now.

I don’t see a problem with the age gap but selfishly I’d say it depends on the age of the parents! I’m 44 and my eldest is 15 and at my age I can’t think of anything worse than starting again, but if I’d had my son when I was younger I might consider it.

My parents had my youngest brother when I was 15. It was brilliant. We all adored him and he lightened all my teenage angst. He is now 33 and I count him as a one of my best friends. I had siblings in between though

That's approximately the age difference I have with my siblings. I'm not sure exactly what you want an opinion about. It is what it is. Pros and cons like any age gap.

Hey OP,

I don't see why a baby would be so disruptive. Presumably your eldest has their own room to study if they need peace and quiet (even if they don't you'd have baby with you presumably the first 6-12 months). Life doesn't go on hold just because you have exams this year.

I think the real question is :

• Do you want a baby enough to start over again ?
• Do you have the means to deal with the logistics (costs, space, planning, etc)

If the answer to both of these is yes, go for it.

If it's no, or not sure, then think about it a bit more.

The advantage of the large age gap is that your eldest will be very independant so it'll be much easier than if they were, say, eight, old enough to have completely different needs from the baby but young enough that they still need you a lot.

This said, if you go for it I'd try and be careful to check in with the eldest regularly to make sure their needs are met and they're not pushed aside for the baby.

Do think however that you're going back to committing yourself for the next two decades, so be very sure you're up to everything that entails - the drudgery as much as the fun moments.

There is 10 years between my first and my fourth son. So he’s now 23, youngest is 13 and I have 2 in the middle (14&19) and I feel like I’ve been parenting forever and I’m quite tired lol. My 2 eldest sons have siblings on their dads side youngest being 7 months old, so 22 years between her and my son which is madness his dad didn’t really parent him though so hopefully he gets it right for his ‘redo’ family I guess.

But no my son is nearly 15 and the thought of going back to broken nights, etc doesn’t appeal whatsoever. But everyone is different and if it’s something you want that’s different it’s tough having kids at different ages and stages to amuse them in holidays but teens often do their own thing, you still want them to feel included whilst you’re busy with a baby/toddler. My eldest absolutely dotes on his siblings, always has he was an amazing big brother when they were born and would happily hold one or play with them.