to be annoyed at the blardy silly woman who took faffing to a new level over splitting the bill at a restaurant this weekend??

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Oh god how embarrassing!
This happened at my dear SIL hen night. Her friends were a F*ing nightmare. They did not expect to pay for her meal and were only paying for what they had. My friend and I paid for her meal between us as we were so embarrassed.
We then went to a bar and me and friend were last in to find her friends with drinks ordered while dSIL was waiting to be served. They didn't even buy her a drink.
DSIL ended night in tears coming home with me and my friend .
Crap and rude and ridiculous. If I am having a tight month I either don't go out OR I order cheap things to keep the overall cost down a bit. Grr at them. Awful.

I utterly HATE this. I can't have it at all. Once went on a date (first and only one) with this guy who insisted not only on painstakingly calculating who owed what but even down to the coins - I mean not even rounding it off.

Oh yes agree drinkers stick a bit extra in if it is that much of a difference, or even better keep the drinks bill separate and pay it as you go!

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The thing is chequers, that I have come to a stage in my life where I am pretty sure that I don't want to be in social situations with someone who does this. As I said in my post, if I offend them, I won't lose sleep over it.

This type of thing is such a pain. Had it last year at end of school year dinner for mums and teachers. Some bright spark had idea of doing it with the other Yr 1 class. Thought initially good idea as 2 of my best friends were going. Wrong - other class has a large number of odd bods. The ones who insist on bringing husbands even though it is a girls' night.

We got there early and had a bottle of wine before everyone else arrived. Large table. Most people had a starter and a main or a main and a pudding.

People then started to want to leave at around 10pm and wanted to know "how much do we owe as we only had a salad and a water" - to which I commented loudly "why bloody come out then" to discover person asking question hoerving behind me. She still gives me daggers looks.

We paid for 3 bottles of wine between the 3 of us as we know we are bigger drinkers - people still moaned. It took an hour to sort and finally some of us just put in extra. the girl who was trying to sort it out was mortified.

Never again. This year - our class only. Set menu - priced 2 or 3 courses. Alcohol bill and soft drinks bill separately.

I hate this.
My friend kicked off big style once about splitting the bill equally because she had no had pudding and most other people had, even though she had managed to drink most of a bottle of wine to herself and others paying the equal share without fussing had not had drank at all. ARGH. She kept going on and on about it, I was embarrassed for her. Even now my mates refer to her as 'that one that made a fuss about the bill at your birthday' FFS!
Ironically she dumped her last boyfriend for being tight haha!

I have a friend like this.
Recently she came to a small party at ours and brought two bottles of wine. She opened one and said 'if anyone wants to share this it cost me £8.99 so we can work out how much you owe me now to save any trouble later'.

Lots of jaws dropped. Everyone stuck to the 'communal' wine.

at your story TDWP

This was taken to new levels when out with colleagues from work. One brought her dh. At the end they each whipped out calculators, worked out their individual totals to the penny and each paid their own amount separately. They were really offended when someone made a jokey comment about them being married but he wouldn't treat her to dinner (or something). They said that they earned separately and would jolly well pay their own way and only exactly for what they had consumed.

OMG TDWP! Presumably she won't be invited back?

The other extreme, which used t really annoy me when I worked as a waitress was when people argued over who was paying the whole bill. They would all want to and be thrusting credit cards at me whilst they argued amongst themselves.

Life is TOOOOOOO damn short for that!!!!

TDWP - Maybe your friend just wanted the whole bottle of wine to herself???? Amazing she has any friends / even wants to go to parties!!!!

hannahsaunt - I suppose if that's the way they safe on having arguements!

Oh yes, that was a pain too. I did quite like the type who would slip you 20 at the beginning of the night and tell you to make sure they got the bill

Buda she's an old friend and has always been like that. She'll divide taxi fairs down to the last penny, and calculate who owes less, i.e if they were picked up or dropped off first.

God it was like that when I went out with some mumsnetters lately - they were awful - even made me put in 10p extra - just because I had DHs credit card - tight arses!!

But where is this pea story? I must see it.

I would also always rather split the bill equally to save fuss, but my sister doesn't drink, but will never say anything, so I make a point of saying that she should just pay her share and then we will split the rest equally - it is only fair when one person isn't drinking, especially if others then take advantage of their soberness for a lift!!

Absolutely Kehla, I think everyone on this thread agrees that non drinkers shouldn't be ripped off.

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argh! this really gets my goat.
on my family hen night, we split the bill and my mum still harks back to it eleven years later because my aunt and cousin didn't have a pudding! this was in a Miller's Barn place by the way, not fricking Nobu or anything.

This does seem to bes woman thing. If I go out with male friends only we don't even discuss it - just split the bill equally.

What about going out with another family who have lots of money and 2 kids - that they always order too much food for - adult portions etc that the children don't eat and we {who are not rich} go with 1 kid who has kids meal deal with drinks incl. we don't drink alchol but other parents drink loads.
It is always embarressing at the end spliting the bill. What would you do?

I don't mind splitting the bill when I go out for a meal with friends or colleagues.
Except for one person who always always goes overboard when we agree to split the bill. We all have a 'normal' meal and drinks - she will have at least two extra courses, order the most expensive thing available and has even ordered food to take home (for her DH and kids) - then expects everyone else to chip in -I DON'T THINK SO