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AIBU to think this isn’t normal? (DP and sensitivity to nail varnish remover)

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WingingItFTM · 20/01/2025 20:05

Start to think i’m going mad and just wanting to sense check this…

Early evening I removed my nail varnish with nail varnish remover in our bathroom (normal nail varnish and remover - not gels or anything if it makes a difference). The bathroom door was open and the bathroom fan was on.

DP is really cross with me as I was due to give DS (4) a bath about 10 minutes later (in the bathroom obviously!) and he says I’m exposing DS to ‘really dangerous chemicals’ and shouldn’t be using it upstairs near DS’s room anyway’

He won’t let it drop and has been mentioning it on and off for the last hr and a half including;

  • sending me screenshots of websites referring to inhalation of high doses of acetone
  • telling me to get my ‘stinky fingers away from him
  • saying his eyes are stinging every time he walks near me (he wears contacts)

This is one thing in a very long list of things and I don’t want to dripfeed but in and of itself am i being unreasonable?

I know this is really minor but would love to know for my sanity!

YABU - your partner is right, this is really dangerous

YANBU - it is normal to remove nail varnish in a house with a child in it when he is in a neighbouring room

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fruitpastille · 21/01/2025 22:07

He sounds horrible. What kind of partner refuses to help out with cooking or whatever when their partner asks for support? Or shouts at them for using a bit of flash to mop the kitchen floor? You know this is not normal. Well done for seeking therapy - tell your family and friends what you have written here.

TotHappy · 21/01/2025 22:17

What? I've used acetone remover ON my 4 year old nails, and younger than that probably. It's nail varnish remover. It smells strong but it's fine.
He's an absolute bellend and I hope he is truly flabbergasted and bewildered when you leave him.
I hope you can get out safely with your little boy.

AMurderofMurderingCrows · 21/01/2025 22:52

What. A. Waste. Of. Space. That bastard is.

I'm so glad you're starting to see clearly now. The reason you sometimes don't know up from down is the gaslighting he's done previously and him just generally being an abusive arsehole.

You'll be so much happier without him ❤️

WingingItFTM · 23/01/2025 18:15

Thank you for all the kind responses.

i know there is plenty in my relationship which isn’t right - which i am working through in therapy

it’s good to know though that the way i think about some of these things is widely regarded as the ‘norm’, though i appreciate i could probably be more conscious of some sensory sensitivities

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