Family member dating new guy - Think I know him but not in a positive way

[darknights3]

I'm posting here as I have no idea what to do and need some advice please.

I've just caught up with a close family member (both busy with work so haven't seen or spoken since Christmas) and she's dating new man. She's not long come out of a toxic/unhealthy relationship and seems very excited by this new guy. They're suppose to be going away together this weekend. He seemed lovely, sensible, mature etc from what she described and I was really happy for her.

Anyway, she sent me a couple of photos of him and I recognised his face. I don't know him personally but I'm 90% sure I saw a post on social media, maybe around a year ago accusing him of speaking to under age girls (he's 37 I believe). I've searched and searched Facebook but I can't find the post anymore. I was going to post a photo of him on the "are we dating the same guy" page but my family member is in the group and will see it.

I'm concerned because she has 2 young daughters, both under 16. He also has kids! I've found his Facebook page and it does look like the same man but as I said I'm not 100% sure and I don't want to cause trouble or upset her if it's not him (or indeed not true because I know not everything on social media is true) but I can't just ignore it obviously.

What should I do? Is there any way for me to find out if this man has a criminal record / any red flags before telling my family member?

Just to add, I can't for the life of me remember who made the post last year otherwise I would message them to see if it's the same man.

I would make a Claire's Law application on her behalf. And let her find out anything via the police.

This is the best way. It is the best way to protect your friend and her kids, as well as being fair to this new man, he might well be an entirely innocent person

Pop his picture into Google and see if anything shows up

Claires law is the right thing to do - I'd be hesitant to be speaking to her unless you are sure but at least that way you are doing something about your concerns.

Yeah op, can you try a reverse image search?

I completely understand your predicamemt - if not than as others have said, a claires law

I don't think you can make a Claire's Law enquiry for someone else. You have the be the person involved.

Try to search but if you can't find anything just tell her what you know she can decide wether to look further

You can do a Clare's Law application regarding another person. The police won't give you any information, but if there is a history they will go and tell the relevant person

It's under the 'right to know' aspect of the law. When you ask for yourself it's under the 'right to ask'

Do you know, I would see what you can do with Claire's law and reverse image search, but ultimately I think I would tell her what you think you maybe saw.

Make clear you're not certain, you're bit accusing him, you couldn't find the post again etc etc. but I think push comes to shove it's better to let her know your concern and let her do her own investigations before introducing her children or continuing contact than not. She might not like it but it's better than potentially finding out the hard way if the accusation was correct.

Definitely think it over and try the suggestions on here but if that's your ultimate question, i would tell her.