To be annoyed at the lack of bathrooms

[Applecharm25]

I have my period. I can feel that i need to change my tampon.

I'm out walking round my city. There are no public bathrooms anywhere near me.

I see a sign for a bathroom in a small shopping centre near me. I walk in. The bathroom is actually in a shop. I'm told that the bathroom is only available for paying customers.

So now I have to get in a long queue and wait further and buy something while I really need to change my tampon.

Surely there should be better toilet services available.

Nail on head. 🤷

It's odd that in a city there is no toilet you can use.

Surely you could buy a coffee somewhere if you were desperate and use the loo there?

There aren’t that many bushes in city centres and they risk being arrested for indecency.

There is endless coffee shops which I’m sure people could use if necessary.

Supermarkets is another one I’ve nipped into.

There’s either no toilets or they are a mile walk away down the arse end of a shopping centre.

I'm probably going to end up banned at this rate, but yes, it's so obvious to me (and others) that this is highly likey. I wish MN would do more to weed out these obvious trolls and fetishistic men who come here for nefarious reasons.

Interesting!!

Madame Scarlett's knicker cleansing charms?

Well I have learnt something today. I assumed everyone took their tampon out, had a wee, and then put the new one in. That's been working for me all these years.

Maybe the OP will start another thread when she needs to release a chocolate hostage when she's out and about 😆😆

of course - you need a loo to change - would be very grim otherwise!!!

Not if the lock is fitted incorrectly (a left handed lock on a right handed door), and when I have raised this with businesses I have been told (on multiple occasions now) that they are aware of this and have done it intentionally to ensure they can always get in with their key.

Their solution... don't use your own key, they want you to use theirs, they only have one so if its already in use, you have to wait for that person to come out.

@Applecharm25 I'm going to call you out on this. If you' re genuine maybe you can say which city this is.

Those of us who need the loo a lot will be forewarned OR some posters will be able to point you in the right direction.

Obviously depends where you live. Here you can walk into John Lewis and M&S very easily and us their toilets. I could sneak into Spoons, Costa and a couple of independent cafes I use and get away with it. Public toilets are available in the main shopping centre bit, by the bus station and I know of toilets approx seven mins out if I needed them (one happens to be where we park the car so certainly walkable). A couple of them aren't great, but usable if you need.

Not to mention mindless vandalism

I’m with you OP, especially if you get the fear that you might be starting to leak! I’m pregnant and have to pee every 5 mins so not having bathrooms readily available pisses me off (pun intended). For periods my best advice is double up and invest in period pants (M&S do these well) so much less stress!

And plumbing for handwashing. Therefore, might as well just have more toilets.

How about Tena changing rooms 🤔

It's also not fair for anyone who's desperate not to be able to access a loo.

So it would be easier to fund A toilet that suits both rather than two separate rooms

Then I suggest that that is unusual.

And if you do need to do both you don't want to go from one room to another

Bloody (lol) hell, what a thread.

The nitpicking about the word bathroom is bizarre- if you're pedantic and literal enough to think that can only apply to a room with a bath in it, then using the word toilet to convey the room doesn't make much sense either unless you're planning to climb into the bowl. I would always ask where the bathroom is when out and about, not the toilet.

Fwiw I'm a woman and I don't always pee when I'm changing a tampon. Amazed that some people change theirs standing up, but we're all different and I wouldn't be so arrogant as to claim I know what all other women do based on my experience.

I have never seen a sign in a shop or pub or anywhere that says "bathrooms here" in the UK. The only place I've ever heard a toilet called a bathroom is in American films and TV. It's a toilet or a loo. And we don't need Americanisms taking over. The less we can mimic America the better.

If it wouldn't out me by linking by MN name to my TwiX name I'd tweet (what do we call that now?) JK Rowling and ask her!

The way they've said Tampon so much, the way they talk about weeing and how the "functions" happen differently ... its all just a little sus

Maybe that's why they want "tampon changing rooms", so they know where to lurk and imagine all the women changing their tampon?

But nobody did that. We just said many women do. Then OP claimed we weee saying all women did. Literally nobody claimed that.

Also bathrooms doesn't even make sense. I have never seen a bath in a public toilet.

Yep.