To be annoyed at the lack of bathrooms

[Applecharm25]

I have my period. I can feel that i need to change my tampon.

I'm out walking round my city. There are no public bathrooms anywhere near me.

I see a sign for a bathroom in a small shopping centre near me. I walk in. The bathroom is actually in a shop. I'm told that the bathroom is only available for paying customers.

So now I have to get in a long queue and wait further and buy something while I really need to change my tampon.

Surely there should be better toilet services available.

Yeah of course we need more toilets for everyone. There aren't enough.

As other posters have pointed put on here, disabled and elderly people also need to access more toilets.

What are you angry about?

I think the OP has probably delighted us long enough (take a bow, OP, and I do mean bow).
Am reporting for taking/not taking the p*

Oh god I'm trying not to get annoyed as I know that's what you want.

I am 40 (as per the year in my username).

I did not say you need to go for a wee when you change a tampon. I said you need to use a toilet facility. As that is where the sanitary bins are located.

If you were a woman you would know this.

So your tampon changing rooms would have a sanitary bin and a hand basin, but no need for a toilet. Got it, genius idea!

Someone had to!

You're the angry one, mate. You've had a go at just about everyone who's responded to your silly thread.

actually, when I was in the States a few months ago - Florida AND California - literally nobody used bathroom. Restroom was the only term i heard used.

Local authority cuts are going to make this worse and we are definitely reverting back to the Urinary Leash of the Victorian era. Councils hate public toilets and I worked for a local authority that tried over and over to close theirs down, as they didn't want to fund and of late they seem to have been able to get away with this, citing budget cuts, but all they've done in most instances is forced town / parish councils to use their budgets to keep them open and have simply moved the issue down the line!

Women need a decent bathroom too, not a tiny cubicle, neglected and difficult to move in and how often have we all gone into a loo barely big enough to swing a hamster let alone a cat and in an awful state, yet supposedly cleaned an hour previously - issue with out sourcing cleaning too!

Locally there was a big fuss made, a few years back, that local cafes / pubs would let you use their toilets, and they were given a small amount of funding to do so, due to the lack of local facilities, but this has stopped in most instances due to dealing with cleaning.... and other issues, with the small amount of funding not being worth the grief.

Sorry to disagree, but I don't see a special case for women. Everyone needs to use the toilet /lavatory /bathroom to urinate or defecate. Most women just have an additional need. Facilities should be available for any private use - it shouldn't matter whether it's a man needing a pee or woman changing a tampon.

But of course in a busy location there should be proportionately more private facilities for women than for men, as the length of queues always demonstrates.

I know it's nosey to ask and I'll respect your decision if you don't want to share Perky, but I'm dying to ask - where do you live ?

Happy to share for what it's worth - I'm in Oxfordshire

I always go to a chain coffee shop like Costa. Yeah it’s rubbish though.

So OP has made a big song and dance about how she doesn't need a wee when changing her tampon, does she do a wee whilst doing a poo?

With the Harry Potter thing - I assumed that when moaning myrtle was in a cubicle in the girls bathroom, that being an old fashioned boarding school, it had a row of cubicles with loos in, and a row of clawed feet baths, also. With no privacy whatsoever.

You see posts like this are why people are thinking you might not be a woman.

We don't theoretically think we need or choose to pee pretty much every time we change internal san pro because we missed biology lessons and don't understand, we know we need or choose to pee pretty much every time we change internal san pro because we experience it happening.

If you don't that's super - you are either very young or have a pelvic floor made from steel cable. Either way I salute you. But you really are an outlier here, and if you find as time goes by you also tend to combine visits, I hope you offer a little mental apology to the women you are belittling here.

Moaning Myrtle used to haunt the Prefects' Bathroom which definitely had a big bath in it. Harry used it in the Goblet of Fire.

In my local village there are lavatories in the library/village centre, two local pubs and I'm sure the GP surgery would be fine about it.

A few miles along at my local market town/shopping centre, there are lavatories at the shopping centre, in M&S, the library, various pubs, etc., as well as at the Shell, BP and Esso petrol stations en-route and two big supermarkets.

@Applecharm25 I don't see your problem.

@Peregrina yes Moaning Myrtles bathroom had the bath Harry used to open the Egg in Goblet of Fire

@Applecharm25 you may find this useful for all and any toileting needs in future Toilet Map

Everyone I know says toilet. It's not a bathroom, it's not there for bathing. Must be an area thing, different slang. I had a great aunt who used to call it the necessarium. 😂 She was very straight laced, couldn't even bear to say loo.

This thread has made my day. Absolutely hilarious. Batshit crazy.

@Applecharm25 thanks so much for your utterly ridiculous posts, inability to see other viewpoints and downright rude replies to people who don’t agree with your (irrational) thinking.

Of course tampon changing rooms are the absolute priority for this country right now.

people on here get so very upset and uptight if someone uses a 'non-English' term like bathroom

The issue is not the non-English/non-British term. The issue is that the OP is confidently asserting something that is different to the experience of nearly every British person on here, by claiming that British people frequently ask for "the bathroom" when they are out, which they really don't. OP is also claiming that Americans hardly ever say "bathroom" and always say "restroom" — in my experience, "restroom" is what the sign says, but at least half of Americans say "bathroom" anyway.

Of course, "toilet", "lavatory", and "washroom" (common in Canada and India") are all euphemisms as much as "restroom" and "bathroom", because they all imply that you are (only) going to wash yourself. But society is perhaps not ready for us to adopt "shithouse". And if we did, OP would complain that she wants a special place just to change her tampon standing up.

Well if you follow signage saying “bathrooms” in the U.K., you won’t find a place to change your tampon, unless you’re ok with changing it in a bathroom showroom. Try looking for the toilet signs.

Also, surely having a wee is part and parcel of changing a tampon? You sit on the loo to change and that activates the wee reflex, no?

So tampon changing facilities are made available so what happens when you need to change your tampon (not pad) and need a wee?

Will you complain that the tampon changing facilities do not cater to your need to wee?

Loving the Potter expertise on here. Was trying to cast my mind back re whether there was or wasn't a bath in the bathroom!

This thread has a weird vibe.

However, it would be wonderful to be able to pop off and have an actual bath halfway through the evening in a pub. And take my drink in with me. And maybe a good friend!

It's not an odd thing to say at all. I think it too.