My daughter lives nearby and she has three dogs, which she keeps in a one bedroom flat. In the past these dogs have habitually weed and pooed everywhere, but recently she has gotten better at clearing up in her own place, and in taking them out (she has mental health problems so in part these are support dogs).
The problem is that I can't stand it when she brings them over. Don't shoot me, it's not their fault I know, but they are not well trained. I don't like them being all over the furniture and the puppy chews things. One of them is a new puppy and last time they came over I was cooking and cleaning up after her and her boyfriend and the puppy weed on the carpet twice. Iv'e just moved to a new flat and I am trying to keep it nice. She rolls her eyes when I complain - nicely - and she watches me clean it up while she flaps around with a piece of kitchen towel and laughs.
I ask her to keep an eye on the dog when she is there but she forgets. She says if I have a crate at mine that will be easier, but I don't want to keep a crate as I have limited space (it's very difficult to be boundaried with her historically and I've had years and years dealing with this).
NB she lives a 20 minute bus ride away so I think she could leave them at home when she visits.
In my heart I would love to be open and relaxed and chilled about mess, but after years of clearing up for people I have honestly done with this. My own mental health suffers when I'm constantly watching out for dog mess, wondering if it's been cleared up etc. I am up and down all the time following these dogs around and watching out for mess.
She thinks I am being unreasonable because these are like her babies. Lots of times I have puppy and dog sat and paid for her dog sitting but I don't want to be responsible for any of this anymore.
Tell me what you think please. And please don't criticise me for not wanting the dogs - it's my choice not to have a pet. I am nothing but kind to them.