Ex is the love of his life.

[Treesandsheepeverywhere]

Read an article where Guy Pearce said his Ex-wife was the love of his life.

He has a partner now and they live together with their child.

Got me wondering if I could be mature/understanding enough to be ok in such a relationship.

If DH said this and the Ex was still alive, it would feel like he was settling or wishing to go back.

Have you ever been or would you be ok with being in a marriage or long term relationship where you knew his Ex was the love of his life?

YABU - It's totally fine.
YANBU - I'd always wonder if he would go back if there was a chance.

This is it, saying it publicly when his son's mother isn't given a mention at all, not even just as a thank you for being a mother to his child.

Thanks @MrWise, even if they're not together, she's the mother of his child and hearing that must be hard I'd think.

@HateThese4Leggedbeasts, But would they say that publicly or even at all to the other partner?

Would also be hard for any new partner.

I'd find that odd too, like he hadn't really moved on.

Well in that case that's shitty of him. I don't like him, he's off the Christmas card list, but she's still decent and I feel so sorry for her. It could have cast doubt over their whole relationship in her mind. Poor her.

@FarmGirl78 he died. Left her with two very young kids…

I thought that I read somewhere that his ex wife was now gay. That would explain his upset.

“Also, he had a history with Kate whereasit'searly days with new partner.
If he ends up with current partner for a long time, she could be the love of his life and possibly surpass Kate.”

@Treesandsheepeverywhere he’s been with “new” partner for ten years tho! It’s not recent

And has had a child with her!

The Guardian clearly thought it was odd/ attention grabbing because they used it as the headline.

Oh that's even worse, didn't realise.
That's why I think she'd forever be wondering if she'll ever surpass Kate as his love.

I know relationships are different but it's all about respect really. Especially as she's the mother of his child, yet gets no mention.

Quite, hence the question, would people be ok with not only knowing, but everyone else knowing too.

I'd find it embarrassing. Doing the school run with said child and everyone whispering.

Maybe I'm not mature enough but it would bug me big time.

I’d agree - she looks a stunner. She just hasn’t gone for the full Hollywood look. She’d easily compete with film stars her age in terms of looks. If you said she was an actress, I wouldn’t have questioned it.

So turns out they broke up a while back.....

Article about Carice van Houten his Ex after Guy's interview threw up a lot of questions about their relationship.

“I don’t usually engage in discussions about my personal life, but because of a number of conclusions in the media last week regarding my relationship with Guy, I wanted to make something clear,” van Houten wrote in the since-expired Instagram Story.
“He and I are great friends and love each other very much, but we haven’t been a ‘couple’ for years. (Sorry not to mention it earlier).”

Context is very important!!

I saw this at the weekend and thought 'fucking hell Guy, don't you know when to keep it shut?!' but had a look today upon seeing this thread and his recent partner, Carice, clarified that they are now friends and co parents who live together.

I still don't think it was the most gracious response to spread around publicly since he and Carice have lived together and had a child in the interim. However presumably his marriage was longer and more profound even though this relationship resulted in a child and what sounds like a good friendship. One of those cases where just because it's true it probably doesn't need saying. I feel that 'my son' may have been the diplomatic answer.

As in? They hadn't made the breakup public, so to be expected that she was getting questions on how she felt about him saying that.
He also apparently got stick for saying it, and as some have said, even if they're broken up, didn't need saying as they share a child together who will see/hear it.

Me too, in every respect. In fact I could have written this, spooky. He was and always will be the love of my life and I could never lie about that to anyone, nor would I keep it a secret, not to be unkind but I just couldn’t.

So it was still a stupid move to say it because she has now had to discuss something publicly which she probably didn't want to discuss.

As others have said, even if it's true, keep it to yourself and say "my beautiful child".

It just caused unnecessary speculation and attention.

True, she seems a private person and would think he should know that.
Guess he didn't anticipate it but with a child involved, you have to think twice about making such things public.

Totally get that @Babadookinthewardrobe obe &

@OnlyMothersInTheBuilding

Question was, would you be happy for your new partner to say that publicly about their Ex who was still alive, and you shared a child with said new partner?