When do you get your partner a gift?

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When do you get your partner a gift?

I am not talking about the spontaneous one that you may get to your significant other out of the blue because you saw something and you liked it.

I am asking about the planned gifts that each of you knows that you will get each other.

AIBU - Christmas & birthday & anniversary & valentines (wedding/engagement etc.) and any possible fixed date that is important

AINBU - Probably once a year , most likely for his birthday

Christmas.

We are a bit hit and miss with birthdays (bad planning and neither of us actually care!), do nothing for Valentine’s or our wedding anniversary usually.

We do, however, have completely joint money which definitely plays a part in how I feel about it (more so me because I manage our money - his preference). So if I want something, I would just weigh up choosing to buy it vs what else I might do with the money. We go away on a huge number of weekend breaks and a number of holidays a year and I prefer to save our money for that.

However, this has sort of evolved over time and is something we are both happy with.

Christmas and birthday.

We give each other cards on Valentine’s Day but not gifts. We’re not married so we don’t have a wedding anniversary.

Christmas and birthday. Possibly something very small for Valentine's or anniversary.

We do Xmas, birthday, wedding anniversary, day we met and valentines. Been together 12 years. Often a gift to each other will be a night away somewhere that I or he has planned as we share money.

Christmas and birthday.

Birthday, Christmas and an Easter egg.

We do Christmas, birthday, Valentine's Day, wedding anniversary, and "first meeting" anniversary. Mother's Day and Father's Day too - the majority from the DC's, but we think it's nice to do something special for each other too.

Christmas and birthdays. Occasionally anniversaries.

Pretty much same here 😀 don't tend to do gifts as much for Valentine's or anniversaries but usually do cards x

Birthday, anniversary, mothers day, and Christmas.

Not valentines though as she used to work in a florist and hated valentines day

But that's just us, whatever works for your relationship

Whenever you deem appropriate.

Christmas and birthdays without doubt and a lot of times "just because". We also exchange cards on Valentine's Day but I'm not a big fan of the whole thing so we just have an extra special dinner together at home. We're not married but we also exchange cards on the anniversary of when we met and he has flowers sent to me. Tbh I really would not bother with this as I think it's a bit silly but it means a lot to him and he did it the year after we met, meanwhile I forgot and had no idea about the significance of the day before he spelled it out to me 😂

Oh and didn't realise we were counting these but also Easter eggs, advent calendars and Mother's Day/Father's Day from our boy

Christmas and Birthdays

significant anniversaries we will go away for a long weekend or holiday but don’t do gifts

we don’t celebrate the Hallmark holidays and don’t do Easter gifts.

Christmas and birthday, and DH tends to buy me flowers for our wedding anniversary too. Our son is only three so we buy for Mother’s and Father’s Day from him too, but that’s separate really.

Valentines, Easter Egg, Fathers Day, Birthday, and Christmas.

Christmas and birthday.

We rarely do anything for valentines, at a push we might get a take away but never gifts/cards

Wedding anniversary- we usually go away as it always falls in the Easter holidays. That's just a family holiday though, we don't go away specifically for the anniversary !

Christmas and Birthday

We do cards and maybe some chocolate or flowers or similar for Valentines and Wedding Anniversary.

Sometimes I buy him an Easter egg, I prefer not to have one.

Birthday and Christmas without fail. Milestone wedding anniversaries, not every year.
Cards only for Valentines Day, and always very tongue in cheek because we both think it's a bit daft. Our kids are old enough to sort Mother's day and Father's day out for themselves.

That said, we often pick up little treats for each other, just because.

Christmas and birthday

We don't do Christmas and it's surprising how many people do!

I mean, we jointly buy gifts from Santa for our kids and we also buy our parents a gift (and at a stretch to our siblings but not every year to them - only if we are meeting all together as they live in other countries).

We just do birthdays to be fair which even than may not be a gift but an experience or something like that and then maybe short trips or a dinner for anniversaries.

We don't really do gifts - we tend to go out somewhere instead of use the money for something around the house.

Christmas and birthdays are for gifts.
M and S meal deal for valentines and an easter egg for easter and thats it.

As long as it's working for you then it's OK. No point in comparing with other relationships if you're both happy.

Would you like to swap gifts with your partner at Christmas?

We have both never done Christmas presents. We had been together 12+ years before we spent Christmas together as we used to always go to our respective families as we didn't live near either family.

We stopped doing birthday presents about 10 years ago except 30th/40th etc. our birthdays are near one another so we generally buy a joint something we need./want usually quite dull and not present "Worthy" but never mind.

We have never done valentine's and stopped doing anniversaries after a few years. We do try to go out for a fancy meal around the times of our anniversaries but that doesn't always happen.

Neither of us has any burning desire for things and generally don't buy a lot.

Now our daughter has come along we buy a small thing for one another from her for birthdays and mother's/father's day. Often a plant, for my partners birthday I bought him a notebook.