When do you get your partner a gift?

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When do you get your partner a gift?

I am not talking about the spontaneous one that you may get to your significant other out of the blue because you saw something and you liked it.

I am asking about the planned gifts that each of you knows that you will get each other.

AIBU - Christmas & birthday & anniversary & valentines (wedding/engagement etc.) and any possible fixed date that is important

AINBU - Probably once a year , most likely for his birthday

No, we are ok without gifts. Even at his birthday I ask him if he needs anything or if he wants anything specific and his answer is always something like “keep your money and don’t spend them for something that none of us really needs, it will take space and we will eventually throw it away” .

He would love a meal or an experience but not materials! For example, in my birthday he booked us to try something we haven’t tried before.

All those of you that get Christmas presents to your partners what kind of things do you get them? Things that they really need or it’s a tick box exercise to just get something for the shake of it?

We celebrate them all - usually with gifts, (sometimes things we both want like a new piece of art for the house). We always have cake and a bottle of bubbly, sometimes we book tickets for something or go out for food. I am a big believer in celebrating all the small things in life, and I don't care at all if it's commercialised rubbish - it makes me happy.

Birthday and Christmas. Home made card for valentines and an anniversary card. He puts my dressing gown on the radiator and a hot water bottle in bed when I’ve been at the ice rink in winter , that’s priceless.

All sorts really, it varies! Some of the things I got DH this year were:

• Hand carved walking cane.
• Aftershave.
• Books.
• Waistcoat.
• Pocketwatch.

There was also stuff like boxes of tea and bags of coffee beans, some jumpers, etc. I wouldn't say any of them are desperate needs or tick box exercises tbh, we try to make them a bit special and not every day items.

For Christmas we do a mixture of a tick box and a surprise; it varies every year. I initially wasn't bothered about us exchanging Christmas gifts when the DC were small but it was important to DH now I really look forward to it and am pleased we do it (think it sets a good example to the DC too).

Christmas & birthdays only - can't be bothered with valentines, but may go for a meal or cook something special for wedding anniversary but that's it.

Never on the ‘occasions’ but I often bring small things I know he will like or find useful if I see things when I’m out and about or if he has said he would like a particular thing

Christmas
Birthday
Possibly valentines
Easter Egg

The ones of you that mentioned “Easter Egg” made me chuckle, not in a bad way!

Do you literally buy a big chocolate egg for your significant others like they are kids? Last time I got one was from my godmother when I was 8ish 😃

Maybe it’s a UK thing… apologies we are not from the UK!

Christmas
Birthday
Anniversary (not always, this year was a big one - 30th - so we kind of discuss it ahead of time).

Why would it make you chuckle? You surely don't think adults don't eat chocolate?

We buy each other birthday and Christmas presents. Pretty much all the couples I know do. And all the adult members of my family and dh's family. I find it odd that anyone would think gifts are only for children. Gift giving has been a thing throughout history.

Tomorrow is one of the 2 days per month I have to cook tea so my DH will be getting a present of an M&S posh dine in for 2 meal 😆

We never really buy presents for each other as we don't need anything after being married for 20+ years.

@AllProperTeaIsTheft - I am not talking about all gifts, I am talking about Easter eggs!

I always thought they were a gift just for children. It is actually a gift only for children where I am coming from, a typical one from godparents to the kids.

Married 26 years and we buy each other:

Valentine card and small gift

Birthday card and presents plus cake

Easter Eggs

Anniversary card and gift. Small gift mostly with bigger ones for significant anniversaries

Christmas card and gifts

This is just what we have always done. We both put a lot of thought into buying presents for one another and i enjoy surprising my dh and vice versa.

Why not? We buy each other and our ds, 19 plus my mum, 84. She buys us one each as does ds. It's just a nice gesture, lifts the mood and is celebratory thing to do. Adults are allowed to enjoy chocolate especially at Easter. I don't think it's that unusual.

We just do a stocking for each other. This year a book I thought he would like, a posh book mark made by a local artist (he always has a stash of book marks as he reads multiple books at a time), muslie made in a local cafe, local honey flavoured chcolates and a few other similiar items. Mostly consumables and for DH always from local independant shops as that is his preference.

Valentines, Easter, Birthday, Fathers Day (from kids), Anniversary, and Christmas. Plus any other excuse.

Mainly Christmas and birthday. Card and flowers or wine and food treats on Valentine's Day. Presents for significant wedding anniversaries though I often forget ours and he never does which is embarrassing.

My partner has his birthday today and doesn't like presents or surprises so I will get him something he needs some other time, as I like gift giving. We don't do Christmas or valentine's, I definitely like a birthday fuss and we get each other incidental presents as and when today he got me an emergency car battery charger as my battery went flat yesterday and I had to sit roadside waiting for the RAC

I know you were talking about Easter eggs. That's why I said surely you don't think adults don't like chocolate. Easter eggs are just chocolate in the shape of an egg. I don't see what's childish about that - it's not a toy! Lots of Easter eggs you can buy are made of dark or expensive chocolate and very fancy-looking. Definitely not aimed at children.

We buy for Christmas and birthday and help the kids to buy for mothers and fathers days.

we don’t do anniversaries.

we often get things like nice chocolate, flowers, drink, perfume / aftershave etc. rather than items to keep. Or tickets to an event.

I buy DH an Easter egg too. Everyone knows Easter egg chocolate tastes better than normal chocolate.

It’s definitely a uk thing, we go mad for Easter eggs. Apparently we buy 80 million Easter eggs a year in the uk!

it’s not just aimed at children either, there are lots of eggs that are aimed at adults which can be quite expensive.

Easter eggs started appearing in the supermarket immediately after Christmas!!

Oh yes and not only that but I also buy one for my dad and teenage brother 😂 the irony is I don't like them at all, I just love picking out fancy ones for my partner and family members. But then again I buy them all advent calendars as well 😂

Advent calendars? 🫣😳😂

Is this not a thing for kids too?

Omg, this this thread expanded my knowledge above a beyond my original thinking 😂