Wanting to be alone all the time and irritated - perimenopause??

[Orchidsunlight]

Can anyone relate, I am late 40's and recently apart from being irritated a lot i find i just crave to be alone, is this normal? I have a house full of husband and 20 somethings and i feel like screaming , people everywhere, making noise, making all sorts of food in the kitchen, everyone asking me to remind them of things etc, I just want to be alone and sit with a glass of wine and a book, or something on tv i like. My real dream is to live alone in a cottage by the sea, just me my books, my candles, a nice bottle of wine in the fridge, doing what I like, when I like.
Is this normal as i feel quite fed up lately with people around me all the time at home...

Sounds amazing, enjoy every moment and let us know how you get on.

I will report back thanks mumsnetters

I have got back from a night away at a Travelodge, meal deal and breakfast and happy hour it was AMAZING so much so that i have booked another for next month, my husband was actively begging me to do this
£60 for the room, 2 course meal and breakfast

LIVING THE DREAM

Brilliant update OP and although I'm late to the thread just wanted to add my vote for YADNBU!

I can really see where the witchy stereotype of a woman living alone in a cottage with her familiar cat, pottering about the garden, comes from.

It's because we all want that! So the bastards burned us all for the audacity of saying "fuck all of you with your snorty breathing, I'm off." 😂

Fab! 👏

You are in for a treat and the book actually explores the issue and finds a kind of solution.

couldnt get it in my library so will order it in

Awesome stuff OP! And such a bargain too!!

That's what I do! And the older you get, the more the need to reset alone will become.

I'm finally in the position to do this

This made me think of this...

Another attempt!

I'm trying and failing to post a meme!

OP I'm delighted you made the fantasy happen and your OP supports it

Hear hear sista!

we can live together very quietly 🤣🤣

I think it is normal - I'm 51 and feel the same! DH annoys me, kids are 17 and 13 and need/want so much from me and it's just exhausting. I love them all dearly, but I find myself dreaming about the kids leaving home and DH spending more time in his home country so I can just be alone 😂

honestly this night away once a month if i can is saving me i think, i have 2 more booked to look forward to and its made me so much happier, and its not breaking the bank !

Fab @Orchidsunlight

Beware the other side of it, the empty nest....I'm not enjoying this bit either🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

You spend years yearning for peace and quiet and time to yourself...then you get it and there's suddenly too bloody much of it...

yep im in the middle as my kids 20's and part home part not, so not completely empty nest yet

Yay that sounds perfect - as is that house posted above ❤️

I live alone thankfully apart from when my kids are back from uni.
It's quite blissful with just me and the cat. Thought I would hate but not the case!

I definitely want to move to a little cottage near the sea. Just off to check RightMove (again!)...

Really empathising with this. All I want is to be alone in the quiet and to sleep! Everything makes me so annoyed, i have no patience anymore. Trouble is I'm quite an early starter for peri (been on hrt for 8 months now, and think I've been in peri for years) at 43 and I have a 3 year old, so no alone time ever! I just booked myself two nights away on my own, plan to sleep, order room service and have long baths, cannot wait!

MY PEOPLE!

Have always been introverted, now 48 and on HRT but I need alone time so desperately these days.Have a people-y job and there's just nothing left in the tank by the time I get home. Need a bath and a book just so I can have silence.

Bloody love the cat, he's so....not-needy.

We need these badges

I'm 35 and have started getting irritated at even receiving texts from my partner or my dad popping his head round the door asking how i am.......
It's actually scaring me, to the point i've got blood tests booked in to see wtf is going on.