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AIBU?

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To refuse to buy her house and tell her why?

183 replies

StinkyTowels · 16/01/2025 13:59

A few years ago my sister bought a beautiful period property with all original features. Victorian fireplaces, hand crafted bannisters, Victorian carved coving, the head things that pop out of the coving - I adored the house and always said if she sells it, I’ll buy it.

That was of course until she “modernised it”. Stripped out all original features, painted everything white, installed a clinically white and shiny kitchen, lobbed the standalone bath out of the window and replaced it with a spa bath … I kept telling her she was ruining the house but she said I was old fashioned and nobody likes that shit anymore.

The house is historically important, a local famous post lived there, from the outside it looks like a grand Victorian villa. On the inside it look like a London penthouse. It’s awful.

last year she decided to sell it but rather than coming straight to me she tried to sell it for much more than I would have ever paid due to the “improvements” she’d made. LOTS of viewings but no offers - all feedback was exactly the same - put off by interior. Lack of original features etc

So she’s come back to me - I’m now saying I don’t want it either for the same reasons. She’s fuming at me and says I “promised” I would buy it. In its original state I did yes but once she started pulling it apart I very clearly told her I would no longer buy it as she’s wrecked it. She won’t accept this however and is already eying up another house she’d like to ruin/renovate.

AIBU to be glad she can’t sell the bloody thing. It should be illegal to do what she’s done to that belle house

OP posts:
TaylorSwish · 21/01/2025 19:05

Kahless · 21/01/2025 18:21

So do I need to keep the horrible 1960s original fireplace in my lounge? After all it's an original part of the house?

I would.

Kahless · 21/01/2025 19:57

TaylorSwish · 21/01/2025 19:05

I would.

Even though it's fuck ugly?

JoannaGroats · 21/01/2025 20:18

Plastictrees · 21/01/2025 16:42

Your post suggested that her house won’t be listed because Victorian houses aren’t rare, which is incorrect. Many houses and conservation areas are Victorian properties, usually because of the unique and ornate architectural designs.

No, my post stated very clearly that the OP had never claimed the house was listed - and therefore the likelihood is that it isn’t. The poster I was replying to seemed to think the house would definitely be listed just because it is Victorian.

Nowhere do I say that no Victorian properties are listed. Of course there are listed Victorian properties - and 1950s and 60s properties too. My point is that a Victorian property is not in itself rare. There’s a massive amount of Victorian housing stock. “Oh, but original features are lovely though” is not reason enough for a house to be listed.

BobbyBiscuits · 21/01/2025 20:20

No. What you should do is buy her house off her because she told you to. 🫤🤣

TaylorSwish · 21/01/2025 20:48

Kahless · 21/01/2025 19:57

Even though it's fuck ugly?

Yeah, my neighbour who was doing up the house next door to me, told me to leave the hideous (in my opinion) 1960s features in my house. He’s a property developer and he said that they will be next in fashion. I am not convinced but I will do what he says just in case 🤷‍♀️

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 21/01/2025 21:30

@StinkyTowels first (and only) post on Mumsnet is smug, judgmental and gloating. She is BU and unkind

BIossomtoes · 21/01/2025 21:52

TaylorSwish · 21/01/2025 20:48

Yeah, my neighbour who was doing up the house next door to me, told me to leave the hideous (in my opinion) 1960s features in my house. He’s a property developer and he said that they will be next in fashion. I am not convinced but I will do what he says just in case 🤷‍♀️

Mid century is very fashionable right now.

BestDIL · 30/01/2025 17:32

Anyone else find it frustrating when the OP doesn't comment any further on their own post?

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