To ask if you’re happy and healthy?

[SharpCyanDuck]

It sounds like such a simple question, but I’ve been wondering lately how many people genuinely reflect on these two things. Life can get so busy, and it’s easy to lose track of what truly matters. Are you happy with where you are in life? Are you healthy - not just physically, but mentally and emotionally?

AIBU to think that these two questions should matter more than almost anything else? And if the answer to either is no, do you think we owe it to ourselves to figure out why?

Not enough dough but ok other than that.

When you say you've 'been wondering' do you mean you're doing some research about this? Otherwise, why so many questions and what is your AIBU?

Happy, yes - very much so.

Healthy - mentally yes, physically I guess not. I feel fine in myself but I am clinically obese. I don't have any of the associated issues with that (I'm not diabetic, no heart issues or mobility issues) but I don't think I could describe myself as healthy when I'm obese. I am actively trying to lose weight now though.

Oh wow! Didn’t know there’s a limit to how many Qs can be asked in a post, question police! Get a grip and stop reading into everything.

I’m at the happiest point of my life. I’m very chilled and don’t tend to worry much. My DH is amazing though which helps

Physically healthy but not happy thanks to a few things outside my control. Not everything can be changed. Some things you just have to endure as there is no cure.

This reply does not make you sound happy.

When I waa younger I thought everything could be changed with enough effort. But it can't.

Yes! Lost weight and losing more, feel fabulous.
Got a nice enough life with daughter and dog and a cosy flat and an allotment and a holiday booked.
Love my job.
I'm on lifelong medication but with it I'm perfectly alright. Life is beautiful.

Mentally and emotionally I'm great. Physically not so much as the NHS won't treat the problem I have properly or with any urgency.....chronic anaemia....so Ive gone private. Sometimes you just have to be proactive and do it yourself.
I've had therapy for complex PTSD too and I'm in a great place now. My savings have taken a big hit but your health is invaluable.

Basically yes. There are plenty of things I'd like to change but I can be content with how things are, too.

Mentally - probably the happiest I've ever been (struggled with depression in the past). But still work to do.

Physically - recently lost a lot of weight but it's creeping back on so need to get this back under control and could certainly do more exercise.

This question has knocked me for six because I thought I knew the answers.

Am I healthy? Physically, no, not really. I live with chronic pain due to two different physical conditions which are not linked. I've just been unlucky I guess. But I try to always see the positive in most situations and even on my worst days, remember that there are so many in worse positions. My conditions will not kill me, just leave me in pain.

So am I happy? I have a wonderful husband, three great kids and run a successful business. There's a LOT to be happy about, and I am grateful every single day for what I have. But it's very difficult not to have poor mental health with chronic pain.

I've don't think I appreciate or realise I am happy at the time. Its only when something really shit happens that I'm aware my normal mundane existence with ups and downs is actually happiness.

Happy - yes 😀
Healthy - I could do with losing some weight, otherwise yes.

I don’t have my health and my illness impacts on me every day, both physically and emotionally.

I have a job I love, a wonderful husband, two amazing children and a fantastic family.

I know I will never be truly happy though due to my poor health and I find that really sad.

Perpetual happiness is a bit of an unattainable goal. I am very content. I have stressors in my life as does everyone else but I am able to process them and move on (sometimes with help from therapy). For example, I recently broke up with my partner which was, understandably a sad situation. I wouldn't expect to feel happy at that point - sadness was an appropriate emotion. But I worked through it and I feel content and positive about the future.
I am physically healthy, as far as I am aware. I look after my body. I could do more to increase movement throughout a day as my job is sedentary so I could be fitter and healthier than I am now. But I have no diseases or chronic illnesses that require daily management or impact on my quality of life.

The site has rules that stop you doing research, particularly if you don't disclose what you're doing it for and what you intend to do with the information. So you do know now! As this is clearly not an 'AIBU', is this a piece of research you are doing?

✅ Emotionally happy
✅ Physically happy
✅ Mentally happy

I could and do strive for more, but I have a beautiful family, a wonderful husband, and my home and finances are pretty good. Even though I do complain about our house ("I wish I had a utility room! I wish I had a garage! I wish I could have a spare bathroom!") I like where I live.

I've been like this my whole life.

Neither, really

Happy yes. Healthy - I identify as healthy but there is massive scope for improvement - overweight and have an autoimmune disease that would be helped by losing said weight.

Most average people can present their life either negatively or positively though. I could write two paragraphs about my life from two perspectives, not a lie amongst them, but one would come across very negative with loads of problems, and the other one showing a perfect life.

OP ignore the thread police. They lurk around aibu making annoying bitchy comments to make themselves feel better. They are definitely not happy!

Lots of lazy journalists hang out here writing lifestyle-y puff pieces. Hence the expectation that if some abstract philosophical question is on your mind, you go first in sharing your thoughts, or at least bothering to make something up.

I fail to see the problem tbh. People are in charge of what they share online. OP’s not asking people to divulge their problems, so what if they’re researching something.

I ask myself these questions and both answers are no but there's nothing I can do change it.

I'm currently living in an area I despise. It makes me feel miserable, the people, the property, the lack of things to do, lack of transport etc. We can't afford to move and I can't get a job because of lack of transport and location issues. I'm trained in a specific field and most other jobs around here want experience or a driver. I don't drive. We are waiting to hear word of a family members house becoming available in another area so everything is kind of on hold while we wait. It's brutal.

I am happily married and have 2 brilliant kids though. We just hate the location.

I'm fairly healthy but am overweight and again, exercise motivation is limited with depression and lack of opportunities in the area.