My partner complained we haven't had a date in ages then went into a strop when we did

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We went out for breakfast this morning then I had an appointment he dropped me off at and went shopping whilst he waited on me

He took so long to get out of bed all we had time for was a McDonald's. He fell out with me and went in a mood with me instantly when I said let's get up and go. He threw the clean washing on the kitchen floor and was annoyed because I didn't put his socks away. The washing was there ready to put away and I don't put his away.

Then he refused to talk to me the entire time. Any time he takes these moods he always say "because fuck you". I asked what was actually wrong and he said I don't want to be awake at this time and take you to your appointment. When our plan was to have breakfast together then I'd go to my appointment and shop after.

He's still not spoken to me all day.

He also drove so fast and unsafe

He said literally last night we need a time just us and I said let's do this tomorrow then and he agreed.

He will use the excuse I always have to dry you somewhere etc as an excuse for his behaviour

He dropped me at appointments twice last month and peeped his horn so many times and held it for a long time knowing it was just this one girl in her studio waiting for my appointment to embarrass me. She will know it's whoever picks me up now because it's now twice it's happened.

He sounds very, very childish. And the thing about being moody because you've not had sex in a few days?? WTF?! So the way he feels and acts is always someone else's fault? Is he a fan of the "manosphere" content online?

Please never let him back into your life. Plenty of actual adult men out there. Wishing you luck!

This. Your boyfriend has the emotional control of a 2 year old.

I would have told him to pack his things and stay elsewhere till he grows up the minute he threw the clean clothes on the floor. That’s toddler behaviour and bloody disrespectful to you. Absolutely unacceptable. There is no planet where you deserve to be treated like this, so don’t accept it.

You will feel so much better when he leaves . Horrible man

This is the behaviour of a person who not only does not love you, but also finds you irritating. You literally drive him up the wall, from what you say - RUN!!!! RUN away from this tosser.

People on here say 'you deserve more' - I don't know you and I don't know if you deserve more or not, but you certainly do not deserve this, because nobody does.

Once he's gone get your locks changed and block him on everything OP. Get him out of your life.

Oh and block your mates boyfriend on everything too while you're at it.

He tells her 'f you'....????

What you've described is abuse and coercive control. Get out now.

That, exactly.

He sounds extremely immature.

Get rid, you can do better.

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Yet another arsehole crushing yet another woman.

RUN.

There's billions of them on the planet. This one's a dud.

I sincerely hope he has left. If he happens to backtrack and asks why, maybe just say 'because fuck you'. It might be hard to start with, but you will have no decent life with this man, perhaps if he hasn't taken his clothes yet, leave his precious socks on the doorstep!

Stop being so passive ‘praying he goes’.
You have a choice too, so choose to tell him it’s over and to go.

You deserve so much better - well done for breaking free. It's not up to you to worry about where he is going to go now - that's his problem. He's not on your tenancy and he is not your problem, he just needs to pack up his stuff and go.

Your friend's BF sounds like an arse too - presumably you've told him to stop or you'll tell her? Sounds like she would be well shot of him too. Time for you both to move on from immature arseholes who won't take responsibility for their own behaviour. There are much better men out there, a million times better.

I sometimes wonder if I am odd or have too high standards because I can’t fathom why so many women put up with crap like this, when as you say there are billions of men out there.
Or you could be single.

I honestly don’t understand why women put up with it for years.

I am autistic and sometimes get confused about if I’m acting ‘normal’ or not.
I wouldn’t put up with half of the crap I read on here and I am thankful when I see posts like yours and from other women who wouldn’t stay in this situation either.

don't have children with him please

My heart usually sinks when I read threads like this. Fucking abusive, huffy man babies. But you ending it and knowing you deserve better has made my day. Well done OP. Seriously. Good on you. Don't let him wheedle his way back. Ridiculous man tooting his ridiculous horn. I'd shove his socks up his hole. 😡

Once you get over the early days and upset you'll have a much happier life.

Dump him. He is awful!

Get him out of the house and stick your key in the door.
Gather his shit together and pass it out a window.
Get support to be with you.
Call the police at any hint of aggression.

What a knob! Sorry but why exactly are you with him, he sounds like a spoilt, petulant, self entitled arse..leave and don’t look back..

You need to realise his behaviour is abusive and you don't have to put up with it !

You already know you must leave him. Have you somewhere to go? He will get worse. Imagine a lifetime of pandering to his moods. You deserve better.

I don't know if you are financially independent as I'm assuming you are not married, but if you are financially independent , you have 3 main options. But frstly consider whether you are happy 51% + of the time you spend with this man and that the degree of happiness that makes it worth 49% spent eiher neutral or miserable . If you are unhappy for the majority of your time spent with him, then it's time to time to have a good hard think as to whether you would happier without this man in your life draining your well being. It's not likely to change unless you change it.

1. you could just tell him the relationship is not working for you and call it quits and go your separate ways.
2. you could tell him that you are unhappy with his behaviour towards you and you could seek couples counselling to see if things improve. If they don't see options 1 and 3
3. you can continue as you are and deal with being unhappy as best you can e.g by looking at ways you can dilute the impact his behaviour has on you.

If you are not financially independent, then think about what your needs are and how to meet them and how to achieve more independence, and therefore more control over the situation. Don't be an enabler! .

Good luck.

Does he smoke weed, by any chance?

You can’t tell if he’s dreadful? Christ 😳

Have you looked up the law on coercive control? I suggest that you do. If you want this relationship to survive then setting boundaries is a good place to start. Clarify what parts of his behavior are unacceptable and will no longer be tolerated. He is a bully behaving like a spoilt child desperate to have boundaries set for him. Really you are worth so much more.