My partner complained we haven't had a date in ages then went into a strop when we did

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We went out for breakfast this morning then I had an appointment he dropped me off at and went shopping whilst he waited on me

He took so long to get out of bed all we had time for was a McDonald's. He fell out with me and went in a mood with me instantly when I said let's get up and go. He threw the clean washing on the kitchen floor and was annoyed because I didn't put his socks away. The washing was there ready to put away and I don't put his away.

Then he refused to talk to me the entire time. Any time he takes these moods he always say "because fuck you". I asked what was actually wrong and he said I don't want to be awake at this time and take you to your appointment. When our plan was to have breakfast together then I'd go to my appointment and shop after.

He's still not spoken to me all day.

He also drove so fast and unsafe

He said literally last night we need a time just us and I said let's do this tomorrow then and he agreed.

He will use the excuse I always have to dry you somewhere etc as an excuse for his behaviour

He dropped me at appointments twice last month and peeped his horn so many times and held it for a long time knowing it was just this one girl in her studio waiting for my appointment to embarrass me. She will know it's whoever picks me up now because it's now twice it's happened.

Stay strong. Throw him out and don't look back. Shit men will only stop being shit when women stop putting up with it.

Dump him and don't look back. He's a nasty bullying creep, who adds nothing to your life as far as I can see.

Think how relaxed you would be, not having to put up with his stupid petulant games 😊

Stay strong OP he has shown you who he is let him go you deserve so much better 💐

He sounds like a man child who needs to grow a pair. Send him back to his parents. They've got some parenting to finish.

Stay strong. You deserve so much better op

Good for you. Get him out and make sure he stays away.

He sounds awful

Please just leave OP, absolutely everything you have said about this man sets off alarm bells. The longer you stay the worse it will get.
Get out now and don’t look back.

➡️ WHY ARE YOU WITH HIM ⬅️

Going shopping is never a 'date'

Change the locks as he may have extra keys cut. The friends boyfriend is probably just trying to get evidence so your now ex can say you cheated. Does the friend know what her partner is doing

Read back what you wrote. Do you really think being with a manchild that has strop because you didn't put HIS socks away is the way you want your life to be? You know you need to dump him and the sooner you do it the happier you will be.

It's a great relief to read your latest update OP. He's nasty and abusive and will only get worse. Do not weaken and let him talk his way back in.

Get rid, and then spend some time reading about how to suss if someone is a decent partner or not. You could do worse than hang out on the relationships board on MN.

Good luck. x

I hope he actually left OP? Please update us with some good news that hes out of your life forever! You deserve so much better, he will never change!

Was there a reason the baby couldn’t put his own socks away, if they were “right there” ??

Get rid. You deserve better than his abuse OP.

Leave him. Why would you stay with someone who doesn't like or respect you? If you're daughter explained this situation to you about her boyfriend, what would you say?

Well done for ending it, life is way too short for this.

Neither of you are happy and I wouldn’t even get pulled into playing the blame game and arguing about whose fault it is.

If he has no where to go then I’d let him stay for the next 2 weeks until he can find somewhere but I would sleep separately and not let him drive you around.

“Then he refused to talk to me the entire time. Any time he takes these moods he always say "because fuck you".” The last person who said that to me got an after school detention, a phone call home to parents and had to write an apology. But he was 13.

Your friend's BF sounds like a right charmer too.
Have you told your friend?
How do you find these people??

I'm guessing his idea of a date was a movie or a takeaway or dinner out, swiftly followed by lots of sex.

Not breakfast followed by ferrying you to a salon appointment followed by hanging around while you went shopping.

Are you serious? If he's fed up driving OP he needs to discuss that like an adult, not a petulant toddler. Talk about a low bar.

Edited the second paragraph as I see you've given him his marching orders, OP - well done!

He also drove so fast and unsafe
So many people have died from dickhead driving like this. Whether they're doing it to show off or intimidate someone, intentionally recklessly driving is such a scummy thing to do.
Don't let him near you ever again, no second chances. Glad u are getting rid. He's VILE.
How old are you op if you don't mind the asking? Is this one of your first serious relationships?

If he’s in your house give him notice to move out. Start helping him pack.

If you’re in his house, start packing your stuff and gtfo. Make sure you forward your mail and remove your name off any household bills.

The aggressive unsafe driving tells me he’s got absolutely zero respect for you or your well being.

This isn’t just someone acting like a toddler. The silent treatment is abuse.

This is only going to escalate.

You are a fool if you stay in this relationship.

I was about to ask what are his good points, but I see you've already got rid of him. How long were you together when he moved in, bet it was his idea as he wanted a free housekeeper. Next time, give it a few years before letting a BF move in, so much easier to get rid off if they're a twat.

And you get, what, out of this relationship?