Would you expect your spouse to share their wealth with you

[JollyQuail]

Just wondering, if your partner was considerably wealthier than you, would you expect him to share all his wealth with your after you’re married?

Name added to houses; joint bank accounts, name added to BTL properties.

I would feel very uneasy doing this.

People usually get a pre nup

Why?

That’s literally the point of marriage isn’t it? What’s mine is yours and all that. If not while married then at least when divorced!

discuss before marriage the expectation.. personally we’re in it together and that includes finances

Well we have been doing it for 25 + years and it's worked here.

Is marriage not a legal contract to do this. Why are you getting married.

Yes. I’d expect them not to have married if they want to continue having separate assets.

Would very much depend. A young couple, no children and planning to build a life and family together, yes absolutely.

Older couple getting together, with their own children to consider and a lifetime of assets, then, no. I would expect the lifestyle to be shared but not the assets.

Can NOT imagine having a "champagne" lifestyle whilst my partner has "beer"

Wouldn't you want to share your good fortune with someone you love? smh

My feeling on it is… if it makes you uneasy, why are you getting married?

If this is a second marriage with existing children, then I can understand that the wealthier partner would want to ring fence prior assets in order not to have their children’s inheritance split.

For a first marriage and no existing kids I would expect both partners to be “all in” (with the exception of both having a private “escape fund” that means they can afford to leave the relationship if it becomes abusive), and in both cases I would expect all wealth generated after the start of the relationship to be equally shared.

Anything else would be a deal-breaker for me.

Yes,that makes sense. We are still on our first marriage for both.

This is exactly what my partner did to me, left me sewing up holes in clothes so they would last longer, while he secretly bought himself new designer clothes literally every week. Twat.

Then why get married then. A public declaration of love can be made without a marriage contract. If it's for commitment then the only difference to not being married is a financial legal commitment which you say is not part of a relationship later in life. The emotional commitment is not dependent on being married.

Totally agree with this

I’ve worked very hard, and received some good fortune.

Sharing isn’t an issue but to give half of it away doesn’t sit right with me.

Absolutely this. I’m on my second relationship with considerable assets and children. My assets are for my children and not my partner. For that reason until pre nups are legally enforceable and not just usually upheld I’ll not remarry

Marriage is a legal contract. The conditions vary depending on where you live but it has financial consequences when you come to split.

hope you threw him back @CheekyHobson

Don't get married then.

OP, best not to marry then.

Not in the UK they don't, as they're not usually legal here.

It would depend on circumstances. If you married and had children together then yes. If not then no.

I am single and have an older child, no plans to have more and if I met a partner now I wouldn't even want to share finances to be honest.

This exactly for me

OP, why do you actually want to get married.