Would you expect your spouse to share their wealth with you

[JollyQuail]

Just wondering, if your partner was considerably wealthier than you, would you expect him to share all his wealth with your after you’re married?

Name added to houses; joint bank accounts, name added to BTL properties.

I would feel very uneasy doing this.

Me too.

I would expect wealth to be shared during marriage. I can't imagine why you wouldn't. I have no problem with a fair pre nup to protect pre marital assets but if a spouse gives up work to raise children, or a long term marriage ends I believe the less well off spouse deserves some compensation.

If you don't want to share your wealth, then don't get married. Simples.

I honestly don't know what I'd have done if I had been wealthy before I met DP. We aren't married, but I wouldn't have an issue sharing assets and accounts noew - we already do and I wouldn't change it if I won the lottery, for example. My children are also his so wouldn't worry about them missing out as they'll be our only beneficiaries when the time comes.

Absolutely this

Yes, DH was much wealthier than me when we met and we have shared everything since we got married. I came into other money after 13 years of marriage and it was simply added to the pot.

I think you share when together but protect yourself in case you get divorced.

Yes I would expect wealth to be shared in a marriage, and I say that as someone who is the wealthier one in the partnership. I would also expect it if the tables were turned.

OP don't get married. Marriage is over rated. People change after the marriage ( both , men and women). You are putting yourself at a massive risk by marrying someone who is not equal financially.

Absolutely I consider all assets shared in a marriage.

My husband and I have been together over a decade (since we were teenagers). We married a few years ago and have a baby together.

My mother died when we were living together and engaged and I inherited a significant amount from her, it was in the low seven figures. A lot of money for a couple in their mid twenties but we saw a financial advisor and made a plan that would enable my inheritance to set us up as a family for life.

This money was put into a shared account when we married and combined everything, and our property and investments are all in both of our names. We only have the one shared joint bank account.

I’m a stay at home parent and don’t plan on going back to full time work ever, and if I do not until our youngest child is high school age. My husband works full time.

His salary is ours even though he’s the one working for it, just as our assets are ours even though they primarily come from my inheritance.

The way I see it we made a commitment for life and we have a family together so of course our resources/wealth is shared. We discuss our financial strategies and budget together and consult with each other on any big purchases.

I know a lot of people would say I’m an idiot for letting him near this money or that stay at home mums are financially vulnerable or whatever but this works for us.

No I would expect a pre nup

@MadnessIsMyMiddleName

Yes, prenuptial agreements are legal in the UK, but they are not automatically enforceable in court. Courts will consider each agreement on a case-by-case basis to determine if it is fair and properly executed.

I agree with this.

No, I would not expect him to add me on titles, however I would expect him to share the places with me.
I would expect to be able to call a place my home while we lived there and to be able to invite friends round.

If, years later, he died I would expect that I would have a roof over my head and to know in advance that that would happen and be able to discuss financial affairs.
If we shared children I would expect the children to inherit.

Why do you want to get married? Marriage is essentially a legal document and quite a lot of it is about combining lives, including assets.

@JollyQuail please get a pre nup or simply don't get married. Its such a huge risk financially.

he shares his brokenness with me no problem, so yes!!! 🤣

If you have children together then yes, if your past those years then no.

No it’s fine, for example, a husband/wife can dine on the finest of foods while they watch their other half eat tinned soup.

That does not add up, that is not equal halves.

The whole premise of marriage is unity driven by love in all aspects of life intertwined. If you would feel uneasy about what comes naturally to the rhythm of love in marriage then I guess that is a little bit worrying. I hope you are ok. 💐

I earned more than exH, so he got more of the assets and cash, even though I paid the majority of the bills. It stings, but it's life. It would not be beneficial, financially, to marry again so I probably won't.

In the absence of a prenup get a post nup.

Goddaughter (34) inherited a number of properties at a young age...worth several million. A big residence and several rentals, shares etc. Before she unexpectedly inherited she was in a committed relationship for quite a few years with a man with nothing, and now wants to marry him. He's lovely, but I'm concerned about her future. They will live in the big house and the rentals will give them a good income on top of her salary. HER salary, note...(she's a g.p), he doesn't have a job just now, having served in the Military and suffering from PTSD. He receives a pension of some sort though. I worry that he won't ever work. I'm very close to her in view of the loss of her mother. Should she share everything with him as a married couple? Solicitor isn't a fan of pre nups, but she might carry the entire family financially..in fact, it looks very likely.

He's lovely, he has a pension by virtue of his hard work and service in the military and his ill health, he's contributing. Good for them that they have had some good fortune. It's only money, when it's gone it's gone. Wish them well and don't worry.

If you’re talking multiple properties sort of wealth then I probably wouldn’t, and I wouldn’t expect it of someone I married. Especially not if we married later in life or if there were children from a previous relationship.

I would expect to have similar lifestyles and spending money in day to day life and for long term plans to be jointly agreed. But control of wealth - I don’t think I’d be handing that over in one fell swoop. Over time I’d expect some or all of that wealth to be transferred to assets we had joint control over, though.