Would you expect your spouse to share their wealth with you

[JollyQuail]

Just wondering, if your partner was considerably wealthier than you, would you expect him to share all his wealth with your after you’re married?

Name added to houses; joint bank accounts, name added to BTL properties.

I would feel very uneasy doing this.

Me too - probably not as much money as you but I 'shared' my good fortune by buying a bigger house with my husband for us and kids. ie when inheriting money from a parent.

My DH has always been on the mortgage and we both contribute for bills etc

I see marriage as a legal and financial agreement mainly to support the bringing up of children and allows for one or both adults to reduce their capacity to earn in order to undertake caring while the financial risks of doing that are formally shared. It’s a “standard contract” which fundamentally includes sharing wealth. If it doesn’t work for you don’t do it.

Depends how old you are, are you planning to have a family etc

Mid thirties and we half everything, have our own bank accounts and a joint account we use for bills etc. we've been together 15 years and have an agreement that if we ever get divorced we would just half it again. Most people I know my age also do this, we saw our parents go through bitter divorces and don't want the same

We haven't. We have a prenup- husband doesn't work but is very wealthy, the house We live in he owns (I am not on the deeds)- he also owns 3 more properties. I have a BTL and he isn't on the deeds. Yes we are all in with monthly income- but the big stuff we don't share...

I'm not hugely wealthy but had a very large inheritance just before we got married. I used it to buy our house, which DH obviously lives in with me. The house is in my name though. One of the conditions of the inheritance was that it be used to benefit me and me only (the person didnt know DH yet) so I'm kind of breaking that but DH has nothing on paper.

But otherwise we have separate finances, even though I earn more. We have very different spending habits (I'm a saver and DH is a spender) and I couldn't imagine watching my money go in then watching it be spent on the silly (in my opinion) things DH spends them on. So we keep it separate and no one gets annoyed!

Presumably this is a joke?

But what do you mean by give it away:
If it’s eg invest in equalizing the others pension, or a joint asset that’s one thing, but if it is hand over half the cash so he can dispose of it as he wishes that’s quite another.

Day to day stuff like holidays, nice house, going out and generally having a good lifestyle, I would expect to share with my partner. The bulk of it which is no doubt invested absolutely not! If it’s a significant amount you need to have a pre nup drawn up!

You're not cut out for marriage.

Maybe colloquially but not legally. What is yours doesn’t become mine on marriage unless ownership is formally transferred. You’re confusing it with the courts power to divide assets on divorce and even then, significant pre acquired wealth is only divided where the less wealthy person can demonstrate that their needs require it.

OP get a prenup.

Don't do it!

It doesn't matter if his name isn't on it, he now owns half

We endowed each other with all our worldly goods..

Even before we married we just naturally put everything together, and 5 years of marriage joint accounts,house etc still works fine for us

It depends.

If you are not comfortable sharing your assets, don’t get married. Protect yourself if you feel you need to. If your partner is carrying or raising your child, you may look to ensure they are financially secure and comfortable and not losing out with the arrangement. Otherwise you are taking advantage of them, and actively disadvantaging them which is harmful.

Marriage is a legal contract, it creates security and permanence. You are there in sickness and in health. Consider if you are committed enough to the relationship to get married,

I have been married for 23 years, and we share everything, yes. Wealth, children, lives and are fully committed to each other,

if you are married that’s pretty much the contract you are signing. I’m sure you could pre-nup in the even of divorce?

I’m a second time rounder and whilst not wealthy I do own my house. I share the benefit of this with my partner and our family. If we were to split it would remain mine. I will leave it to my children in my inheritance (DP is not interested in living it anyways)

So go and find yourself a rich man then!

This!

Generally on here if a man has the wealth they are expected to share it but if a woman does they aren't.

Fairly young and the spouse will be limiting their career choices to support richer spouse and raise kids. Yes absolutely, it's a partnership.

Meeting later or not intending to have kids/give up work. Then a prenup is sensible. If the person who earns less is giving up a property /moving/changing jobs then it shoud be taken in to account.

I did when I was married. Following divorce, if I were to meet a life partner I wouldn't expect them to share and equally I wouldn't either. Everything will go to my DS. There would be a document in place and this would be made clear initially if a relationship were to get serious.

Tbh I'd there was a huge wealth difference I wouldn't get married.

Marriage is about legal rights and protections. If I didn't need those, I wouldn't enter into that contract.