To want the bedside lamp on!

[Trufflebutter24]

I sometimes want to get into bed and read but my husband often gets quite annoyed by the bedside lamp light being on, he says I’m inconsiderate asking for it to be kept on. Am I blind to my inconsideration?

The person who wants to sleep gets priority.

If you want to stay awake then go into a different room or go to bed earlier.

You need a Kindle Paper White thingy. No light needed.

I remember wanting to read in bed and arguing with my dh about it.

I like to read in bed. Difficult one

I have a Lumie light alarm clock, you can turn it down on to a really low orange glow setting which is enough to read by but doesn’t disturb my partner, maybe try that if you don’t want to use a kindle.

I wouldn't be able to sleep with any light on, but my DH likes the bedroom window open, I don't. My DH likes the radiator in the bedroom turned off, I don't. My DH snores which keeps me awake, I snore which keeps DH awake. We are lucky to have separate bedrooms 🤣. Is that something you could do? If not, then being respectful of each other's preferences is needed in situations like these, where they can be accommodated of course.

I use an eye mask - DH likes to read in bed for a while before he drops off. I have a nice comfortable mask and it is no problem

I love reading ('real' books so def need a good lamp) but I feel sleeping gets the priority for the bed, sorry

I agree. Bed Is For sleeping in. If you want to read then go to bed half an hour before your DH and read. Come to an agreement about times.

Get a kindle , it’s pretty anti social to have a light on , even a clip light , if someone else wants to sleep .

Exactly

Me too I'm afraid. A kindle on low would be OK though.

I must admit I wouldn't be able to sleep with the light on but then I guess it's what you're used to or not. I love going to bed early to relax, we often watch tv in bed and I will go to sleep earlier than dh, and can sleep quite happily with him still watching the tv....as long as it's not too loud. Other people will think this is odd and unreasonable I guess, if they're not used to it.
I think your dh is not asking anything unreasonable tbh

I brought kobo ereader for this very reason and you can borrow library books on it

Hasn't it been proven in studies that light interferes with the production of the sleep hormone melatonin? Many people can't sleep well with lights on, me included. Getting ready to sleep in the dark helps with melatonin production, and therefore affects sleep quality too.

I think a 30 minute window for reading would be fair.
We all spent time instilling reading habits into our dc, especially at bedtime.
Why shouldn’t someone wind down with a book?

This is why I use a kindle. I do most of my reading in bed.

Doesn't everyone read in bed before they put the light out?

I thought that was the law common practise. .

I love to read in bed, but I go up before my husband for this reason. I don't think it's fair to have a light on when someone else is trying to sleep. If he even uses his phone in bed it keeps me awake! Could you just go up earlier, like I do?

If they share a bed with someone then they need to go up to bed early if they want to read.

If their partner comes in wanting to sleep then the lights get put out and they can either go to sleep themselves or leave the bedroom.

This is another reason I always preferred separate bedrooms.

Completely depends on the time.
Are you having it on when he only has 8 hours or less of sleep time remaining?in that case you would be being unreasonable as it may keep him awake.
If he's got like a 9 hour stretch to sleep in then having the lamp on for 30 mins to read before lying down, is fine.

That's me then

I read on a Kindle for this reason as the backlight gives me enough light to read in bed without disturbing DH. I do then have a neck light for when I'm reading paper books