To want the bedside lamp on!

[Trufflebutter24]

I sometimes want to get into bed and read but my husband often gets quite annoyed by the bedside lamp light being on, he says I’m inconsiderate asking for it to be kept on. Am I blind to my inconsideration?

That would still keep me awake.
My husband is fast asleep with a 100 watt bulb on.
Maybe have a rule - lights out by 10 or something.

I think the PP was joking... 🤔

I do it because marriage is about compromise. If he tries a sleep mask and hates it then fair enough, but at least try it. I need a window open for fresh air to sleep without getting a headache so the sleep mask works for summer mornings when daylight is pouring in at 5am too. Honestly, sleep masks are a game changer!

in a bedroom sleeping always trumps reading.

Surely just read in the living room until you want to go to bed. You can take a blanket and be in pjs.

I couldn’t sleep in one. I can barely wear necklace in bed without feeling strangled.

It’s just another thing someone else has to do where there is a perfectly good reading/watching space to me. The person reading/watching is choosing to do so in that room. The bed is in that room because it’s a bedroom.

Just like if dh falls asleep on the sofa I’d be like go to bed you’re tired. I wouldn’t go to bed to then watch tv so he can sleep on the sofa in the awake space of the house.

It’s Mumsnet you never know 🤣

We both have bedside lights and mine is lit until I go to sleep which is later than DH goes to sleep. He doesn't moan unless it's really late and I remind him I don't moan when he puts his on at stupid o'clock to get dressed and wakes me up. I just turn over and go back to sleep.

I would say as long as it's not the big light he needs to turn over and sleep through it.

I don't want to be sat downstairs reading - I want to be snuggled in bed with my cuppa and my book.

Same, I cannot sleep with DH bedside light on. We both read in bed and he usually he turns out his light before me but I continue to read my Kindle after turning my bedside light off too. He sometimes continues to read his Kindle and the glow from that doesn't bother me.

A Kindle will be your friend.

I'd sleep much better with a small light on.

Oooooor she could go downstairs and read, while he goes to bed in the bedroom. You know, the room meant for sleeping in?

We've got an unofficial rule that whoever goes to bed first gets to choose.

If I'm already in bed reading when dp comes up, then he'll put up with me reading a couple more chapters or will go in the spare room.

If I go up 2nd and he's already in bed and sleeping or trying to sleep, then I'll either go to sleep or listen to a podcast or audiobook with my headphones on.

fine if he can sleep but OP is keeping her DP awake! It’s not fair.. How would you like it ?

This is our problem too. People saying read downstairs, this doesn't work as I wake up going to bed. I hate the dark and sleep with a light on anyway if I'm alone and tbh I don't really understand needing it to he dark to sleep, you close your eyes and then it's dark 🤷‍♀️. Our compromise is I have a Kindle, although OH will compromise by putting up with the light for a little while.

My dh is same as your DH and I've had to accept it as it is the sleeping room. I read on the kindle app on my phone.

How ridiculous to start a thread about this. Of COURSE you are being unreasonable. And selfish. If you want to have a light on - to read or look at your phone, go in the lounge. The bedroom is for sleeping in.

Daft! 🙄

I can't sleep with the light on so I got my husband one of these and it's brilliant, doesn't disturb my sleep at all.

ReadingLight

You are joking, right...?

Kindle app on your phone.

If He doesn’t like it he can sleep downstairs

The most unreasonable remark on AIBU this week.

I've got a lovely satin eye mask that blocks all light out. Treat DH to one.

HAS to be a joke! Imagine the uproar on here if a poster said her DH had made her go downstairs to sleep on the couch, while he watched the football on the TV in the bedroom! Posters would be screaming 'LTB! He is abusive and controlling!' And they would be right!

Kindle with the light turned down to 4 or 5. I still sometimes fall asleep with it on but I think it turns off eventually.

Kindle is the answer. Or go to bed 1/2 hour before he does