AIBU to feel a little upset no-one has asked about my love life since separation/divorce

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I was 39 when we got together, and I'll be 60 this year, but people say I look younger and it's starting to bother me that no-one ever asks if I'm seeing anyone, thinking about seeing anyone, interested in seeing someone...

Is almost 60 just too old to bother?

YABU - Of course you're too old to bother with 'dating' and all that...
YANBU - Of course you're not too old to find romance again...

I don't like asking my single friends if they're seeing anyone. I feel like it makes it out that being in a relationship is something they have to do. Plenty of people are happily single

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I don’t ask single friends about their love life unless I know that’s welcomed, because I don’t want them to feel like I think they need someone in their life or that they aren’t enough on their own.

Utterly bizarre thing to be annoyed about. You have a mouth, why don't you just tell people rather than wait to be asked?!

I can't vote on those options, but YABU to expect people to ask. It's no-one's business, really.

If you're not looking to date, there's nothing more grating that folks constantly asking if you are or when you're going to get back to it.
If you are and want to share, then do so.

Let's get right to it 🤣🤣🤣.

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I don’t think you’re too old to find anyone but I do think you’re unreasonable to be upset that people don’t ask you about it. It’s horrible and intrusive to have people quiz you about your love life when you are single. I had years of it before I met my DP but if I’m single again I will tell people to fuck off if they ask me about my love life.

Because they see you often and assume that if you wanted them to know something you would tell them. I would assume that too and wouldn't want to be nosy.

I have been single for over a decade. No one asks if I’m seeing anyone as it’s my private life and if I had something I wanted to share then I would.

I find it weirder that you're bothered about this, very strange post

I'm 48 and got separated three years ago - no one asked me. I never thought anything of it. I wouldn't ask anyone what was happening with their love like as an adult! Close friends you would know anyway as you would chat, and anyone else too intrusive. I remember being in my twenties and older relatives asking if I was 'courting' and I just found it odd and intrusive, even as a younger woman. In fact, yesterday I was called out the blue by a former colleague who wanted some work information and she did ask, and I found it a bit bizarre! Don't worry about anyone else and concentrate on living your life to the fullest.

I think people are more wary of these conversations the older we get, as it can be more of a touchy subject and they probably don't want to offend or make you sad if it turns out you're not seeing anyone or haven't met anyone. I've heard kids of stories of people meeting their soulmates later in life, get out there, you will find your person it's never too late!

For what it’s worth, I’m planning on looking for a parter later in life! Always assumed I would, really. I’ve never wanted children and was quite a later developer myself. By the time I felt ready to date / knew the type of person I wanted to couple up with, all the best men had long been snapped up. I expect I will be some lovely man’s second partner, ideally aged 50+ when his children are all grown. Step-grandmother feels like a role I would enjoy. Not so close as to take any direct responsibility but close enough to take an interest. Retirement will be the romantic time in my life, I am sure of it!

People being respectful I think, nothing more.