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Original poster

To think DH a bit of a stupid twat?

60 replies

NaughtyNigella · 04/05/2008 14:13

DH went off to reading beer festival yesterday. he does these little trips with a mate fairly often. I drove them to the train, they had planned to get a certain train there and back and then a bus back to our town from the station.

phone rings at 10.30. DH in very noisy pub saying. 'i can't hear you' over and over.
then he rings back to say 'we're in oxford. we got on the wrong train and can't get back'.

DD2 in bed with a friend sleeping over. I'd had 2 glasses of wine so wasn't driving anywhere. so I yelled that down the phone.

DH repeating drunkenly down the phone 'i'm in oxford'

me yelling 'step out of the pub you wanker'

DH dared suggest I go to pick them up - along the lines of 'can't you come and get me?'

me 'are you out of your fucking mind? have you forgotten we have children?'

conversation ends with DH shouting something about trying to get a train then a taxi.

There are NO taxis around the village where the station is or our town after 10 in the evening. you can't just phone a taxi!

I think sod it and went to bed. he is after all a grown up.

DH somehow manages to get home around 3 this morning.

I have no idea how as i'm not speaking to him. I think maybe they got a taxi. how much would that have cost??????

Is he a stupid twat wanker for managing to get on the wrong train?

Is he even stupider to expect me to leave DD2 and friend in bed and drive to reading to get him?

what should I punish him with?

OP posts:
Crunchie · 04/05/2008 14:16

he knows he is a twat, he also knows he was asking a stupid question.

Why do you need to punish him??

Original poster
NaughtyNigella · 04/05/2008 14:18

because he is a twat. I am not therefore he needs a suitable punishment.
oh and he doesn't remember what he did wrong. also needs punishing.

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Saturn74 · 04/05/2008 14:20

He made a mistake.
I can see why his drunken phone calls annoyed you.
He's home safely now.
I don't understand why would you punish him - he's an adult.

KaSo · 04/05/2008 14:24

He could easily have got a taxi from Oxford station!! It'd cost a kings ransom but that's his problem!!
I can see why in his drunken state he thought that getting you to collect him would be a good idea though!
Hope his head hurts this morning!

dividedself · 04/05/2008 14:36

Ok, so this tale is a little tongue in cheek and he was indeed being a twat but...You're not talking to him? Maybe when you both behave as adults rather than child/child and mummy/naughty son...............?

FluffyMummy123 · 04/05/2008 14:41

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dividedself · 04/05/2008 14:42

at cod.

TheFallenMadonna · 04/05/2008 14:43

Blimey.

Is this a wind up? Or are you Johnso by another name?

TheFallenMadonna · 04/05/2008 14:44

Well, OK, not that bad. I apologise. But are you really not talking to him?

Hecate · 04/05/2008 14:49

Yup, I can see how it's one of those things that pisses you off. It's no big deal though, is it? I get the feeling you're just having a rant. we all do. You should read some of mine about my poor husband I remember one time he phoned me up and spent 5 minutes trying to talk to me while vomiting . My revenge is to set the dogs kids on him in the morning and watch him suffer [evil]

Go and make him a cuppa. He got drunk. He behaved like a drunk. It's not worth falling out over. Be really really nice and understanding (because that makes em feel worse )

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NaughtyNigella · 04/05/2008 15:13

am talking to him really, but was cross last night. have cheered myself up by visiting the garden centre for my vegetable garden-to-be.
if i am going out i make sure the children are looked after (usually by him admittedly), i know exactly how i am getting home and never get so pished i can't find my way or get on the wrong train. but then I am perfect and know that mere humans do have trouble keeping up with my high standards of perfection.
In fact i am so perfect and nice that i have allowed him to go for a little lie down while i entertain the children (well actully they're on the wii and i'm here)

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Hecate · 04/05/2008 15:18

Well done. Now he owes you.

VictorianSqualor · 04/05/2008 15:30

Where did he have to get to from Oxford?

Original poster
NaughtyNigella · 04/05/2008 15:32

swindonish - but not into swindon itself.
v costly?

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VictorianSqualor · 04/05/2008 15:37

DP says about £30, so between the two of them not too much difference to the train fare, so don't be too harsh on him

readytoswiggin · 04/05/2008 15:38

I expect so. I am 12 miles from Oxford, and a taxi at that time of night would be v costly. I guess phoning you seemed a good idea at the time, and at least you knew where he was roughly.

Mine is drunk/hungover/hair-of-the-dogging most weekends, and like hecate I set the wee beasties on him

Chequers · 04/05/2008 15:39

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NaughtyNigella · 04/05/2008 15:41

EXACTLY. in a pub in bloody oxford even - that is the bit that narked me.
will do the same to hime next time i go out.
oh no i forgot - i don't get to go out - am too busy working/looking after the DDs/being perfect

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TheFallenMadonna · 04/05/2008 15:43

I am only so sympathetic to your DH because I've got on the wrong train once. And I wasn't even drunk...

themoon66 · 04/05/2008 15:44

Not unreasonable to think he is a twat, no.

My DH once got off the train 20 miles early and rang me to come and get him. I had only had DS 3 or 4 days and DD was aged 4. I had to get them both up and out at 10pm to drive 35 miles to get him.

Oh.. and his reason for getting off the train 20 miles early? He was bored with sitting on it

VictorianSqualor · 04/05/2008 15:48

Oh yh I didn't think about the being in a pub thing, he could've easily got a train from oxford to swindon at 10:30pm, they run up until about midnight so why didn't he just get on the next train?
Hmm, I'd be slighlty more annoyed after thinking about it, it's not as if the pubs are even right next to the train station in Oxford.

readytoswiggin · 04/05/2008 15:49

Bored with sitting on a train?

I'd have told him to walk!

He'd have had to gone for 5-10mins potter to reach the pub, I used to leave near the station, and the nearest is 5mins walk, and that is a quiet backstreet local type place.

Original poster
NaughtyNigella · 04/05/2008 15:51

so general consensus?
he is a twat?
i am not unreasonable and perfect in every way?

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Chequers · 04/05/2008 15:53

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shatteredmumsrus · 04/05/2008 15:54

My dp is in the bad books too. Went out for a quiet drink at 7 fri night and came back at 8am! Havent spoke to him since, He bought me a huge bunch of flowers this morning and I am now goin round to my friends to get pissed, cant wait!He has just took the kids out for lunch and then the wacky. There are some perks to living with a twat!