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To think DH a bit of a stupid twat?

60 replies

NaughtyNigella · 04/05/2008 14:13

DH went off to reading beer festival yesterday. he does these little trips with a mate fairly often. I drove them to the train, they had planned to get a certain train there and back and then a bus back to our town from the station.

phone rings at 10.30. DH in very noisy pub saying. 'i can't hear you' over and over.
then he rings back to say 'we're in oxford. we got on the wrong train and can't get back'.

DD2 in bed with a friend sleeping over. I'd had 2 glasses of wine so wasn't driving anywhere. so I yelled that down the phone.

DH repeating drunkenly down the phone 'i'm in oxford'

me yelling 'step out of the pub you wanker'

DH dared suggest I go to pick them up - along the lines of 'can't you come and get me?'

me 'are you out of your fucking mind? have you forgotten we have children?'

conversation ends with DH shouting something about trying to get a train then a taxi.

There are NO taxis around the village where the station is or our town after 10 in the evening. you can't just phone a taxi!

I think sod it and went to bed. he is after all a grown up.

DH somehow manages to get home around 3 this morning.

I have no idea how as i'm not speaking to him. I think maybe they got a taxi. how much would that have cost??????

Is he a stupid twat wanker for managing to get on the wrong train?

Is he even stupider to expect me to leave DD2 and friend in bed and drive to reading to get him?

what should I punish him with?

OP posts:
readytoswiggin · 04/05/2008 15:55

he's a twat!

I think it is a common theme that our dh's are additional children if that makes sense.

themoon66 · 04/05/2008 15:56

chequers its many years ago now and he did learn a harsh lesson that night. I didn't 'get around' to picking him up until gone 1am.. when DS woke for his feed

Chequers · 04/05/2008 15:59

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mumeeee · 04/05/2008 18:05

He is your Dh,not a child and he made a mistake. Just grow up.

Janni · 04/05/2008 18:28

Can we extend this thread to cover the recent misdemeanours of our DPs please??

Mine said 'keep the weekend free, don't make any plans for the children and we might be able to go away somewhere'.

He then proceeded to be caught up with preparing a rental flat for new tenants, which took from Friday morning to this afternoon at 5 p.m. He didn't even come home last night. Oh, lots of apologetic phone calls, but when I asked him how come he didn't KNOW it was all going to take so long, he blamed anyone and everything other than his own innate belief that he is some sort of superman

Buckets · 04/05/2008 18:30

Yes he is a twat but you don't punish your partner - it's no way to run a grown up relationship. By not talking to him you are setting him up to fail again because he won't know exactly what he's done, how much it hurt (you might just get filed under moody mare) and he certainly won't be able to make amends to your satisfaction. Scream and shout at the time, then you wait til he's able to comprehend your grievance and tell him how he can start to make up for it. But then you let it go and move on.

sillytilly · 04/05/2008 18:32

God, calm down, most people get drunk one time or another and miss a train

you sound very vitriolic, I can't ever imagine calling dh a twat, especially to a load of people on a talk board.

VictorianSqualor · 04/05/2008 18:36

Lol@calm down, she calmed down hours ago, when she said she was talking to him and she'd been fine with him going for a lay-down.

Tbh, I don't think twat is too harsh a word either, I've definitely seen much worse on here for lesser things...

NaughtyNigella · 04/05/2008 18:58

i love my DH
he is kind, cooks, cleans, looks after the DDs when i'm at work.

but

he

is

a

TWAT.

he's a bloke. he can't help it. and yes he does need a little punishment occasionally to keep him in line or he'll go getting ideas.

me vitriolic?

OP posts:
Pavlovthecat · 04/05/2008 19:01

Managed to get the wrong train, and upon realising this, found himself in a pub?!

LOL!

Iamthedoctor · 04/05/2008 20:04

Punishment?

Is he 3? Should he sit on the naughty step?!

Its not THAT difficult to get on the wrong train! I can understand why you'd be a bit miffed at the time - but, really, I think you should let it go! Life is too short! Tell him you were peed with him, but tell him you love him!

kittywise · 04/05/2008 20:10

You don't sound a very nice person NN, I feel sorry for your dh tbh!

Quattrocento · 04/05/2008 20:17

Your DH was clearly being unreasonable but I have to say you sound like Mrs Whiplash

You could flog him to death maybe then burn him alive?

Sounds reasonable doesn't it?

BarcodeZebra · 04/05/2008 20:55

I think living with you sounds like punishment enough.

I know we're all shit (that is the received opinion on here isn't it?) and so, clearly, do you.

It begs the question, then, of why in the name of the wee man do you bother getting close enough to any of us to let us get your knickers off - let alone pregnant?

Gah!

cosima · 04/05/2008 20:58

kick him, then make him clean the bathroom, and shout you dirty pig at him till he howls like a silly dog

CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 04/05/2008 21:00

YANBU

men are stupid.

You just get used to it

NaughtyNigella · 04/05/2008 22:11

i have him dressed in his gimp outfit - chained to my dungeon wall.
that'll teach him to make me cross.

when he is properly penitent i may let him out. but only if he apologises properly.

OP posts:
Iamthedoctor · 04/05/2008 22:24

It wouldn't suprise me if you were being serious...

kittywise · 04/05/2008 22:27

Me neither. Some control issues here perhaps?
You don't show respect for your dh on this thread. I don't think you should come on here and slag him off for doing next to nothing.
I suspect there are issues which run far deeper than this, perhaps you could discuss those?

lilolilmanchester · 04/05/2008 22:28

he was drunk, you were cross, it happens - in our house it's usually the other way round! If it's a one off/rare event, not worth dragging it out, kiss and make up. If it's happening all the time, then it's a different matter.

Olihan · 04/05/2008 22:34

My word. There's a serious lack of sense of humours around MN at the moment .

I can't believe how many of you are taking this seriously.

Can you not see that NN is joking?

That this is a lighthearted thread?

NN, keep him in the dungeon and only feed him turkey twizzlers and fruit shoots until he sees the error of his ways. (Will Turkey Twizzlers fit through the gimp mask or would a pureed Greggs sausage roll be better?)

Iamthedoctor · 04/05/2008 22:35

I don't think it sounded like a lighthearted thread, at all! If I saw my DH posting such things about me online, I would be livid.

lilolilmanchester · 04/05/2008 22:46

so Olihan, where are the clues that it is a joke? How do we know when someone needs help (like the poster on the verge of suicide a month or so ago) and something like this? I thought the OP had over-reacted, but hadn't picked up on it being a hoax. Please explain...

Olihan · 04/05/2008 22:48

'but then I am perfect and know that mere humans do have trouble keeping up with my high standards of perfection.
In fact i am so perfect and nice that i have allowed him to go for a little lie down while i entertain the children (well actully they're on the wii and i'm here)'

'so general consensus?
he is a twat?
i am not unreasonable and perfect in every way?'

'he's a bloke. he can't help it. and yes he does need a little punishment occasionally to keep him in line or he'll go getting ideas.

me vitriolic?'

They're clearly not serious statements. I realise it's not always easy to gauge a jokey tone from written posts but you can't honestly think they are anything other than silliness?

Olihan · 04/05/2008 22:53

And it's not a hoax, it's a joke. A hoax is when you deliberately try to deceive people into believing something.

All NN appears to be doing is having a daft moan about her dh's drunken antics.

I don't think there's any need for people to be quite so aggressive and humourless about things.

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