What time do you put your 9 year old to bed?

[starrynights8]

Dd is just turning 9 and thinks her bedtime is too early. She goes to bed at 7 does this sound too early on a school night?

And watching a DVD!

OP work on the sleeep hygiene... cut out the screens, try reading with her 7-7:30 and then lights out.

That’s why it seems early to me too, we’ve got 3 clubs that finish at 7/7:15 so we’d never see her with a 7:30 bedtime!

My nine year old goes up at 8.30 and is allowed to read until he falls asleep. He wakes at seven for school. No screens allowed before bed.

My 8 year old goes around 9.30, asleep by 10ish. Up at 7.30/45am. Later at weekends and on holidays. He wouldn't go to sleep if we sent him any earlier.

Maybe consider something screen free like an audio player. We have a Yoto and my DS8 has used it every night for nearly 4 years to help him get to sleep. He goes up at 8, we usually read until 8.30ish

7pm is way too early. Reading or an audiobook js much better than watching a movie before bedtime.

My 10 year old goes between 7pm and 7.30 listening to a audible book. Might stay up a little later 8pm /8.30 as the weekend but can't do this too often as he starts to get overtired.

Mine have always got up early regardless of bedtimes and I've never had to wake any of them up.

My youngest who is 8 goes to bed at 9pm, reads for a few mins then is out like a light. He sleeps until 740am usually. He's always had that amount of sleep, putting him to bed early meant him getting up early. He is always full of energy so it works for him.

We have a no screen policy in bed, he reads his book and that sends him to sleep

Sounds ridiculously early for her age plus watching a DVD before bed isn't great.

My 8 year old goes up at 7:30 ish with the aim of being in bed and lights out by about 8:15 - she has to be up by 6:45 as we leave for school at 7:30 and it’s always hard work getting her out of bed in the morning.

9yo step daughter goes to bed at about 8, usually falls asleep really quickly.

I do think 7 is quite early and you'd be best trying to drop the dvd, it's not a good habit to have.

My 8yo (nearly 9) goes to bed at 9.15. Usually asleep by 9.30.

None of my children have ever had a 7pm bedtime. We both work and wouldn't see them if that was the case.

Mine is lights out at 9ish, normally asleep by 9:30/10, up at 0700. Any earlier would be a frustrating waste of time for all of us.

It really depends on if they're getting up on time and cheerfully. My son (8) doesn't need anywhere near as much sleep as my daughter )
(12) so he often goes to bed after her or gets up hours before her. Every kid is different.

He goes to bed at 9 and up for 7 nowadays. At the same age she was in bed for 8

Some nights my DD isn't back from classes til almost 7pm then has to have dinner. In bed between 8.30/9pm but won't fall asleep straight away. No idea how as she is up for school every morning then afterschool care then clubs x4 a week - just a night owl I think!

I remember my parents used to make me go to bed early (although no TV) and I would spend ages just tossing and turning not ready to sleep. Even worse in the summer when I could hear other children out playing and the room was still light with no blackout curtains!

My 9 year old has lights out around 8.15pm in term time and is up around 7.15am.

In bed with lights off by 8.30/8.40. Up at 6.30 on school days.

7pm seems early for a 9yo and falling asleep to a dvd is a bad habit to get into, can you switch to an audio book?

mine is upstairs at 8/8.30, lights off by 9.

Oh an audio book is a great idea!

Or what time they wake up. DS1 was a late sleeper and late riser (comparatively, for each age) from babyhood. DS2 has always got tired earlier and woken earlier - he went through that horrendous toddler phase of 5.30am to 5.45am every morning, and if he was put to bed later still woke at WTF o clock but was grumpy and tired with it. Even aged 10, DS2 will leap out of bed full of the joy of living, eager to attack his day <😴> He doesn't need to wake until 7.45am, but there's snow in hell before he sleeps in that late, it's usually 7.30am at the latest. I am totally a night owl, and was soothed into a false sense of security by toddler DS1 waking at 8.30am at the absolute earliest.

@starrynights8 7????? Bloody hell. That is very early. My 9yr old & I wouldn't get any time to play together on an evening if she went to bed at 7!
DD's bedtime is 9:30

7 at ten years old? Wow. There's still kids playing outside here until 8, 9 in the spring & summer

My DD at 10 was doing some sport after school, piano lessons, string orchestra and choir. Going to bed at 7 was never on. Busy dc just don’t need that amount of sleep. 12 hours is a lot at 10. Y7 boarding school lights out was 9pm. Y8 was 9.30. My DDs had stamina!

I cannot picture how a DVD would be set up to help her get to sleep, how can she be lying down with head on the pillow and still see a screen?

Funnily enough TV gets me to sleep very effectively, as I invariably fall asleep on the sofa in front of the TV! But I am 51!

To answer the question my 8 year old is in bed at 8:30 and would find 7 very early, he’s at after school club till 6 most days.

Bed is around 10 pm nowadays 😬