Am I being prudish, or do I have a point?

[AmIJustAPrude]

NC for this.

I've just sent the following email to a company I ordered underwear from:

I've just received my order confirmation and was quite shocked by the accompanying image. I don't want to screenshot it to resend, so hopefully you can work out the image I mean: it is of two women/girls lying on their fronts outside wearing black pants.

The woman (I hope) or girl on the left is very thin, which immediately made me assume she was a teenager. One of her breasts is clearly visible.

I'm not prudish about breasts at all, but it made me extremely uncomfortable to receive an image of what appears to be an almost-naked teenage girl. Given you also sell bras, it seems totally unnecessary for her to be completely topless.

I recommend you review the images you send out to your customers, as this has put me off using your company again.

As I say, I don't have an issue with breasts- I've breastfed in public many a time. It was mainly the fact that, based on her body shape, the woman/girl in the photo looks very young (post-pubescent, but pre-adult) and the exposed breast was completely unnecessary.

So what do you think: did I overreact?

I doubt I'll be going to jail for this so here's the picture.

It's perfectly normal and no nipple in sight.

Being thin doesn't mean you look like a teenager. Women are so hard on other women's bodies.

Every day I wish to leave this accursed website, but then I see stuff like this and think “All right, you’ve earned one more day”.

This is of absolutely no assistance to me in evaluating the gratuitous or otherwise nature of the image you complained about, but I'm willing to bet it'll make my top 10 Things Seen On Mumsnet for 2025. 10/10, OP!

If her arms were (partially) cropped out with her face, then you would have fewer clues to realise it was her elbow.

Just trying to make you feel better 😁

I agree. I’m petite, thin with nearly nonexistent breasts. Reading things like the OP is disheartening to be honest, to be compared to a teenage girl.

I know the company and they use all sizes and shapes of models, in this case the editorial image was of someone of a thin body shape. So what.

Ah yes, thank you. That was when she thought it was an image of a teenager so I do get it. Now we know it is an adult’s elbow the drawing is even more hilarious.

If it's any consolation, OP, I LOVE you. For everything you have posted on this thread.

may I ask..

what are we, middle-aged women, supposed to choose?

I wonder if I should start questioning my underwear choices, have I been so wrong all these years?

If my "too colourful" pants are "too quirky"
Where do we stand on black lace pants? Too slutly?

I really don't think I am 'abusing' women for being too thin. Just saying that, without the context of a face, a thin woman's body could easily be mistaken for that of a teenager.

Depends on the mind of the person reading it!!!

@User776532 they’re not aimed at middle aged women, they’re aimed at 20 something young women with few responsibilities and full time jobs. I work with a fair few of them, still live at home on a full time nursing salary (30k plus) and so have a thousand pounds a month to spend on themselves while saving for a house deposit. That’s why the taste is a little “young” in places. Nothing to do with kinks or anything creepy, just young women with money to burn.

Beige granny panties.

Nothing sexy, especially if you're thin.

You’re judging a picture of a slim woman and immediately assuming it’s a teenage girl, so much so that you emailed them. I think this is offensive, personally.

Hang on, if that's an elbow, where is her boob? 😄

I haven't read the whole thread or seen the picture which I gather wasn't what the OP thought it was anyway. I've looked at the website though and liked the knickers but they are very expensive.

Bless you, OP! Having a mind tuned into safeguarding is a curse at times. I can’t relax in a public place where DC aren’t being properly supervised as I’m on the edge of my seat to catch toddlers heading for the river etc.

And the need for obsessive protectiveness with your phone. I get it.

Bless you! I clicked on the link and back again and thought I too had seen said boob.

She’s extremely slender so it doesn’t show. 😆

Remember, Women of any age can be so slender their boobs don’t show when they are reclining…!

It’s not a wedding ring, wrong hand.

Should have gone to specsavers🤣

Do you equate being heavier with being older?

Does a teenager look 40 of she's overweight?

I'm trying to wrap my head around this.

yes, shocking ... nearly as bad as these pink knickers with hand-drawn darker pink hearts and pastel-pink leopard print ones sold by that notorious purveyor of smut, Marks & Spencer's ....

I'm sure your email will have given them a good laugh ! 😆😆

It looks like her elbow but I agree she looks like a young girl. Mid teens perhaps.

Yes probably you are right. Either that or they already had the foresight to expect a complaint and edited out!

I would not send a grovelling apology. You have done some good advertising for them.