Am I being prudish, or do I have a point?

[AmIJustAPrude]

NC for this.

I've just sent the following email to a company I ordered underwear from:

I've just received my order confirmation and was quite shocked by the accompanying image. I don't want to screenshot it to resend, so hopefully you can work out the image I mean: it is of two women/girls lying on their fronts outside wearing black pants.

The woman (I hope) or girl on the left is very thin, which immediately made me assume she was a teenager. One of her breasts is clearly visible.

I'm not prudish about breasts at all, but it made me extremely uncomfortable to receive an image of what appears to be an almost-naked teenage girl. Given you also sell bras, it seems totally unnecessary for her to be completely topless.

I recommend you review the images you send out to your customers, as this has put me off using your company again.

As I say, I don't have an issue with breasts- I've breastfed in public many a time. It was mainly the fact that, based on her body shape, the woman/girl in the photo looks very young (post-pubescent, but pre-adult) and the exposed breast was completely unnecessary.

So what do you think: did I overreact?

No it’s not.

god have we really lost sight of what a slim woman looks like. This is just so disturbing,

Also, as someone else mentioned the knickers look like the same ones you'd get in primark. You've been ripped off. But I guess they need to pay for their 'risqué' marketing somehow 🤣

That's not even a breast. That's a fucking elbow!!!

what a weird comment. Your comment before editing was even weirder. She looks like a normal slim adult woman.

For those asking - here is the “dead cat” thread…..
www.mumsnet.com/talk/mumsnet_classics/1318402-A-small-fluffy-bundle

Be as disturbed as you like. Facially as well as body wise she looks about 15 or 16.

Edited.

Are you looking at the same woman? 15?

Think you're right!

It doesn’t show any part of any breasts. OP just doesn’t know what elbows look like.

I edited as on the company website I couldn’t see her face and yes she looks young and under developed with no muscle. Then when I saw the picture here I could see her face and decided she looked like a mid teen. She resembles a teenage Brook Shields.

This is so very sad. How are those patterns childish? I thought you were going to say they were selling Paw Patrol for adults! And even then if that’s what you want to wear who am I to judge.

At what age are we supposed to age out of these patterns and presumably into what… sexy lingerie, sucky in pants, over the stomach knickers or your basic black, white and browns? The ones you listed are my basic every day go to style. Not too sexy and not too boring.

FWIW I would class my pastel leopard print pants as sexy and not childish tyvm.

No other lingerie company offers adult size knickers with those sort of kiddy designs on them.

Incorrect. You can buy these styles from the majority of lingerie companies. I buy mine from Boux Avenue, Lounge Underwear and Victoria’s Secret. They obviously all specialise in sexier underwear but they sell these as your every day stuff too. I’ve even seen pastel leopard print knickers in M&S! I’m sure you’d be aghast if you ever walked into the Primark women’s underwear section. They have stands and stands of the stuff.

I’m shocked that someone thinks this is a 15 year old. If someone said she was 36 I’d believe them.

Yes. 15/16.

YABVU you do realise some woman are flat chested? I have Pcos and naturally completely flat chested (AA) and slim.

I think you're being ridiculous. The company uses a range of 'body types' to advertise their produce and there is nothing about a female nipple that is offensive or inappropriate.

I think it's the poses some of them strike - you don't need to pout or look coquettish to model stockings.

Laughing so much here about it being an elbow! Sure the company will see the funny side too OP.

Me too! My fat ass is no good for unforgiving next, and M&S seem to have stopped doing a normal knicker now.. they look comfy but £18 a pair is a lot to try out 😮

She does look like Brooke Shields but not Brooke Shields as a teen.

“Underdeveloped” is a very weird way to describe a woman who is clearly at least mid 20s, with a completely normal slim body.

please tell me you are overweight without telling me you are overweight.

oh the irony

I am slimmer than that model. I am in my mid 50s. You would be able to tell I am not a young woman as my skin does not look like the models.
There is more than just shape that indicates someone's age.

Her face doesn't show on the desktop site, so I hadn't seen it. That looks like a full grown woman. Not even a particularly young one.

Everything has always been sexualised, including advertising for underwear. Two woman lying on the grass minding their own business is fairly tame compared to what was going on first years ago. Tits ahoy and bulges galore. In your face.

This is how advertising has always worked since advertising began. This isn't a new phenomenon.