Unused embryos - is this a ridiculous thought?

[Whattodonowandthen]

This is probbly going to sound odd, but emotionally, it would bring me the greatest closure.

I've been lucky enough to complete my family, due to the miracle of IVF. I do however have four embryos still at the clinic. Every year, I pay for storage and the reality is I cant bear the thought of them being 'destoyed'.

They legally cannot be donated, nor used for research.

The only way i feel like i could emotionally say goodbye to them would be if I had them transferred back into me, but at a time of my cycle that means they would not result in a pregnancy.

I know that sounds ridiculous, but it would feel like they were at least coming to a natural end in me, not in a petri dish.

Is this even a legal option? Has anyone else considered this? Any words of advice if it's not possible?

Couldn't decide whether to ignore your most provocatively disgusting comment as you clearly are looking for some kind of reaction or whether to pull you up on it ! Couldn't hold my tongue so needed to say - seems you have never been in the position of yearning for a child and needed medical intervention to help that happen. Not interested in what other reasons you feel IVF is a bad idea as imagine they are as ill informed as the first one. Thank all the powers that be that the pioneers of IVF didn't have your mindset.

@Pollyanna87 Let me guess. I bet you managed to concieve all your children with no problems. If you don't mind sod off. Shame I can't say what I want to say...

Being over 40 ours were donated for research no age restrictions that.

Even if we were under 40 and able to donate to another couple. I don't think that is something I'd have wanted to do.

Same. I would only give them to research.

Had the same situation in Greece. They were able to use for research but not donate to a person who needed them. She has tears in her eyes when she told me this. According to my Greek doctor with the political situation in that country (a move to the left). Women’s rights and therefore fertility has regressed, she seemed to think it was headed that way in other countries too.

Love your idea. Wish I’d thought of it.

Having been through this myself, i understand how you feel

However it is rather a ridiculous thought to waste that money, time and resource

Maybe you should have counselling instead

Once i fianlly gave consent to destroy my embryo, i felt more at peace. Haven't looked back

I get you in the sense my clinic did not want me to freeze my extra embroys after my cycle as they felt they were not good enough quality and I should do fresh next cycle...and I was kind of no I can't let them die! Of course I did defrost and they didn't work unfortunately. If was wondering what I would do with them if I had decided I did not want any.
I think I would feel uncomfortable putting them in me to die in an environment I knew they were not going to survive in. BUT its really OK if this is what you want to do? If your clinic agrees and you will have closure in this way than go for it its not for other's to decide or judge you.

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Mine were also donated for research but over 18 years ago and not in the UK.

Speaking as somebody with eggs that apparently failed to launch - confirmed by an ultrasound, no hormone surge detected by two ovulation predictor kits and no temperature rise, I can tell you the baby is 23 years old now! I think you'd be taking an enormous risk to implant these if you think your family is complete. Presumably, every time you have a period you don't mourn a lost egg.

I had this same dilemma. I had 1 embryo left after 5 transfers and 3 children (all from the 1 cycle -we started with 6 embryos).

The specialist said a transfer into the wrong part of the cycle was something they could do (Australia).
I decided to do the transfer at the correct time to give it the best chance, and if it worked we would be happy. If it didn't we would be relieved. It didn't work. It was 50/50 for me it seems.

The transfer you are asking about is called a "compassionate transfer".