To let out spare bedroom to DH's friend or not?

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One of my DH's friend has moved to our city and looking for a short term rental for 4-5 months. We have a 4 bed house and 2 young DC- a toddler and a newborn. I am on mat leave which is generous. We are not in any need of extra cash but I feel tempted to suggest to DH to let out to his friend.
But, I am concerned that his friend may think it's not good that we are asking him to pay for rent for the room, I am not sure, just guessing. Also, I don't know how the grocery costs etc will work. We are in midlands and around my area, spare rooms are around 550-600.
My husband has known him for over 10 years, but I have only known him couple of months. My DS gets on well with him. I also feel uncomfortable breastfeeding around other people than just my family and I am also worried that I might feel like I can't move freely in my own house if he is sitting in lounge watching TV etc with my husband or toddler.
Can anyone please suggest if it's even worth letting out for getting extra £600 and some help with childcare as having an extra adult around the house helps but at the same time I will be stuck in a bedroom feeding baby as I definitely won't feel comfortable breastfeeding around him and won't be able to spend more time in evenings with my toddler.

So?
This man is a complete stranger to these children not a family member .

So it’s cheeky to expect men to do childcare but not women? Sexist much.

Surely a mate wouldn’t have to be that much?

We rented our spare room to a friend of DH’s, in our early 20s. Seemed like a great idea but having another adult there meant we never had time to ourselves, and his habits soon annoyed the hell out of us. I’d only do it if I was desperate for the cash.

Nothing to do with anyone's sex, he's a stranger and generally it's considered cheeky and unwise in equal measure to expect or allow a stranger renting to do childcare.
You can reach for sexist all you ĺike , nothing to do with it.

I just find it odd that it’s cheeky to expect a man to babysit but not a woman.

No.

You would need to treat like a lodger not as childcare. He would need to cook his own meals and not share.

He would hear you having sex.

You would need to get dressed before going downstairs etc

Dreadful idea!

I have zero idea what other thread you are talking about , the person is a stranger
Perchance you enjoy arguing about random made up things ?

No thank you

I think it's won't be worth for what it's worth.
I only mentioned childcare as he gets on well with my DS and he himself offered to look after kids if we need.
Also, £600 would be including rent, grocery, energy and water bills etc considering the CoL crisis, it's fair.

I’ve done it. The extra pair of hands was a god send with a baby. I still miss the lovely meals that I didn’t have to cook!

no its a bloody awful idea!!

you want a strange man around your children!?

he wont leave either, especially if he isnt paying

It is a terrible idea from his point of view and yours. Why do you seem so keen on it?

A question for people suggesting I shouldn't charge fair rent and utilities. Do you expect people to pay for others even if they are working full time. Isn't that bizarre.

I am not keen on it. It's just an idea, I thought of.

I thought it would be beneficial for both of us considering he is paying more than this as well as familiarity with DH.

Agree. I would only do this if I was starving and had no other way to generate extra income. Last thing I would want in life was a lodger w small kids.

I would hate this with a passion. Plus major risk of suddenly this man's undergarments slipping into your laundry. Before you know it you'll be cooking and washing for two kids and two men children, while never feeling you can relax in your own home.

1 week max as a favour if desperately needed

He probably wants someone to cook his meals and tidy the house. Plus cheap rent and he can hang w his mate.

He doesn't seems as opportunist as people asking here.

The two most likely bad outcomes are as a previous poster said:

You end up doing all the housework for two untidy men (plus children)
and
He and DH go back to living like single men in a flat share, leaving you out of activities and conversations

Don't do it.

If you don't need the money, I wouldn't do it. You have no idea what he'd be like to share a house with and having another man in the house means you have to cover up to walk from the bathroom to bedroom or nip to the loo in the night. You also wouldn't want to flop on the sofa in the morning and breastfeed in case he walks in. If it were me, I'd value my privacy too much.

I'm not going to vote because neither seems applicable here but if I were you I wouldn't offer the room out unless you put in place a very strict agreement relating to what is and isn't acceptable for this lodger, when rent is due, what they can use freely in the house & what they can't etc. etc. etc.

I've read wayyyy too many threads on MN where people bring in a lodger and it turns out terribly for them - so I really really wouldn't be offering up a spare room for anything longer than a week.

God no. Sounds like a recipe to spoil your mat leave and sour a friendship of your DH.

THIS