Dropping hours - AIBU

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Simple facts are DH and I both working full time. I’ve recently been on mat leave with baby who is 7 months.

Im finding 5 days too much and want to drop to 4. DH says he will ‘support’ it but resents me for it as it’s ‘the dream’ to only work 4 days per week. He hates his job.

I know the mumsnet standard is for the woman to just work full time but what do I do when I don’t actually want to work full time because I have a baby? AIBU? My head is so scrambled from arguing over it that I can’t think properly.

how us this fair that you use your savings? He should have fully supported you. He isn't a great guy, is he?
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I dropped to 4 days after our DC was born, if I’m honest I don’t even remember asking DH if it was ok, I checked the finances and sorted all child care and knew we would be ok financially.

its only temporary until they are at school. I would do it, he can resent it all he likes but he has options to do similar and if he isn’t doing it anything about it why should you suffer?

it sounds like he wants 4 days as he hates his job, rather than spending time with DC.

out of interest, who take DC to nursery, who collects? Who does the night wakings/feeds, who does the house hold?

I don't understand why he's pissed off? He's not losing out on anything (you're still paying the same)...in fact, you're saving you both money in childcare. Does he just want you to be as tired and hate your job as much as he does?

I work 4 days and DH is resentful though fully admits that our life runs better and the kids are happier. It's just not practical, affordable or possible in his current role for him to do 4 days or we'd definitely consider it.

If you can afford for 1 of you to do it then you absolutely should.

Honestly, don’t do it, he will resent you, see it as a day off (not a day of childcare) and will expect you to do lots of housework during this day. He will likely also take the opportunity to have you as the default person in charge of everything child related.
Part time is great, but the other parent need to
be fully on board and recognise that the other 6 days of the week you are equally in charge of the children and household.

Don't do it, you'll never hear the end of it.