AIBU to be annoyed by this comment from my MIL-to-be?

[Bixy14]

My OH and I got engaged in November and have now set a date for the wedding very soon. For context we’ve been together over 10 years and see both sets of our parents at least once/twice a month so feel we know each others families well.

Anyway at Christmas we spent the evening with his parents, older sister and sisters partner and MIL gave us gifts which included a bag of goodies/sweets. I started digging in (in appreciation!) and she snatched them off me and said ‘oops I forgot you’ll be a bride now!’

I was a bit in shock and didn’t really know what to say so I just laughed and OH’s sister said ‘Erm she can eat what she likes!’

I’m not an overweight person (not that I think this would be acceptable if I was!) and I’m sure she meant it as a joke, but I keep reliving the comment in my mind and getting really annoyed about it! I go between ‘what a strange thing to say’ and ‘how dare she!!?’

I’m very anti-diet culture and think as long as you are happy and comfortable no one should care what anyone’s bodies look like. I don’t plan on doing any crazy dieting or trying to change myself before the wedding as I just don’t believe it’s necessary, I am who I am and I look like what I look like! I would hate this kind of messaging to be passed down to any future children I may have.

I must know, AIBU to be annoyed about this?

That I can agree with. I am totally with the OP, in that I find diet culture very toxic and I think it is far too widespread, but as long as OP reinforces the message that she wants her children to hear.

Yes, and that's the important part. There is no point being anti anything if your approach to it involves trying to silence it, because with something like diet culture it's a losing battle. Grandma will not be a key influence in the child's life for more than a few years at most. Peers and media will be much more powerful and OP won't be able to switch that off, so really needs to have a strong counter argument in place when things she disagrees with are said. Its a much stronger influence than censorship.

It was just a mindless lighthearted comment. Don't sour your relationship over this.

Good for you, she has issues about weight, you don't :-) ignore her!