To want lazy mornings during the holidays

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My DH has just had a go at me about the school holidays. Our DC is 16 and has been staying up later than usual and getting up around midday.
I see absolutely no problem with this and am enjoying the lie ins myself.
But he thinks it's unhealthy and I should get up with him when he starts work (at home).
I just think he's being miserable or AMBU.
I said I think most families are probably the same but he disagrees

Same in my household. Originally felt bit guilty wasting day then thought majority of the year I'm up and working at 7.30. Sod it. Its nice to re charge

Your DH is probably just jealous that you two are having a lie in and he isn’t. Let him moan - what time you/DS get up at has no effect on him whatsoever

He’s a twat.

Get up with him and then sit in the kitchen alone while he works instead of in your warm bed?

Did he get up his normal time all over his Xmas hols?

We've been having lovely lie ins - normally up and out by 9am 7 days a week. It's been a gorgeous luxury.

Are you not working over the holidays?

But he thinks it's unhealthy and I should get up with him when he starts work (at home).

That's totally OK for him to think that. We all have opinions. But once he knows he can't control you and you'll do as you like, all good.

Of course YANBU.

I love not having to stick to times on the clock, but to be able to do what my body needs, in the holidays.

He IBU to try to demand you get up, just because he needs to. How does it possibly affect him, what you are doing with your days off ?

YANBU, he is!

What does he expect you to do while he's working? Sit and hold his hand? Just be up for the sake of it because he has to?

He is being a knob.

Obviously not, otherwise she would be having to get up wouldn't she? I'm back on Monday and have been enjoying getting up when I want while I can.

Is he your Dad? Are you a teenager? If not then he doesn't get a say in when you get up! Obviously if you had young children it is slightly different but otherwise he can get to fuck.

For context my DH was back on Friday but absolutely no expectation that me or DS(9) would be up at the same time as him.

Ha ha ha ! he is just jealous as hell. I've been in his shoes and had to trudge off to work in the dark on 27th December. (please note actually go to the office and not WFH) Got ready downstairs and silently so I didn't disturb sleeping DH and DS and walk down my dark street for the bus at 7.30am while all the neighbours houses were in darkness. Yes I was very envious too but I wouldn't have everyone else up just because I was!
This happened for years but my work has decided we may as well shut down now between Christmas and New Year so we have had the luxury of everyone off for 2 weeks and it's been bloody brilliant!
What a nob tell him he can fuck right off! - 'unhealthy' my arse.

I’ve probably got a bit of an unhealthy mindset on this as I was always made to get up as a child. For that reason, I’m letting my DD to mostly sleep in as long as she likes over the hols. She’s been up half the night talking to her friends and I’m just glad she’s having fun and one day slept in till 4pm! (That is a bit extreme and I did go and wake her then). Anyway, not too worried as she’s getting roughly 12 hours sleep, which is good for her. She’s up at the crack of dawn when at school and is brilliant getting up normally so I think she deserves a rest! Enjoy your long lies!

Yanbu, what's his problem 😄

I love and lie in, it's what the christmas holidays are for!

If it was the summer holidays, I'd say you should be making the most of the days though

YANBU
He's being ridiculous. Why get up early if you don't need or want to??
Why force a 16yo to get up if you aren't going anywhere? It's their holiday too.

Wow, how selfish he is expecting you to get up early because he is. I’m up very early these days but remember the joy in a lie in. I’d be calling out my DH for being so selfish even thinking that, let alone voicing it

He’s just jealous, but it’s making him incredibly selfish!

What good does it do him for you to be up as well and miserable as a result? Presumably he gets annual leave at other times of the year, or if self employed can choose to have time off, and then he’s the one who can lie if he wants?

According to my Mum, apparently my Dad once suggested she should get up at the time he had to for work and make him a cup of tea (she was a SAHM, and due to where he chose for us to live, he had to get up much earlier than the rest of us for work).

She bought him a teasmade for his birthday!

I got up at 12 today. I was ill most of December and seem to be needing extra naps. If I’m off I stay in bed as long as possible as I have to get up early during work days.

He's a twat.

Obviously you should be able to decide for yourself, but I'm with your husband here. It is unhealthy to regularly stay in bed most of the day and be up into the small hours, especially in winter when there's so little daylight. I couldn't live with people who stayed in bed until lunchtime often (not at the teen stage yet so will have to deal with that when it comes).

It is unhealthy to regularly stay in bed most of the day and be up into the small hours, especially in winter when there's so little daylight

How does that work?

He's being ridiculous. We've finally reached a point where the kids sleep until 9. I'm bloody sleeping. Sergeant major h thinks everyone should be up and doing shit by 8 am. No thanks.

I can't lie in until that time unless I'm ill, but each to their own. I'm more an early to rise and early to bed sort, some folk aren't.