To want lazy mornings during the holidays

[newyear25]

My DH has just had a go at me about the school holidays. Our DC is 16 and has been staying up later than usual and getting up around midday.
I see absolutely no problem with this and am enjoying the lie ins myself.
But he thinks it's unhealthy and I should get up with him when he starts work (at home).
I just think he's being miserable or AMBU.
I said I think most families are probably the same but he disagrees

I’ve been wfh over Christmas when others at home have been enjoying a lie in. They have emerged by lunchtime after I have had a productive and peaceful morning of work.
As for the dog, I have brought him downstairs and sent him out for a wee and then he’s gone straight back to bed with whoever stays in the longest. You need a lazier dog!

I was going to say I bet he didn’t get up with you when your kids were little and up half the night, we deserve the lie in when they get older!

YANBU.

I've let mine sleep till gone 10am most days, unless we have something planned!
My teen would happily sleep till gone 12pm.

During normal working weeks I'm usually up at 5:15 every day and swim/run/gym for an hour before work. We close for two weeks in the summer and again over Christmas/New Year, and having a lie in is my number 1 luxury! I'm recharging my batteries, and I've flippin deserved it! DH has only had 4 days off, and we unashamedly spent two days together curled up in the warm drinking tea and bingeing garbage on Netflix. Sometimes "time off" needs to be for relaxing and chilling, you don't have to DO things all the time!

YANBU - I’m not a morning person, I can barely grunt before midday let alone hold a conversation. So any chance of a lie in, I’ll take it.

Ive WFH all over Christmas/NY and pretty much got up 10 minutes before I start work, made coffee and logged in wearing my dressing gown. I have found that if I don’t have a schedule (work usually) then my body clock gets more naturally nocturnal. I tend to stay up til the early hours and sleep in til about 10/11.

The only 2 things that get me up early (other than my alarm) are my bladder or my back aching.

Thankfully my dog isn't an early riser! We're both still tucked up now... on a work day he normally surfaces around 9.30
I don't do early mornings, DSC are teens so now they get themselves sorted and off to school in a morning catching bus around 7.30.. I get up around 8-8.30

I've had two and half weeks off...I used some annual leave but I work at a university and we close over Christmas.

I've used the time to recharge. Lots of lie ins and lazy days. I needed it.

You only work a few hours a day during term times even though your child is 16? Maybe your DH is getting resentful. I would be!

Can he drop a day and you increase hours so it's more even?

Thats why people doing night shifts and shift workers have higher risks of certain health problems. Also cortisol production and other hormone / enzyme systems are affect by sleep patterns and daylight.

I’m a natural night owl but being asleep at night and up in the day is much healthier for us.

Unhealthy! It's absolutely delicious lying in bed all morning in the depths of winter, it's 11am and all 4 of my family are still luxuriating in our beds.

I’ve also been enjoying mega lie ins btw. You husband is BU OP

Our household has been the same as yours. DH has been lucky enough to also have the full 2 weeks off though too and none of us are morning people.
I agree with others that your DH is probably a little jealous in reality, but that’s his problem. You are not unreasonable to make the most of the lie-ins.

My teenage told me it was her school holidays so she will sleep in if she wants. I thought fair enough.

Yep holiday lie ins are the norm here. None of us have been up before 9am, often much later. DS 16 is just clomping about now.

I worked from home between Christmas and new year but I still got up with dh and made a drink (I might have taken it back to bed when he went to work!) It does seem a bit wrong to me to be sleeping all morning if the other has to work assuming it never happens the other way around.

Ummmmmmmm I love my bed.
we’re all still in bed now except DH who is an early riser and has gone to the tip 😂!
it’s not unhealthy imo, teens need loads of sleep, though mine (20) was up til 3.30 playing Mariocart with his mates and drinking my amaretto…I can hear them all snoring 😴

@mitogoshigg
It does seem a bit wrong to me to be sleeping all morning if the other has to work
why? just why? what about people who work different shifts/different sleep patterns?
We all need different amounts of rest, I'm not martyring myself for anyone.

I wouldn’t let my kids sleep in past 10am unless they’re ill, or for a really good reason, because I don’t think it’s healthy or a good idea to switch their sleeping patterns. It makes the first week of being back at school really difficult for one reason.
Luckily, my husband has the same attitude so we don’t have disagreements about it.

Hope you can sort it out between you, Op.

@Tophelleborine
Read up on hygge, our bodies need rest in the dark/cold months.
Research has shown our ancestors basically hibernated in the winter to store energy and resources, we should listen to our bodies needs for rest.

I was working 23,24, and 27th in the office. No bugger got up to see me off at 8 am (nor would I expect them to)

So on all his days off over Christmas he was up at his usual work time?

@gingercat02
Me too, only had 25/26/1st off, was not waved off at the door with a packed lunch, lucky gets having a cosy lie!!

I work TTO and me and ds10 wake anywhere between 9 and 10 in the holidays.Dont see a problem.

And ddog sleeps in too!

Hang on, what is his actual beef? That he has to get up and you don't? That's not your problem.

That his teen is in bed all morning? That's not your problem.

That you can lie in on your days off, and presumably he can lie in on his days off?

What does he expect you to do while he works? Sit and keep him company?

If he doesn't like WFH during the holidays then he can go into an office.