Hi girls. I am just looking to get some advice.
So a bit of background I've been single for 4 years,, I have a near 5 year old daughter.
I feel like I'm so picky when it comes to men I wish I wasn't but unfortunately I have a specific type.. like bigger guys with beards/dark hair, funny sense of humour. I know it's not all about looks but I never like someone that hasn't got some of these qualities. But anyway I feel like a bit of a bitch because I started texting this guy, whose 10 years older than me, very skinny /no beard and not my usual type but he's really nice and he's a head chef but works a lot, 6 days a week then on his day off he gets his son overnight and his son is 5.
So I'm not sure this would be good for me as I don't get alot of time either only weekends and he works every single weekend. Without fail. But anyway I just needed to rant cause I feel awful he really likes me, but there has been a few things that makes me wonder a bit, so we have talked about about things and he told me he has a 10 year old daughter who he never sees as the mum doesn't let him since she was 5.. and when I asked why he said it was because he got a new girlfriend and he told me his mum and dad still see the daughter, which I find a bit weird. He's definitly not into drugs/ and rarely drinks etc. then another thing is me and him had a few drinks together the other night and he got a bit drunk and he still has his ex on snap who was viewing his stories yet he claimed to hate her and also there is another girl who he is best friends with on snap and he also went into his call log and there was a lot of phone calls with this girl to. It is still early days and we've only met a couple of times so he can do what he wants but he is clearly meeting someone as me and him haven't even had a phone calls yet lol, I am not sure if I like him, should I just be honest with him and say he's not really for me or should I keep saying him a few more times and see. Him and his ex have always been back and forth aswell they've got back together about 5 times but not sure if they will this time as she cheated and she now has a new boyfriend.
I know I sound really picky but am I bitch? The age thing does bother me a bit as I am 30 and he is 40 and I know that's still okay but I want to be with someone for 3/4 years and would maybe think about having another child and I personally wouldn't want my child to have an older dad, that's personally just me, my ex's mum had a child when she was 44 and when the child was 6 she took really bad health problems and can barely do school runs and could barely look after him
Thanks for listening I was tryna give as many details as possible and I do know I sound like a bitch but am I being unreasonable?