Removing shoes

[Couldntthinkofausername24]

Am I the arsehole for asking people to remove their shoes?

Since we bought our house in 2017 we have never allowed shoes upstairs or in the front room. In the front room we have a huge shaggy rug and the stairs and upstairs are carpeted.

Our front door opens in to the dining room which is wood floor and I had no issue with people being in their with shoes on. Fast forward to now, I have a 1 year old who picks up absolutely anything in sight, the last thing being a piece of dog shite. So now shoes are completely banned in my home and my god has this caused upset amongst folk!

We have ample space to remove and store shoes and a bench to sit down to do so.

I'm not posh or pretentious in any way but is it really such a huge deal to respect our house

Im prepared for a proper mums net roasting also

Yes it's really rude and a bit lower class.

I know! This is my first bit of down time since 23rd Dec....I'm up for a bit of MN heat!

Well it's rude of them to moan, and surely your house can't be the only place they've encountered a no shoes rule, it's hardly uncommon. Hope these people never visit Asia, how would they cope...

How many guests do you have that this is causing such a big issue?! I would also seriously reconsider your friends as it’s not polite to be so vocal it causes upset.

Jeez, you seemed so pleasant at first

And what about mud? Would it be may bother to clean that?

Haha thank you

It's his birthday next week actually

I come from a country where shoes are taken off and I t’s considered extremely rude (and unsanitary) to wear shoes in others homes. I have a shoes off rule in my home in the U.K.

The only people I know with shoes on inside their homes in the U.K. are those with pets and older English people 55+ . Most of my friends have a shoes off rule.

Get some slippers for regular guests and shoe covers off Amazon for the others so they can have a choice.

I am pretty pleasant, yes.

I don't think it's pleasant to make your dad uncomfortable in your home.

Okay Viv

I only allow stranger's shoes on in the house eg delivery driver. Friends and family take them off.

My dm always had awful athletes foot so hates being asked to remove shoes. We tend to take shoes off here but mostly because I like walking round bare foot or in slippers so I never demand it of guests, most offer though. Dm brings slippers as she knows I prefer it but I’m really not strict on it. If someone has a verruca, they can keep shoes on and I won’t question it.

I don't understand it at all but my floors are there to be walked on, and then I clean them as needed. I would never ask someone to remove shoes.

I usually ask/offer if someone has light carpets, not if they have hard floors.

If I'm muddy I remove them anyway.

Thanks.

Love the name 😀

I keep a spare pair of my parents slippers here.
Simples.

Older people are encouraged to wear decent shoes as it reduces falls. I wouldn’t ask an older person to remove shoes. Sounds dramatic but I don’t want them to fall, break a hip and die just because I’m precious about my carpets. I have a carpet shampooer.

@Couldntthinkofausername24 do you provide slippers for your guests if you expect them to remove shoes?

Or Australasia, Polynesia or the Middle East 😂

I have slippers at my daughter's house.

Even "shoes on" people would not wear muddy footwear indoors, their home or yours.

Worry not babs. My dad almost didn't go through with his current wedding 35 years ago, he's used to having cold feet

Exactly.

Ok I laughed at that.

I get cold feet in summer, let alone winter, so I find it really difficult when expected to remove shoes. If I'm expecting it, I usually take slipper socks to put on. There's a lot to be said for having some slipper socks by the front door to offer to guests.

I've never been fussed about people removing shoes unless they are obviously wet/muddy. When mine was little, the pram was probably the worst culprit for bringing muck in.