"All my love" Am I reading too much into this?

[Mickey12]

DH and I have had a rough year and at times our marriage has felt pretty loveless.

It was my birthday over the Christmas period. In my card he wrote

Dear Mickey
Happy birthday
All my love
DH xx

To me this is pretty cold? He rarely tells me he loves me but I'm sure used to write "I love you" in cards.

Does if seem cold to others? Or am I overthinking it?

I always write all my love in my husbands cards

I'd be happy to recieve a blooming card.

Half of posters will say it's cold
Half will say it's full of all his love

Only you know your DH and what's usual for him.

I would be put out by this but only because my DH always writes everyone’s (including mine) cards properly - a personal message, an acknowledgement of the year gone by and an expression of gratitude or pride, and love.

My dad might write this to my mum though and I know my DH is a bit unusual with his cards so I think you are probably overthinking it

I would worry if it was - I quite like you - I imagine you have more things to worry about than a birthday message .............

I think you’re over thinking it.

When is the last time he said I love you?

I’ve never written that in my OH cards, but only because I think it sounds overly soppy! I sometimes write ‘love you’ or ‘lots of love’ but ‘all my love is too much’. It’s definitely not cold.

My DH just writes

Dear CorsicaDreaming

Happy Birthday

Love
His name xx

Literally that's it

But I know he loves me and his "love language" is actions. Tea in bed every morning, that kind of thing -

He is just a bit auto pilot on writing cards... he acknowledges he is, he says he just can't think of much else to say.

I really wouldn't worry about it.

Sorry you've had such a tough year @Mickey12

If you have been going through a rough time maybe it’s the opposite of what you think. He might have felt that was a bit more expressive? Men probably wouldn’t think about this sort of stuff in the same way as women do and I doubt ‘all my love’ is something he would say to anyone else? I would measure it with his behaviour in general. If it seems like he’s trying to make more of a effort in general then I wouldn’t think twice about it.

That message would have been cold from my DH. He always writes loads in cards to me so something that brief - yeah, I would’ve found it cold.

I write this on every card to my DH!