Page 2 | "All my love" Am I reading too much into this?

BallerinaRadio · 31/12/2024 09:18

Do you want a sonata writing extolling all your virtues? It sounds like you have problems but this definitely isn't one of them, pick your battles and give him a break this is fine in a card

Arlanymor · 31/12/2024 09:19

‘All my love’ is my sign off for the people in my life who have all of my love, it’s the biggest expression of feeling for them that it’s possible to have.

NewNameNoelle · 31/12/2024 09:20

My DH uses all my love in my cards. He’s giving me / sending me all his love, it’s warm and loving in our house.

I could never imagine sending ‘all my love’ to a departing work colleague 😆

Cluelesssanta · 31/12/2024 09:22

You are really trying hard to pick fault here. I think it's lovely.

pictoosh · 31/12/2024 09:22

'All my love' is meaningful.

CrotchetyQuaver · 31/12/2024 09:26

There's some weird posters on here!
I'm in the all my love is a really good comment camp.

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Mickey12 · 31/12/2024 09:26

Interesting. Ok. I've got it wrong. He always writes "I love you"/uses my nickname/says something silly - so to me the card seemed cold. I always write "all my love" to family members or friends. But I can see I'm reading too much into it as feel the relationship is in such a bad state anyway. I'll forget the card! Thanks.

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TorroFerney · 31/12/2024 09:27

mynameiscalypso · 31/12/2024 09:05

That's exactly what I wrote in DH's birthday card. I always write 'All my love' to him because it seems more special to me. I wouldn't write it to anyone else.

Snap, for me all my love is above saying love from. But if your marriage is ok it wouldn’t matter I don’t think.

my mum put „from“ in her card to me her daughter and son in law. That’s quite cold isn’t it. No love or kiss and no separate card for her only grandchild.

BarbaraHoward · 31/12/2024 09:27

I don't think it reads cold at all, but I do think it's absolutely crackers to read so much into a brief message in a card from your husband that you live with and have umpteen brief interactions with every single day.

JustMyView13 · 31/12/2024 09:31

I think the problem with modern day society, is that the increase in written communication (online messaging), and that people are reading too much into the words.
I’ve also noticed if someone can be offended or read something in a negative way, they go for that as the default.

The words themselves say ‘all my love’. Take them at face value.

MatildaTheCat · 31/12/2024 09:38

Mickey12 · 31/12/2024 09:26

Interesting. Ok. I've got it wrong. He always writes "I love you"/uses my nickname/says something silly - so to me the card seemed cold. I always write "all my love" to family members or friends. But I can see I'm reading too much into it as feel the relationship is in such a bad state anyway. I'll forget the card! Thanks.

Well you may indeed be correct and he isn’t really feeling it at the moment. So maybe forget about the card and focus on the relationship?

Do you want it to survive and improve? What could help with that?

You don’t need to answer but things to think about.

ThisMellowCat · 31/12/2024 09:40

You’d hate a card from me me then
i write
to DH
love from
me

Samesame47 · 31/12/2024 09:49

I sign all cards to my DH and with all my love, our children get all our love. Very close family get lots of love. All my/our love ranks highest in my book.

CharlotteCollinsneeLucas · 31/12/2024 09:56

DorianMeile · 31/12/2024 09:10

I think it's an attempt at sarcasm.

OP I think 'all my love' is warmer than 'I love you'.

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Or, you know, humour?

Sure there used to be more of that on MN...

Cynic17 · 31/12/2024 10:01

It sounds lovely - not cold at all.

Cannotthinkofausername09876 · 31/12/2024 10:05

ueberlin2030 · 31/12/2024 09:16

'All my love' predates Coldplay.

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I am aware of that, yes.

BIossomtoes · 31/12/2024 10:12

All my love has been written in every card I’ve received from my bloke for 26 years. It’s a lot better than I love you to the moon and back 🤮

Morporkia · 31/12/2024 10:14

"All the best" would have been much worse...

BoundaryGirl3939 · 31/12/2024 10:15

Mickey12 · 31/12/2024 09:02

DH and I have had a rough year and at times our marriage has felt pretty loveless.

It was my birthday over the Christmas period. In my card he wrote

Dear Mickey
Happy birthday
All my love
DH xx

To me this is pretty cold? He rarely tells me he loves me but I'm sure used to write "I love you" in cards.

Does if seem cold to others? Or am I overthinking it?

If you're going through a rough patch, and at times it has been loveless this year, he is just writing how he feels now. It would be fake if he said 'I love you' if there is resentment under the surface. Couples have their ups and downs. Hopefully things will improve between you.

arcticpandas · 31/12/2024 10:16

Mickey12 · 31/12/2024 09:26

Interesting. Ok. I've got it wrong. He always writes "I love you"/uses my nickname/says something silly - so to me the card seemed cold. I always write "all my love" to family members or friends. But I can see I'm reading too much into it as feel the relationship is in such a bad state anyway. I'll forget the card! Thanks.

I would be surprised if a friend wrote all my love tbh. Love yes, but all my Love is for my DH and children... so be happy OP, you got all his Love.

Ladybyrd · 31/12/2024 10:18

No, it's fine.

Balancedcitizen101 · 31/12/2024 10:27

Most people seem to think the message is ok so I don't want to worry you either. Personally me and partner put quite a few lines about the year or about each other, it takes a bit to think of it all to put in each one. So this from either of us would be really cold/low effort but if that is how you do it then fair enough. I'm not having a go. Most people think it's ok so it's probably ok.

luckylavender · 31/12/2024 10:29

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 31/12/2024 09:03

Very cold. "All my love" is worse than "Kind regards". I usually put it on colleagues leaving cards.

Really? That is odd. I find people who sign All my love out of romantic relationships very odd.

luckylavender · 31/12/2024 10:30

NeddieSeagoonsSteamPoweredTelephone · 31/12/2024 09:11

DH is the only person who gets ‘all my love’. Makes sense to me that I love him more than anyone else. Whoever is writing it on leaving cards - stop it. It’s weird.

Exactly

Nothatgingerpirate · 31/12/2024 10:30

My husband of 20 years has been using this phrase ever since.
Marriage with virtually no problems.
Any other trouble in life, OP?
😁