"All my love" Am I reading too much into this?

[Mickey12]

DH and I have had a rough year and at times our marriage has felt pretty loveless.

It was my birthday over the Christmas period. In my card he wrote

Dear Mickey
Happy birthday
All my love
DH xx

To me this is pretty cold? He rarely tells me he loves me but I'm sure used to write "I love you" in cards.

Does if seem cold to others? Or am I overthinking it?

It’s ALL of his love. Which is as much as he could ever give. Really warm.

‘All my love’ seems very nice to me. I would only write that to immediate family as I save it for people I really do love.

You're definitely overthinking it. I always put 'all my love' in my DH's cards. I wouldn't put that to anyone else, except to our son. Mind you, I also know he wouldn't even think twice if I just put 'best wishes' or something like that😆

Cold would be what was written in my card after I had dumped my ex. He just wrote his name, nothing else! The card was blank too so it was just an empty page with his name on!

I've just realised I have the same system, but I've been doing it unconsciously and I didn't realise I HAD a system until your post 🤔😂

I would and have written this to my DH. On what planet is it cold? ‘Best wishes’ would be cold!

Depends what he would normally write in cards to you doesn’t it. Context is everything.

I knew my first marriage was in its terminal phase when my husband wrote 'warmest regards from " in my card.All my love is perfect between couples

I thought you were going to be complaining that he'd written this to someone else. I put this sometimes and one of my DC (age about ten at the time) once asked me after seeing it in their brother's birthday card if their brother was getting ALL my love, was there any left for them.

This. Its short for 'I'm giving....all my love.....to you'. How is that cold

🤔

Gently, if this is how you react to getting a card, it’s no wonder your marriage is having problems.

If you want to salvage this relationship, then you have to stop with this.

For me, if I was DH this would probably be the straw that broke the camels back (hate that saying) but I would be done with the relationship after this.

He got you a card.
That means something.
He could have chosen to not get you one.
Stop looking for problems.

I assume you both want to salvage the relationship.
Have you tried couples therapy?

Sounds fine to me.

When he starts signing off with things like,

Your brother in Christ

that’s when you know to book an appointment with a divorce lawyer.

On the other hand, Your humble and obedient servant - also fine.

Friends - lots of love/love
Family - all my/our love
DH/kids - all my/our love always

I think “all my love” is lovely.

I remember writing that to the boyfriend I was madly in love with when I was younger.

On our first anniversary I received a card from DH with the message on the front

"Best Wishes on Your Anniversary"

😂

For my birthday one month after I had had our baby, my ex signed the card "all the best" and couldn't understand why I laughed.

What??

I reserve 'all my love' for cards to dh or my parents.

You know your DH and we don’t but to my All My Love is warm.

Nothing bad about it

Has he felt the same re the lovelessness? He could be trying to show he cares without being over the top? My partner and I had a very rough patch just before his birthday a few years back and it felt a bit insincere of me to be my usual self in regards to the card etc. I still put I love you but it was a strange time. As for the all my love I'd still take that as a nice sign off.

I saw the thread title and assumed a female ‘friend’ had put this in a card to him and you were worrying. To see that he wrote this to you - his wife - and you think it’s cold just baffles me. It really does.

I think it was sarcasm!

Be glad he didn’t write ‘all the best’.

Or

"Have a lovely weekend".

That's what I type/write to people I hate. It's code for burn in a fiery pit.