AIBU?
You can't make this up. I feel like I've lived a years worth of Eastenders plot threads in the last 3 weeks and I'm slightly losing my mind. I can't believe I'm even asking this question because I know the answer already but I need a check and balance with the rest of the women in the world! Is it unreasonable of me to end the relationship because I caught my BF prolific on sex hook up sites (gay, swinging, all genders). I was in hospital recovering from a cardiac arrest and major surgery to have an ICD fitted and he'd loaned me his ipad to watch some netflix and my daughter was performing. I looked for the link in my search history, and low and behold his phone search history was linked to the iPad and I saw all the sites he'd looked on that day. It was a bit of an eye opener!
I felt instantly unsafe, we'd had conversations about this sought of thing, he was well aware of my boundaries and he'd been explicit in sharing that he would not be into that at all. I obviously didn't confront him at the time because I was going through procedures but when I returned home from hospital and gathered myself, I confronted him about it he claimed it was a 'hobby' that he'd got obsessed over and he was merely messaging the most obscene things to see what reaction he'd get. That he had no intention of 'cheating' and we should work though it because he has strong feelings. I sent a polite message explaining that he'd crossed a boundary and I would not be entertaining that kind of behaviour.
He claims he hasn't lied or cheated and that I'm being unreasonable. He has messaged about how kind and generous he's been, about how he's gotten speeding tickets to get to see me in hospital and about how he's been so devoted looking after me while I've been in hospital. Personally I think he's deflecting from his awful behaviour and trying to make me out to be the bad guy.
I'm curious as to what others think about this. I need a reality check!