So my very good friend since childhood is getting married early next year. A 5 night holiday abroad was arranged in October for the hen party.
I declined the initial invite as 5 nights away from my 2 kids was a bit much really. I said to book without me and I would look to see if I could organise maybe 2 nights for myself.
I researched it and the cost for just the 2 nights was just too much really so I said unfortunately I wouldn't be going at all. All fine and nothing bad was said to me.
Fasrt forward to this weekend when we all had a Christmas get together. Bride to be was drunk and said I can't believe you didn't come to hen party, I would do anything for you and you just didn't bother. Apparently while they were away bride to be had an argument with my other friend as she was slagging me off and friend defended me saying I had good reason not to go. Now friend didn't tell me about this as didn't want to cause drama.
The wedding itself is a 2 hour drive away and child free, me and DH will be staying in a hotel overnight. Plus she is having a night out for a 'home hen' which I am going to. Therefore surely I am not being unreasonable I have missed the abroad hen?!