DP going through phone

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I've just caught him out again!

It's getting to the point I am paranoid to leave my phone in the front room when I go to the toilet. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing on there to hide. But personal stuff like banking and text messages, I don't share with him cause quite frankly it's none of his business.

I got a text message about a bill the other day which i left on my home screen on purpose, when i came back down it was gone off the screen, which means someone has read it, then the day after he started asking how i never have any spare money and what's exactly do i spend my money on. In 12 years he has never paid an interest in what i spend my money on

If i change my passcode he will think I do have something to hide.

Like the OP, my husband and me share the bills, but other than that, our finances are separate. We are very happy together and discuss finances regarding things that effect us both.

Why do you find it strange?

OP if you are both very ‘secretive’ about your banking info after 12 years (which is very unusual after this length of time for most) - saying “don’t look at my phone” is a completely fine statement for you to make (also normal in most relationships I would say).

Him snooping in your phone without your permission isn’t OK. Regardless if a 5 month relationship or 12 years. Ask him why he’s doing it as if this is new behaviour, then why?

MY DH knows all about my finances as do I with his. We do everything jointly as a team. My phone though, wouldn’t dream of him looking through it and nor would I look at his. Never even crossed my mind. We’ve been married 10 years too.

Well quite, or at least that seems to be the consensus when it is the woman who is doing the snooping, because you go girl!