To be fed up with comments on the size of my baby at DH family party

[arabicaqueen]

My 9 week old was 9lb 15 when he was born and has been tracking the 98th centile since so he is a big baby. I think he’s perfect how he is, but I was at my husband’s family Christmas party yesterday and the constant comments about DS size really started to get to me. Especially because his cousin has a baby boy who is 9 months old and is tiny for his age, so the comparisons were endless with how big DS is compared to his cousin’s baby. If it were one or two comments then I get it but it felt like it was all night. Comments like “what must you be feeding him?!”, “you’ll be passing hand me downs to cousin’s baby, not the other way around!”, “how big was he when he was born again 😱”, “just look at them next to each other”. I was trying to move the conversation on and away from babies and their sizes but they kept going back to it and I ended up just hmming to all the comments and looking forward to going home. DH thinks I was over sensitive and that’s just his family (who are big, loud and opinionated), and baby is big so they’re not wrong. But it was really getting to me how they kept on gong on about it, like there was something wrong with my baby.

My baby was the same 9lb 13 . 98 on all the charts they even talked about steroids injections to stop her growth ( dad’s 6ft 10 I’m 6ft) she’s now 6ft 1 and we still get high comments I’m afraid it’s something you’ll have to put up with. She’s 27 now 😁😁

One of mine was over 9lbs when he finally put in an appearance, one week overdue. He had the most delightful chubby cheeks, little wrists that looked like they had bands around as his hands and arms were so chubby and the most smoochiest chubby thighs and feet (almost getting broody just thinking about him as a baby 😂)
roll on 10 years, he’s now super lean, massively into sport etc Once he started moving around he lost all of his roundness and by 3-4 he was really dinky.
All of mine have been fairly big babies, people used to comment about it and I just used to laugh and say I just made them extra gorgeous. I think people were more inclined to comment as I’m pretty petite so they looked even more massive when I was holding them, and people just love to comment on babies.
One of mine at 6 weeks was the same size as a friends 6 month old, he’s as tall as me now at12 and has bigger feet then me, honestly I wouldn’t worry at all, if he wasn’t big people would comment on head shape, eye colour, if they sleep, smile etc. If you head to baby groups you’ll hear it all!

Chill out. It’s just usual family chat.
You have a huge baby, family member has a tiny one. Of course there’ll be comparisons.

My son was 10lb born at 39 weeks (99th centile). My comments were "must have been all the cheese I ate during pregnancy" and then walked away. If you give people ammunition they'll keep going on about it. Politely comment and just walk away. DS is now nearly 4 and just above 75th centile but is generally taller than most of his pre school boy mates. I now get comments asking how old he is because of his size, he is healthy so whatever.

I do not blame you for finding it bloody annoying. It's so annoying when people say the same thing over and over again. My second child did look like a big baby (although weight wise she actually wasn't) but boy did I get sick of comments about her 'big tummy' (funnily enough from friends who had been very upset about comments on their 'big' baby girls. I'm afraid I didn't rise above it and would make snappy comments like "she's absolutely beautiful isn't she?' or 'no she doesn't, she's just like any other baby.' The same when I was pregnant, women in the office would go on about how tiny a colleague's bump was compared to mine. I just made comments to make it clear they were pissing me off. Some people are so utterly thoughtless and inane when ig comes to their comments around pregnancy/babies. If I were you I'd just make it clear they're really annoying you and leg them get the message. Funnily enough though, my first baby was actually an extremely beautiful baby/toddler and it's all people went on about - we literally had friends who would rank whose baby was the prettiest/cutest. Still really annoyed me - just so shallow and inane

They probably think they’re being complementary , I know people who’ve had “oh they’re so tiny” “oh he’s huge” “they’ve never looked like a newborn” “you’ve got all boys and no girls”.

ive heard replies like “yes I only produce boys” “yes only big strapping lads here” basically I’ve seen the mums turn it into a positive / smart Alec reply back. Just work on some positive replies.
I think it’s natural to be defensive over comments to your own baby.

I get it’s annoying, not quite the same but both my DCs were born with a full head of dark hair dc1 had 10 hair cuts by their 1st birthday! The amount of times I heard ooh look at their hair! You must have had horrific heartburn (I didn’t). It got to the point I would just smile and nod. It’s just something people focus on as something to say because it’s unusual.

@arabicaqueen i had the exact same comments and a similar situation with my child and my sister’s child who was much smaller. I have to say it didn’t bother me and I am usually quite sensitive about things.

it’s actually a compliment… chunky babies usually mean all is well (obviously within reason) and it can be hard feeding newborns etc so people can be very sensitive about a baby being low weight

There is nothing wrong with your baby. I do think you’re a bit of a snob though and need to relax. You’re judgemental about size clearly.

My 13 year old son was on the 98th centile too, he’s now 6’2” and has size 13 feet! Hes a gentle giant!

My nieces rolls had rolls, then she started walking. Now she's tall and slim

Don't be annoyed, nod and smile. They mean well x

Oh it’s not an insult OP and you’re being over sensitive. I was a whopping great monstrosity of a baby and turned out to be really small as an adult. Plus, a big baby is healthy and adorable! Laugh along.