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My husband is acting is strangely

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Deppcandouno · 29/12/2024 21:11

My husband is acting in a very depressive manner and is reading bizarre meaning into things like adverts. He is also saying phrases that don’t make any sense like ‘we need to level up like super Mario’ and expecting that what he has said is normal. He keeps disappearing to do household jobs and is gone for an hour but has no recollection of what he has been doing. He has said he is concerned about his mental health and feels he meets the criteria to be sectioned. What do I do? Pl ease help.

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Maurora · 30/12/2024 00:26

Don't bother with 111 or your GP - seek help from the local CRISIS Team to have him assessed - it'll be quicker, it's a tough time of year and also this week is bisected by NYE and NY Day.

They'll have a 24hr number.

Often someone in crisis don't know they need help, especially with psychosis - don't hang about, it may get worse and you'll wish you sought help sooner.

If they suggest having him treated at home with medication because it's cheaper and he may recover quicker, I would suggest having him voluntarily sectioned for a short period. The things poorly people say and do cannot be unseen, as mild as it may be, witnessing the decline in a loved ones mental health can be a difficult path to traverse.

Everyone has mental health...

YesIdolovehim · 30/12/2024 00:28

Maurora · 30/12/2024 00:26

Don't bother with 111 or your GP - seek help from the local CRISIS Team to have him assessed - it'll be quicker, it's a tough time of year and also this week is bisected by NYE and NY Day.

They'll have a 24hr number.

Often someone in crisis don't know they need help, especially with psychosis - don't hang about, it may get worse and you'll wish you sought help sooner.

If they suggest having him treated at home with medication because it's cheaper and he may recover quicker, I would suggest having him voluntarily sectioned for a short period. The things poorly people say and do cannot be unseen, as mild as it may be, witnessing the decline in a loved ones mental health can be a difficult path to traverse.

Everyone has mental health...

Edited

“voluntarily sectioned” doesn’t exist. If you would go into hospital voluntarily then you don’t need to be sectioned

FlowerTink · 30/12/2024 00:30

It won't wait until morning, my H was like this, believed the tv was sending him secret messages through the newsreaders and adverts among many things. It escalated so quickly and he disappeared and ran off because he thought secret agents were after him. The police had to locate him and detain him for his safety, he got sectioned. Please don't wait, call an ambulance immediately

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 30/12/2024 00:35

You CANNOT have your husband wandering around outside.

he has asked you for help.

deal with it !!!

right now you are not keeping him safe...

ByHardyAquaFox · 30/12/2024 00:35

You must act now. This could be one million things and all of them are worrying.
I hope it gets sorted.

Maurora · 30/12/2024 00:36

Being sectioned voluntarily is an option, you can leave at any time, but you're poorly enough to be in hospital. In some cases it's a better choice than being treated at home.

Even when you're in hospital voluntarily, you can't just walk out. You have to be assessed once the medication starts to work and then after a week or so you can have a fob to let you out of the ward and then out of reception for a limited time as you get better...

tolerable · 30/12/2024 00:38

@Deppcandouno with respect Call 111,they will tailor their response to yur husbands needs. its not but convienience.I know its hellish hard,but you are the "rational adult" .

YesIdolovehim · 30/12/2024 00:39

Maurora · 30/12/2024 00:36

Being sectioned voluntarily is an option, you can leave at any time, but you're poorly enough to be in hospital. In some cases it's a better choice than being treated at home.

Even when you're in hospital voluntarily, you can't just walk out. You have to be assessed once the medication starts to work and then after a week or so you can have a fob to let you out of the ward and then out of reception for a limited time as you get better...

Rubbish

BobbyBiscuits · 30/12/2024 00:41

He sounds like he's suffering from psychosis. He can present himself to the mental health team at hospital, but he won't definitely be sectioned.

That would only happen if he was a danger to himself or others or was refusing treatment. He seems to be willing to seek treatment which is good.

If you can afford it I'd strongly recommend going private, purely as the NHS MH treatment and service is inadequate and overstretched to the extreme.

I wish him well. I hope you've got some support as well as it's really difficult for you too I'm sure. X

KhakiOrca · 30/12/2024 00:42

Has this been going on for some time OP or is it something that has just suddenly come on? Because if it’s something that has gradually been happening then I understand your reluctance to wait until the morning. But if this has built up in a day then I would say it’s an emergency.

Maurora · 30/12/2024 00:44

That's a really helpful response for this couple... A voluntary patient to a mental hospital can be prevented from leaving the hospital under a Section 5.

I'm not going to respond to your quotes any further, they're not helpful, or accurate.

YesIdolovehim · 30/12/2024 00:46

BobbyBiscuits · 30/12/2024 00:41

He sounds like he's suffering from psychosis. He can present himself to the mental health team at hospital, but he won't definitely be sectioned.

That would only happen if he was a danger to himself or others or was refusing treatment. He seems to be willing to seek treatment which is good.

If you can afford it I'd strongly recommend going private, purely as the NHS MH treatment and service is inadequate and overstretched to the extreme.

I wish him well. I hope you've got some support as well as it's really difficult for you too I'm sure. X

A lot of people who are a danger to themselves do not even get sectioned these days.
I agree that it is worth going private if you can, although I’m not sure whether private hospitals like the Priory will take seriously mentally ill patients privately. IMO they refer to the NHS crisis team for assessment in those cases.

Sosayallofus · 30/12/2024 00:46

Nobody here - absolutely nobody - can diagnosis him.

It could be physical, it could be mental. But one thing his behaviour is not, is normal or safe. Start phoning people for help, or you may regret it.

Maurora · 30/12/2024 00:46

YesIdolovehim · 30/12/2024 00:39

Rubbish

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That's a really helpful response for this couple... A voluntary patient to a mental hospital can be prevented from leaving the hospital under a Section 5.

I'm not going to respond to your quotes any further, they're not helpful, or accurate.

Apologies, I'm new to this website and didn't realised I hadn't quoted...

ThatKhakiMoose · 30/12/2024 00:46

Deppcandouno · 29/12/2024 23:42

I’ll get straight onto it in the morning. He’s wandering around outside at the moment to no particular end. And yes, you can all exclaim that I should intervene now, but our son is asleep and I can’t drag him to an and e. He has asd and lots of sensory issues.

Can you try to gently get him back indoors and go to bed?

YesIdolovehim · 30/12/2024 00:48

Maurora · 30/12/2024 00:44

That's a really helpful response for this couple... A voluntary patient to a mental hospital can be prevented from leaving the hospital under a Section 5.

I'm not going to respond to your quotes any further, they're not helpful, or accurate.

Edited

Yes, a voluntary patient can be prevented from leaving by being sectioned but they wouldn’t be voluntary if they wanted to leave. That is exactly what happened to me.
Please don’t talk rubbish.

Jaehee · 30/12/2024 00:51

Why are you posting on MN? He needs to see a doctor.

There are all sorts of possibilities besides a MH crisis... encephalitis, silent stroke, brain injury, tumours, seizures to name a few. Your posts don't give any context or say how long this has been going on for.

If this has come on suddenly then you need to go to A&E. He can't be left wandering outside. Your son might struggle but better he struggles for a night than potentially lose his dad.

BobbyBiscuits · 30/12/2024 00:52

@YesIdolovehim Yeah. They don't have enough beds to section anyone unless it's very major.
I was sectioned at one point to an orthopaedic trauma bed in a general hospital (that I was already occupying due to surgery) due to lack of MH beds. They just gave me an RMN 1-1 24 hrs a day. The system is on its knees. It's really sad.

ThatKhakiMoose · 30/12/2024 00:53

If I was ill like this and I was wandering around outside at night and my spouse did not get me the medical help I had asked for, I would NEVER forgive him. OP, you are being incredibly negligent. He is in danger. He could get run over, freeze to death, all sorts. How can you not get him medical help? He must be so frightened. He asked for help and it's not coming. How could you do this to him? He's ILL. And the excuse about not waking your son is a cop-out. Why can't you call 111 and if am ambulance comes, he can go to hospital alone. Which would be horrible too, but at least he would be getting help.

You are denying him medical treatment, OP. This 100 percent counts as abuse.

I can only hope that a neighbour sees him and calls an ambulance, because OP sure isn't going to. 🤬

Maurora · 30/12/2024 00:56

BobbyBiscuits · 30/12/2024 00:52

@YesIdolovehim Yeah. They don't have enough beds to section anyone unless it's very major.
I was sectioned at one point to an orthopaedic trauma bed in a general hospital (that I was already occupying due to surgery) due to lack of MH beds. They just gave me an RMN 1-1 24 hrs a day. The system is on its knees. It's really sad.

It depends where you are in the UK and what part of the NHS you're being cared for. Gloucestershire is pretty good, the GRIP and CRISIS team are really very good. It can be tough to get a bed, but at least the CRISIS team will assess him rather than the GP or 111.

It's more thank likely medication can be prescribed sooner rather than later in that instance.

Everyone's experience is different

YesIdolovehim · 30/12/2024 00:56

BobbyBiscuits · 30/12/2024 00:52

@YesIdolovehim Yeah. They don't have enough beds to section anyone unless it's very major.
I was sectioned at one point to an orthopaedic trauma bed in a general hospital (that I was already occupying due to surgery) due to lack of MH beds. They just gave me an RMN 1-1 24 hrs a day. The system is on its knees. It's really sad.

Yes, the state of NHS MH services is an absolute scandal. I’m so grateful to have the support of a private psychiatrist and therapist and it’s not fair that this level of help isn’t available to everyone who needs it.

Incakewetrust · 30/12/2024 00:57

Ask a friend to come sit with your son and take your DH to A&E

Jaehee · 30/12/2024 00:57

ThatKhakiMoose · 30/12/2024 00:53

If I was ill like this and I was wandering around outside at night and my spouse did not get me the medical help I had asked for, I would NEVER forgive him. OP, you are being incredibly negligent. He is in danger. He could get run over, freeze to death, all sorts. How can you not get him medical help? He must be so frightened. He asked for help and it's not coming. How could you do this to him? He's ILL. And the excuse about not waking your son is a cop-out. Why can't you call 111 and if am ambulance comes, he can go to hospital alone. Which would be horrible too, but at least he would be getting help.

You are denying him medical treatment, OP. This 100 percent counts as abuse.

I can only hope that a neighbour sees him and calls an ambulance, because OP sure isn't going to. 🤬

My thoughts too. It's quite shocking, especially letting him wander off in his condition. Whatever the reason for the symptoms, he's vulnerable and clearly needs medical attention.

YesIdolovehim · 30/12/2024 01:01

I hope the OP hasn’t gone to bed and left her DH outside.

BobbyBiscuits · 30/12/2024 01:01

@YesIdolovehim totally. I'm glad you're getting the help you need. I'm not really in a position right now to go private and the NHS have pretty much turned their backs on me. But I'm still grateful as I'm able to survive. So many others really aren't able to cope.