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Original poster

Final warning?

28 replies

Getonthebus · 27/12/2024 22:50

Today I received another threatening message from my ex, telling me I’m

‘an obstacle in my way. I will move you if I must. Final warning.’

How can I stop this from happening?

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ILikeMySuitcase · 27/12/2024 22:52

Go to the police. You said "another threatening message" so I presume you have further evidence of him making threats? Take those to the police as well.

username299 · 27/12/2024 22:57

Was your relationship abusive?
Why are you still in contact with him? If you have children, is there a court order?

Endofyear · 27/12/2024 22:57

Have you spoken to the police about his threatening messages?

LoremIpsumCici · 27/12/2024 22:59

I agree go to police. I would also try and get into a shelter or stay with friends. I wouldn’t want him to know where you were.

category12 · 27/12/2024 23:00

Police.

Solicitor. Non-molestation order?

DurinsBane · 27/12/2024 23:01

Do you have kids with him? If not, block everywhere.

Jeschara · 27/12/2024 23:02

Police, do not let the vile pig get away with this. He sounds a abusive bully.

Hankunamatata · 27/12/2024 23:02

category12 · 27/12/2024 23:00

Police.

Solicitor. Non-molestation order?

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HoundsOfHelfire · 27/12/2024 23:03

Call the police non emergency line now. If he makes an appearance in person call 999. He has threatened you, please take it seriously.

RandomMess · 27/12/2024 23:04

Rights of Women can help you apply for non-molestation order.

HoundsOfHelfire · 27/12/2024 23:04

Can you decamp to a friends house for a few days while the police take action

Candy24 · 27/12/2024 23:08

Police and don't pass go. Seriously that is a very firm threat. Also I would go somewhere he doesnt know. That is very concerning.

MadnessIsMyMiddleName · 27/12/2024 23:13

I'd actually go as far driving to your nearest police station NOW! This sounds really frightening OP, is he known for violence?

Do you know why he sees you as an obstacle in his way OP? Is it because he's not allowed to see his kids, or is something else going on?

SauvignonBlonk · 27/12/2024 23:15

I’d go stay somewhere else right now if that’s possible. Speak to the Police - they’ll refer you to e.g. women’s aid who will give you advice and help you get a non molestation order.

ShortyShorts · 27/12/2024 23:16

Do you mean other than reporting him to the police?

ThisOldThang · 27/12/2024 23:26

Block him/her?

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Original poster
Getonthebus · 28/12/2024 08:06

I’m in touch with women’s aid. We’re away for Christmas holidays. I do not want to go back

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Original poster
Getonthebus · 28/12/2024 08:08

I do, otherwise I would have long ago

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Sortumn · 28/12/2024 08:09

The text is scary and telling you you're deranged is straight from the playbook of a controlling man. He sounds like he's becoming dangerous.
Please go to the police.

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Original poster
Getonthebus · 28/12/2024 08:12

Yes it was, yes we do and no court order. Yet

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fuzzychic · 28/12/2024 08:13

HoundsOfHelfire · 27/12/2024 23:03

Call the police non emergency line now. If he makes an appearance in person call 999. He has threatened you, please take it seriously.

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Original poster
Getonthebus · 28/12/2024 08:15

I assume it was because I didn’t immediately get back to him when he messaged about our child. Which was because I was seeing to our child.

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category12 · 28/12/2024 08:24

If you hit "quote" when replying to people, it's easier to follow what you're responding to.