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Panto in an hour, guess what my husband is doing ?

144 replies

haretodaygonelater · 26/12/2024 12:19

Pulling up the patio as the slabs are uneven! I mean yeah it needs done, but today!!

OP posts:
Bodeganights · 27/12/2024 22:37

berightorbehappy · 27/12/2024 22:03

On the we moved house my husband decided a picture needed re-framing and disappeared for 3 hours.

On the day we moved house DP decided the windows in the new house needed cleaning. Right there and then while movers are bringing in box after box and just dumping them anywhere.
Generally he is better than that. However he has form for being late for his family. I just hang around waiting, it's his family, I dont care if we're late. I do always get in first though with the reasons. If he ever blames me I do the "huh, why are you blaming me! I was waiting by the front door ready when you decided a shower/kitchen clean/loose slabs/garage door/Hoover entire house/whatever was more important than being on time"

SwordToFlamethrower · 27/12/2024 23:13

Oh no he isn't!

Nikkigriffin · 28/12/2024 02:56

BOOOOOOOOOOOO!!😆😆

Soonenough · 28/12/2024 03:15

My uncle would be very helpful getting 4 kids ready to go out , socks,shoes, nappy bag . Kids in car.Standing in the hall coat on and turns around to see my aunt starting to give one child a haircut .

TinnyTones · 28/12/2024 04:33

Reminds me of the time we had a 3 hour drive to get to a get together and were already 15 minutes late to leave. DH starts gardening and then says he needs a shower Angry We were an hour late.

Wouldprefertobereading · 28/12/2024 09:17

Itsaswelltime · 26/12/2024 12:35

If you get time, read the short story, The Way Up To Heaven (widely available to read online).

Just read it, evil little story.. loved it, thank you.

JustAnotherDadOf2 · 28/12/2024 18:02

We have a different set of priorities to you . Time also manifests itself differently in the male brain. Men don't talk about their feelings because women need someone to listen to them. The 45minute pooh is an avoidance device to allow you time to get ready while avoiding the minefield questions like 'does my bum look big in this?' etc. thus avoiding a falling out en-route. The last minute job just before leaving the house is designed as a distraction device to give you something to obsess about other than the imminent social interaction you've been looking forward to/dreading.

Bodeganights · 28/12/2024 18:23

JustAnotherDadOf2 · 28/12/2024 18:02

We have a different set of priorities to you . Time also manifests itself differently in the male brain. Men don't talk about their feelings because women need someone to listen to them. The 45minute pooh is an avoidance device to allow you time to get ready while avoiding the minefield questions like 'does my bum look big in this?' etc. thus avoiding a falling out en-route. The last minute job just before leaving the house is designed as a distraction device to give you something to obsess about other than the imminent social interaction you've been looking forward to/dreading.

Crock of shite.

Why is my partner late to every event in his family, even his own childs wedding? It's not me, I dont give two hoots if we are late (for his family) I've never fallen out with him for such things. I've never asked anyone if my bum looks big in this, one, it is large, no point trying to hide it and two, I give no shits if my bum looks big. I certainly dont obsess over if we will be late or how I look or how he looks. I do dread some events, but if we asked my partner he wouldnt know because why tell him, it's my issue, I'll deal with it.

In short it's not a distraction for us, it's a delaying tactic for you. Your the one dreading the event, you are bothered if your bum looks big, you just dont dare to ask.

FestiveFruitloop · 28/12/2024 18:31

JustAnotherDadOf2 · 28/12/2024 18:02

We have a different set of priorities to you . Time also manifests itself differently in the male brain. Men don't talk about their feelings because women need someone to listen to them. The 45minute pooh is an avoidance device to allow you time to get ready while avoiding the minefield questions like 'does my bum look big in this?' etc. thus avoiding a falling out en-route. The last minute job just before leaving the house is designed as a distraction device to give you something to obsess about other than the imminent social interaction you've been looking forward to/dreading.

I pity your partner if you have one. So much casual misogyny here.

BlodynYGog · 29/12/2024 09:05

Xycyc

Nannylovesshopping · 29/12/2024 12:23

Wouldprefertobereading · 28/12/2024 09:17

Just read it, evil little story.. loved it, thank you.

Me too, thanks for the heads-up 😀

Gingernan · 29/12/2024 18:19

I love a panto!
I never required him to go to a panto, but my late husband excelled himself by tearing all the wallpaper off in the dining room, we and 4 of my friends( his friends too?) Were having a dinner party at the time.He had the urge to redecorate, there and then.

Teenagehorrorbag · 29/12/2024 21:16

How can some of you hate pantos? We've been taking our two (now mid teens) since small - along with three godparents and their children/parents etc. We go to the local town theatre group so technically amateurs but amazingly talented and brilliant! £15 a ticket instead of 4 times that for 'professional' ones.

Just back from Sleeping Beauty - 11 of us, followed by a buffet lunch here and a few proseccos. (Oh yes we did)! What's not to like?????

confusednana · 29/12/2024 21:17

IKnowAristotle · 26/12/2024 12:23

Tell him to leave the patio alone otherwise he won't have time to do a 35 minute poo.

im not gonna lie... i actually thought this was what the OP was referring too.. why do men need to go to the toilet 5 minutes before they are due to be anywhere?

chaosmaker · 30/12/2024 00:15

Teenagehorrorbag · 29/12/2024 21:16

How can some of you hate pantos? We've been taking our two (now mid teens) since small - along with three godparents and their children/parents etc. We go to the local town theatre group so technically amateurs but amazingly talented and brilliant! £15 a ticket instead of 4 times that for 'professional' ones.

Just back from Sleeping Beauty - 11 of us, followed by a buffet lunch here and a few proseccos. (Oh yes we did)! What's not to like?????

cheesy awfulness. hate the formulaic annoyance of it. I say that as someone who has professionally toured in one. they are awful.

JustAnotherDadOf2 · 30/12/2024 11:13

FestiveFruitloop · 28/12/2024 18:31

I pity your partner if you have one. So much casual misogyny here.

No misogyny here, my wife is amazing, she keeps me and my two boys in order and everything ticking along nicely, its a full time job. I detect a little irony deficiency in your comment ;-)

DoNotIron · 01/01/2025 13:24

JustAnotherDadOf2 · 30/12/2024 11:13

No misogyny here, my wife is amazing, she keeps me and my two boys in order and everything ticking along nicely, its a full time job. I detect a little irony deficiency in your comment ;-)

So she’s basically your manager. Poor woman. There are better jobs out there.

IWillAlwaysBeinaClubWithYouin1973 · 01/01/2025 17:08

Don't feed the troll ...

JustAnotherDadOf2 · 02/01/2025 14:33

Yep, my manager since 2000, and legally so since 2005 if you're more comfortable reducing long-term successful relationships down to business terminology. Next to our boys she's the most important person in my life, and by far and away the best person I know.

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